Hello everybody. Good evening to all of you.
This is Vineeth Kotham, your coach, your trainer,
motivational speaker and mind coach.
Mind power trainer.
Today, I'm going to talk something not as a mind trainer,
as a life coach.
It's not enough to have only good thoughts, good dreams,
and do something good professionally.
Many times in life, it's difficult to understand the
sacrifice of others, to understand their importance.
But it's necessary.
It's necessary to understand that.
Because many times in life, not only for ourselves, many
things are done for our loved ones.
Look at the lamp. It burns itself and gives light to others.
And even more important, it's said that under the lamp,
there is darkness.
So here you can understand the importance of sacrifice.
I was talking about emotional intelligence in many videos.
Emotional intelligence doesn't mean just understanding your
emotions or expressing them.
Are you able to understand the emotions of the other person?
Because in relationships, no one will express their
emotions to you.
The other person will die, but he won't tell you.
But it's important for you to understand.
Look at this peak.
Are you able to understand the sacrifice of this peak?
Mostly, I never understood this sacrifice.
Because whatever a father does for his children, he always
considers it less.
Even if he spends his life doing it, he leaves the world.
When he leaves the world, he considers his children to be
less.
He doesn't understand it before that.
Before that, he considers it his right to fight with him.
He never tries to understand his emotions or his pain.
Friends, this year I lost my father.
Whenever I needed something, I would never say no.
I would do whatever I could.
When he was not there, I would do whatever I could.
I would always remember him.
It's only been 7-8 months since he passed away.
One day, I needed something.
I told everyone that it's a matter of need.
Anyone can need it.
No one said yes.
That day, I missed my father a lot.
I cried a lot.
Then I understood that I couldn't ask for anything from
anyone.
I understood that I was an orphan.
I understood the sacrifice of my father.
I understood his sacrifice.
A father does everything for his children.
He fights with everyone.
But he never gets the respect he deserves.
That's why people say, until a person doesn't become a
father himself, he can't understand.
Because this is not about understanding or explaining.
It's about feeling.
This is a lack.
No one can fulfill the lack of a father, no one, because
the right with which a child asks his father, he cannot ask
anyone for that right.
That is why the truth is that as long as the father is
alive, all the desires are his, all the market is his, all
the toys of the market are his, because he has to ask for
it.
As soon as the father dies, the child cannot ask for that
right from anyone else.
But it is important for us to understand this sacrifice of
a father, it is important to give importance to it.
Look at this peak, a father is bringing his child home from
the office, there is an umbrella, he is carrying the child
himself.
What will be asked at home?
He will be asked, you are a coward, you are a coward, you
don't even take care of yourself.
And he cannot even explain that he is worried about taking
care of his loved ones.
I have forgotten how to take care of myself.
That is why I request you, my friends, whoever you are,
however old you are, respect your father, understand his
emotions, otherwise you will regret all your life and you
will not be able to do anything, you will keep suffering.
These days, in big families, this has become a tradition,
that the father gives all the property to his children and
the son takes it away from the house.
Remember, I spoke about big families, I was just listening
to the situation of the founders of the Revent Group.
They gave all their property to their son and the son took
it away from the house.
The father's pain was never understood.
Daughters are getting a lot of praise these days.
Once I heard a statement, that if daughters do not go after
marriage and stay at home, then the parents may have more
care.
But this is also a record, that mostly injustice with the
parents begins only after the son's marriage.
And the daughter-in-law plays the most negative role in
this.
I am not saying 100%, but it happens more than enough.
Tears often flow from the mother's eyes, but the father's
tears are deep.
The father tolerates till his last breath.
If you want to understand emotional intelligence, then
learn to read the father's eyes.
You must have seen your mother's tears many times.
But if the father's tears flow, then the matter is not
small, it is very big.
Understand this.
Understand my friends.
I remember, I had to get admission in the 9th class.
I came from a very low position.
There was not enough money for admission.
But the father gave the admission fee to the school teacher.
A father sacrifices the most precious thing for his child.
But we children never understand his pain.
As a life coach, as a trainer, and as a human being, I want
to tell you this.
I will share a small story with you.
Because this is the role of a father.
You must have seen many such roles.
Father's sacrifice.
