Hello everybody, good evening to all of you. This is
Srinidh Gautam, your coach, your trainer.
And today, today I am going to talk about the same topic
about which I am talking since last some time, the
emotional intelligence.
I will talk in detail about this a lot. But the question
is, just you are listening to me, maybe you will be
learning also after listening.
As I have already told many times, the listening is the
first step of learning. Just learning is also not enough.
Are you using this, executing, implementing this or not in
your daily life? In your personal life, in your
professional life, till you are not going to use it, it's
not going to benefit you. Be sure about that.
Be sure, till you are not going to use it, you are not
going to take any benefit from it.
In your success, monetary, in your relationship, as a sales
and marketing professional or professionals, I would like
to say,
What is your motto?
Can you just say from your side, if you are just learning
but not executing, then how can you get the benefit? How
can? Till you are not going to execute your knowledge,
wherever you are working or wherever you are in need to use
exactly.
Till you are not going to use it, you are not going to get
the benefit.
About training, just training, no. You can say, I am an
implementation trainer.
Implementation, you are in need to implement the thing
whatever you like to.
If you want to get the benefit, can be, as a success I am
saying, that can be in your profile.
If you are a business personality, you will get the more
better contract, more better deal.
If you are doing job, you will get the increment, you will
get the promotion.
If you are the family person, you are getting the better
bonding in your relationship, in your family, in your
relationship.
With your neighbor, with your friends.
But when?
I am damn sure that you will be learning.
I am doing in my videos.
I don't think anyone gives time like this.
Because my motto is to explain things verbally.
That is not enough I think.
Because you can read those things anywhere in the book.
But that is exactly not enough.
Not enough.
So what else exactly required?
What is needed is the execution part.
I said the importance of gratitude.
I explained the importance of gratitude.
But the question is, until you don't execute it, don't use
it practically, don't implement it, until you execute it,
you are not going to get any benefit from this gratitude.
You are not going to get any benefit.
And I have already talked many times about the importance
of this thing.
Let me give you a small practical example.
Let's say you apply for a visa, passport.
You get an enquiry at your home.
Going to get married.
Sorry, thank you.
If you are trying, then you can do.
Now what is going to be the benefit of this?
You do this.
If there is an enquiry about you from behind, even if there
are kids in the neighborhood, they say, oh brother, they
are very good. They are very good.
They talk to us very lovingly.
They even get us small toffee chocolates.
Are you going to become weak by giving toffee chocolates to
kids?
You can't afford that for 10, 20, 50, 100 rupees.
The neighbor's aunt says, yes, he is a very good boy.
Whenever he meets, he doesn't leave without saying hello.
He is very cooperative.
He does what he is told.
The uncle says, oh, very nice boy.
I don't know about today's boys.
They see the uncle coming from there, they turn their face
and leave.
He is not like that.
He is a very good, cultured kid.
You are getting all these things.
In the form of appreciation, for what?
Only for gratitude.
For gratitude.
So do it.
Your visa is getting cleared.
Your passport will be cleared.
You are going to get married.
When you go for job interviews, your attitude is being
inquired.
Even then, it is done.