Husband's sacrifice.
He buys new clothes for his child.
He wears torn clothes.
He buys new shoes for his child.
He buys the same shoes for himself.
In which there is no soul left.
He says, what do you say to buy? It is okay now.
My work will be done.
It is going on.
A father still has a recognition that the child is his.
People say that whatever was made, was made because of the
sacrifice of the father.
This is a big sacrifice for a father, for his elder
brother, for his brothers and sisters.
There is one more bad thing with him, that he never gets
recognition.
No one ever asks him whether he has done anything or not.
He is a farmer from a poor village. His father and mother
are no more.
He has a younger sister. He got married somehow.
He spent his life and everything he had.
The story begins when one day he was working in the fields.
His sister calls him. She lives in the city now.
The city is several hundred kilometers away from his
village.
She calls him and says,
Brother, the security is coming.
You will come for the security, right?
He is so busy with his work day and night. He is dragging
his life.
He says, the security has come, but I am not able to
concentrate.
He says, yes, yes, I will come.
How can I not come?
This is the first security of my sister after marriage.
Till now she was at home. Security was done at home.
But now she has to go far away.
Whatever was happening at home was in front of her.
But now she is married.
People think that a girl is married, so the responsibility
is over.
Now she has to take a sari for her.
She has to take something for her son-in-law.
Then she has to go so far in the city.
She has to come.
He comes and sees his old box.
So whatever he has kept together, he has taken clothes for
his son-in-law, clothes for his guests, he has taken a sari
for his sister. But the money is running low for the rent.
Now even the clothes are running low.
At least he needs Rs. 2000.
He goes to his friend Jigri to ask for it.
Because such people do not even tell their heart's pain to
anyone.
When he tells his heart's pain,
Jigri is ready to give it, but that is also according to
him. He does not have anything special.
Instead of Rs. 2000, he gets Rs. 500.
In the meantime, it is difficult to get a train ticket.
He has gone to his friend's house.
His cycle is standing there.
He says, this cycle is yours.
To get his sister to tie the rakhi, he goes so far away
from the city by cycle.
Before that, his sister says, you will not get the ticket
later, get the ticket cut.
He says, yes, yes, I am getting the ticket cut.
I am going.
But it did not happen.
On the way, his sister's phone rings.
She says, have you caught the train?
He says, yes, I have caught it.
I am coming.
She asks, which train is it?
He says, which train?
He is coming by cycle.
He is in a bad condition.
He is going so far by cycle.
His sister says, ask someone and tell me which train it is,
where it has reached.
It is 8 o'clock in the morning for the Rakshabandhan.
His sister is getting ready, decorating the plate and
waiting.
He has called at that time.
His brother says, whom should I ask? Everyone is sleeping.
He says, everyone is sleeping at 8 o'clock in the morning.
He says, you have taken the AC ticket, right?
That is why everyone is sleeping in the AC, in the cold.
His sister is happy.
Brother, you have taken the AC ticket.
You did a good thing.
It is very hot.
You have taken the AC ticket, right? You have done a good
thing.
She does not know, brother, which AC are you coming in?
It is almost evening.
His sister is worried.
On the way, the phone also switches off.
Then she calls her husband, that brother has not come yet.
Let us find out once.
He says, okay, I will see.
He is in his office.
Till the doorbell rings,
and sister opens the door, brother is standing in front.
Complaint starts.
You took so long.
Your phone is also switched off.
He is still complaining.
He was enjoying the cold air of the AC.
He was sleepy.
He comes inside, sits down and says, the same questions are
being asked again and again.
Brother says,
Gudiya, listening to him,
Gudiya is feeling so good.
Gudiya will not give him water.
Give him a glass of water.
Gudiya brings water.
He drank a full glass.
He says, give him another glass.
You can imagine, friends, he has driven so many kilometers
from so far.
After drinking water, the sister still did not understand
the matter.
She said, I will freshen up a bit.
In the meantime, in excitement, the brother showed her the
son-in-law's clothes and sister's sari.
And the sister is happy.
Because he came from so far, but she is restless about the
fact that the sister should like it, she should be happy.
The sister says, yes, very good, I liked it very much, it
is very beautiful.
The brother goes to the bathroom to freshen up.
In the meantime, the girl's husband enters the bathroom.
He does not know anything.
He asks, did you find out anything about the brother?
The brother says, yes, yes, he has come.
The sister says, very good.
He says, has anyone come to work at home? Plumber.
The sister says, no.
The brother has a cycle.
Whose cycle is it? He says, yes, it must be someone's.
In the meantime, the brother comes out of the bathroom.
He wants to meet the guest.
The guest touches his feet.
He says, no, no, do not touch my feet.
You are elder.
He says, you are elder.
He says, no, no, the one whom I have given a daughter, he
is older than me.
He does not touch his feet.
In the meantime, when the sister goes to the kitchen, he
says, sister, bring the rakhi and tie it.
He remembers that there is a cycle outside.
When the brother had come, he was so tired.
He was not telling the name of the train.
It was so late.
Now he understands the matter.
My brother has come from so far, in so much heat, on a
cycle.
She comes and says, brother, you have come on a cycle.
Brother says, your brother is very close to me.
She says, you should have told me, I would have got a
ticket.
You should have listened to the words.
He says, your brother is still strong.
This brother knows how useful these words are for his
sister.
Because if the elder brother or father says in front of his
children that he is weak, he is not strong, then the
courage of his children is broken.
Sometimes if in the in-laws' house, there is any kind of
aggression against his brother, then she will not be able
to complain to her brother
because the words will echo in his ear that brother said
that I am weak.
I am poor, but I am not weak, I am strong.
Understand the meaning of these words.
How could I ask my younger daughter to get me a ticket?
Why? Brother, you are strong.
I can come on a cycle to get my sister or my daughter to
make a Rakhi.
There is a lot hidden in this one strong word.
I am able to shed tears here.
You must be shedding tears too.
The sister is also crying there, but the brother does not
shed tears.
The elder brothers and fathers have a habit of shedding
tears.
Because they only know that if they shed tears, then their
children and their family will become weak.
With the help of me, no matter how much pain I suffer, if
there are no tears on my face or eyes,
then they remain strong.
Then they fight with their rights.
They show their rights only when they accept them.
My friends, those who are watching this video,
I just want to say this,
that if you do not understand the sacrifice and emotions in
relationships, then these relationships are not a
professional deal.
As a professional trainer, as a corporate trainer,
I have said many times in my videos, I am Vineet Gautam,
motivational speaker, life coach, corporate trainer, mind
coach and author, that the deal of business is not logical,
it is mostly emotional.
Because even there, people who come from these families,
are sitting as professionals.
But still, you can compromise a little there,
but in relationships, in the eyes of the other person,
because the elder brother and father do not let you see
their pain.
They do not let you read.
The tears of the girls, the tears of the mother, the pain
of the mother, everyone talks about it.
The pain of the father, the sacrifice, the sacrifice, is
not understood by the elder brother.
The tears of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, is a
matter of argument.
But in the middle of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law,
the pain of the son and the husband, who are playing both
these roles, the man who is grinding, the pain of that, do
not put so much pressure,
on a husband, on a son, on an elder brother, on a father,
that he should stop living his life. In reality, he has
already stopped living his life, he does not live for
himself.
But do not put so much pressure that he should not turn
away from life.
The day he turns his back, you will miss him.
You will miss him a lot.
But then nothing will happen.
Because the one who is going will have already gone.
That's why, when my father died,
I was in training at Mumbai Mail Onawala.
I was doing advanced mind mastery training.
Sudarshan Sahab was in the training.
One day before, he asked me in the training,
that if you have done something unknowingly towards your
parents,
then remember it.
He used to go for meditation and used to say, remember it.
And say sorry to them.
And what do you want to do special for your parents?
So, I had kept those things there.
Mostly it happens that every parent,
by sacrificing their dreams,
keeps fulfilling their children's dreams.
Every parent does this.
By fulfilling their dreams,
when he goes to the market, he likes one kurta,
he likes one shirt, but
leaving that, because till then the child has kept
something else.
Papa, I want this.
Papa saw in his pocket.
The child had not gone to buy anything.
The child had just gone with him.
Papa had gone to buy a shirt and a kurta for himself.
But he forgot his shirt and kurta.
He got that thing for the child.
Okay, my kurta, my slippers, my shoes,
it's fine.
So, it is the duty of every child, that when you become
worthy,
then fulfill the dreams of your parents.
The dreams, the desires,
which they raised you with,
they fulfilled your dreams.
Before leaving this world,
fulfill their dreams.
If you want to repay the debt of your father,
the debt of your mother's milk,
if you want to repay it,
which is not possible,
but by doing this,
you will definitely be able to reduce it to some extent.
There was a lot in my mind.
One day before, in session, I was saying
that I want to do this, I want to do that.
The next morning,
my father left me and went away.
Don't wait.
Do you know?
He used to do everything for you in 10, 20, 100 rupees.
And you earn 10,000 rupees.
So, you say that my expenses are not being fulfilled,
I am not able to pay 20,000 rupees.
What should I do for him?
Do it every day.
He doesn't want big things.
His small dreams,
had some realization.
The next morning, in meditation,
Sudarshan Sir said,
go into deep meditation,
and invite your Isht,
whom you believe to be your Isht.
I invited them,
and I am telling you honestly,
I invited my Guru,
and he came there.
He was in meditation,
blindfolded,
but I saw him coming to the stage.
Then Sudarshan Sir said,
friends, let me tell you one thing,
this Sudarshan Sir,
coincidentally, this is his Guru's name,
Jagat Guru Swami Sudarshan Acharya.
Sudarshan Sir said,
now ask your Isht,
that what is happening with you right now?
So, what I saw,
a circle of bright light,
and a light emanates from there,
from the light beam,
and the light emanates and goes up, and takes the form of a
subtle body,
and goes far up.
I did not understand at all,
what I saw,
what Gurudev showed me,
but I understood that
this light is the Prana Vayu,
which is emanating from somewhere,
and is going up on a subtle body,
but who is it talking about?
I did not understand,
I was in a bad state,
I was crying,
that something is happening.
When the session was over,
I ran to my room,
the room was on the ground floor of the hotel,
the session was on the first floor,
I came down,
and on the way,
in Maharashtra,
Ganapati is believed to have been there,
there was a big statue of Ganesh Ji,
I fell down there,
I did not know what it was,
I did not have any answer,
I ran to my room,
and saw that
the mobile phone was not allowed to take me to the session,
the mobile phone was in the hotel room,
the switch was off,
or it was on, but it was in the room.
I went to the mobile phone,
and the call was coming,
it was around 9.45,
I had missed the call many times,
and the call was still coming from my sister,
I was getting anxious,
I was getting restless,
I was crying,
I picked up the phone,
my sister said,
did you hear about Papa?
I saw what I saw,
I did not know what it was,
I said, what happened?
Tell me quickly, what happened?
She said, Papa has had a heart attack.
But what I saw,
I thought she was lying, she said,
because I am emotional,
everyone in the family knows,
and I am so far away,
they also know,
maybe my younger sister,
but they know,
she is with her family.
I said, no, tell me the truth,
although she was in Delhi,
far away from her village.
I said, you keep the phone, I will call. I called the
village.
I said, whom should I call? Papa is not well, I can't talk
to him.
Do you know how is the situation with mummy?
I didn't talk to him.
I called the member of the house opposite.
He attended the call.
But he said, yes papa is fine.
I said, let me talk to him.
He didn't let me talk to him. He hung up the phone.
I started feeling restless.
I called him again.
I said, let me talk to him.
He must have said, papa.
Papa talked to me. I was crying like a mad person.
Papa, I am sorry. I am sorry. I am sorry.
Papa, I love you. I love you.
Papa said, I know, I love you.
He said, I know, I know, you love me a lot.
The last words of my papa, when he spoke to me,
I could never talk to him again.
He said, I know, you love me a lot.
I said, I am sorry, papa.
The mistake I made till now.
He said, what are you saying?
What has happened to you today?
What mistake?
There is always a little bit between parents.
There is nothing like that.
He said, I don't know how much you love me.
Even if there is a little bit, but when you go out, you
will come for papa.
You like Gulab Jamun, right?
You like Samosa, right?
You will bring it.
You know that papa likes Gulab Jamun.
He likes Samosa.
Even if you don't like it, you will talk to mummy and say,
give it to papa.
And from the door, how are you feeling?
Papa, I love you, papa.
I love you.
I love you, papa.
My friends,
I beg you, as much as you can, as much as I am, do as much
as you can.
Do it well, my friends.
Because later, those memories will be with you, papa.
How peacefully you used to say, how peacefully,
I love you.
I love you, papa.
I miss you so much, papa.
I miss you so much.
I miss you so much, papa.
I am feeling so much emotional today.
I was emotional before.
Even today, mummy is with me.
I care for her a lot.
As much as I can.
Look, you can't be satisfied.
You can't pay the debt of your parents' kindness.
But at least, do this much, so that you don't regret later.
Be satisfied, that many times, you cross the boundary of
your emotions.
You don't try to understand the pain of the other person,
his helplessness. All I want to say is, in Emotional
Intelligence, if I have taught you anything, then I have
taught you, that if you want to understand the emotions of
the other person, then try
to keep yourself in his place. Try to think from his
perspective.
In his limited resources, how he is surviving, when you, as
a son, as a wife, for your husband, as a younger sister,
instead of your brother, when you try to keep yourself,
then you will understand, how much pain he is going through.
How much pain he is going through.
Day by day, his eyes are closing, his face is becoming
gloomy, despite everything being good.
Why? We, brother and sister, fight among ourselves. He said
this to me, he said that to me.
You fight on my behalf.
If we cannot fight, then what do we say to him?
Sometimes, that you are on my behalf, and you are not
fighting for me, with your brother.
How will he fight?
Just like you are a part of his heart, he is also a part of
his heart.
He is also a part of his heart.
You will only be able to understand his emotions and pain,
when you keep yourself in his place.
If you do not keep yourself in his place, then you will not
be able to understand his pain.
And it is better to understand, because if you do this
today, then your children will also learn from you.
They say, whatever you do, it will come back to you.
Money will come back to you.
No matter how rich you are, the owner of a property worth
thousands of crores, the founder chairman of Raven Group,
is there a shortage of money? But the son has thrown you
out of the house, homeless, the man is lying on the road
today.
What will you do with that money, when the family is not
with you? His son, his daughter-in-law, his grandchildren
are not with him.
My friends, if you are in your parent's...
See, I have told you clearly in Emotional Intelligence that
when there is disagreement, especially when there is
disagreement if you are not able to reach a decision with
your father then I have said in Emotional Intelligence that
in the situation of
disagreement you have to face yourself
If your father is in front of you with whom there is
disagreement there is a dispute on something there is a
difference of opinion then before saying anything before
taking any decision
I request you that you keep yourself in their place
My friends, keep yourself in their place then open your
mouth or do something without thinking in that way never do
anything your whole life will be reduced by regretting but
nothing will happen and this is also a clear thing that
whatever you did, will
come back to you will come back to you
If I talk about Emotional Intelligence In family, this
becomes very important because in the office atmosphere
whether you are a junior, colleague or senior they show
their emotions they show their anger immediately but in
family, the other person is
not able to show his emotions he is not able to show his
anger he is so helpless that he is not able to do anything
even if he wants to he is not able to do anything
Friends, do you know that the person you love the most he
gives you the same amount of pain because of your love
because he considers it his right only the right your
parents' love made you stubborn made you stubborn you don't
understand their emotions
you don't understand their pain you keep giving them pain
after pain you keep giving them this is not a good thing
In my Emotional Intelligence Session if some of you learn
this that whenever there is a difference in thoughts don't
panic don't get excited control yourself and with a calm
mind instead of your father instead of your mother instead
of your sister instead
of your younger brother, elder brother whatever
relationship you are having with whomever you are having a
problem instead of that keep yourself from his point of
view think about it when you keep yourself from his point
of view then you will be able
to think like him think about it if you were a father and
there is a conflict between two sons and you want your
father to fight with the other son and if he doesn't fight
you call him good or bad before that keep yourself from his
point of view that
you are a father and your two sons are fighting both are
his pieces good or bad whatever they are both are his
pieces he is remembering his childhood what should I tell
him how he was brought up what was his situation his
mother's sacrifice that she kept
him in her womb for 9 months made him sleep on dry land
slept on wet land but in this dry and wet environment no
one understood the sacrifice of a father no one understood
the pain of a father and one more thing when you fight with
each other and you
consider the other person responsible for each other
then along with that if your uncle and uncle do something
and fight then that helpless father is not able to say
anything to whom should he say his brothers are fighting
and his sons are fighting among themselves that is called
good or bad
slowly slowly slowly he gives his life at least have this
much faith that when such a situation arises then he should
be able to say to you he should be able to say that son
your uncle is fighting with me like this your uncle is
fighting like this he
should consider you as his strong support that I am not
alone
I have two sons at least have this much faith keep this in
mind if you lose this much faith then it will not be a good
thing for the relationship
I am saying that when you become a father you will have you
will regret a lot but then you will not be able to do
anything then you will not be able to do anything that is
why
if you really want to use emotional intelligence
I have already said that I have already taught this content
you must have also read it but now I don't have the mood to
read it if you don't implement it then there is no point in
reading it your life is like it is now the way you behave
with your parents,
family, friends, neighbors, office even today even after
taking this training session if you are doing the same then
there is no point in giving me this training session if
there is no change you have not decided that I have to
change you are not changing
if you don't implement this knowledge
So, if you have not made any change in yourself, or I am
not saying, it is possible that you have kept it in your
mind, but you have not made any change in yourself, you are
still doing what you have been doing till now.
So, this knowledge, this learning has no meaning.
It has no meaning, my friends.
It has no meaning.
Don't learn.
What will you do by learning, by becoming a Gyani?
When you don't want to use anything in your personal life,
you don't want to take it, then there is no use of learning.
There is no use of learning.
If you are learning, then bring it into your life.
Use it.
Then only something is possible.
So, I am talking about the emotional intelligence.
And, today I have talked about the sacrifice of elder
brother, husband and father.
Everyone talks about the sacrifice of a girl, a woman and a
mother.
Even though they shed their pain and show their tears.
But the father never shows his tears.
I am saying that it is very difficult to understand his
pain.
If any one of you can understand the pain of your father,
then I will consider myself as a good trainer.
I have taught someone something.
Understand the pain of your father.
A father is poor, rich.
It has no meaning.
When a man is a child, he has responsibilities.
When he grows up, he has responsibilities for his younger
brother and sister.
When he grows up, he has responsibilities for his wife.
When he grows up, he has responsibilities for his parents.
He has no time to listen to his desires.
When he retires, when he is 60 plus,
Everyone is busy with their own family.
Then, he is getting a pension.
He is busy fulfilling his desires.
Even then, people raise questions.
Daughters-in-law come to him and say that he is fulfilling
his dreams at this age.
You are not able to fulfill your dreams.
He is fulfilling his own dreams.
Even then, he is in pain.
I have said earlier that the dreams that he has fulfilled,
He has fulfilled your dreams.
Today, remember those dreams of his.
And try to fulfill them as much as you can.
Try to fulfill them as much as you can.
And never wait for something to happen.
Because if you wait for something to happen,
When will you be able to get out of it?
You will keep on waiting for this and that.
I had a dream.
I told you that the day my father passed away,
I had told him in the session that I had a dream.
That like every parent,
I would sacrifice my dreams and fulfill my children's
dreams.
I had a dream that all my brothers, sisters and fathers,
In one car,
Everyone has their own car.
5-6 cars go to the village together.
But this dream could not be fulfilled.
The next day morning,
That is why I am telling you,
I have my emotions, that is why I am sharing.
When you think about it,
When you talk to yourself,
You will be able to see your emotions.
If as a human being,
You are not emotional like a human being,
You are not able to understand your family's emotions,
Then what is the meaning of being a human being?
What is the meaning of being a human being?
Friends, you will never be able to forgive yourself.
No matter how much anger you have inside you,
No matter how much you are angry,
But before you say anything against your father or mother,
Have control over yourself once,
Think about yourself in their place,
Then say something.
Without thinking from this angle,
Do not speak.
You will never be able to forgive yourself.
Note this.
You will never be able to forgive yourself.
And the time that will pass,
Will not come back.
There are many people,
Who do everything,
And do not even feel.
They do not even think from that angle.
Then why be a human being?
This is like an animal.
Animals also have feelings and emotions.
Then what is the meaning of learning and developing this
emotional skill,
Emotional intelligence?
For those who understand the family's emotions, It will be
very easy for them to understand the professional emotions.
Why?
Because emotions are not shown in the family,
Whereas emotions are shown in the professional life.
You will judge easily,
You will utilize,
And you will be successful.
So,
I want to say,
I want you to try to understand your family's emotions,
In a better way.
And try to prove yourself a good son, a good brother, a
good husband, a good friend, a good neighbor.
You will say that I should do it.
I am saying this for everyone.
I am saying this for parents also that a good father, a
good mother.
But a good father, a good mother is there.
They think it is their duty.
But you only think it is your right.
You only talk about your right.
You don't do your duty.
If I talk about right and duty.
The right of a father is your duty.
And his duty is your right.
I am saying this to both of you.
That you talk about your right.
But don't forget your duty.
Don't forget your duty.
But I am saying it one step ahead.
If you feel that your father, your mother is not giving you
the right that you want.
So before saying anything, You should keep yourself in
their place.
And think with peace and tranquility.
If you were in their place.
If you were their son.
If you have a problem with your brother.
If you have a problem with your sister.
If they are in such a situation.
If they are helpless from all sides.
You can see that I will do this and that.
They don't want to see anything.
They have done what they wanted to do.
Their sources have become limited.
Understand the situation of that helpless father.
This emotional intelligence.
Emotional quotient.
Empathy.
If you understand the emotions of your family in real.
Then you will not be beaten anywhere.
You will be good professionally.
You will be good socially.
If you understand the emotions of your family.
Then you will be able to understand and manage the emotions
in the office.
And you will be able to use it in a productive way.
You will not be destructive.
You use it only in the office.
Not in the family.
With the help of the emotional intelligence of the office.
You can understand the office.
Not the home.
But if you understand the home.
Then you will also understand the office.
So start with the family.
Start with your relatives, friends, neighbors.
Start with the society.
Then move ahead.
Everything will be fine.
If you tolerate some things.
Nothing will go wrong.
Life is going to be good.
Nothing is going to go wrong.
That is why I would just like to say you.
Respect the relations.
Learn to respect.
Because what you do is what is going to happen to you.
Your life, your society, your image is going to be the same.
That is why start it from your family.
Use it.
Get the benefit.
You will be successful everywhere.
You will definitely be.
No one will be able to stop you.
The person who understood the pain of his parents in his
family.
Did the action according to them.
All the resources, limited resources.
You don't lose anything in respecting them.
And if you can't do it.
Then no matter how educated you are.
You can't be successful.
Can't be.
The one who can't understand the emotions of the family.
He can't understand the emotions of professional life.
You are listening to me.
Think about it carefully.
Do an assessment.
Do an introspect.
You will understand this truth on your own.
You will understand.
I am saying this after my experience.
More than 20 years of experience.
I am saying this after my experience.
In my life, I have also been slapped a lot.
This life has taught me a lot.
All the knowledge is not in these videos or books.
A lot of real knowledge is taught by life.
And I am sharing with you the real knowledge of life.
Real.
Practical.
Which is coming out of here.
Straight from here.
These tears.
I am not acting.
They were coming out naturally.
Understand these emotions.
If you understand.
Then implement it accordingly.
Keeping yourself cool and in control.
Relationships with family are better.
Everything is better.
Parents will be blessed.
Their heart will be happy.
It is said that in a house.
The high corners of the house.
Or the walls of the building are not shiny.
If the elders of the house.
The faces of the old parents are smiling.
Then the house is happy.
And if the atmosphere of the house is happy.
Then wherever you are going.
You are going to be happy.
The building is shining.
The doors are high.
But the faces of the parents are down.
Means the atmosphere of the house is not happy.
Then note it.
Temporarily you are seeing happiness.
But that happiness is not going to be permanent with you.
That success is not going to be permanent with you.
If you want permanent success.
Then it will start from home.
Otherwise it will not happen.
Now you have to decide.
How do you want to take action.
That's up to you.
I will not say anything more.
That sounds interesting.
Count me in.
I'll make sure to spread the word to all my friends.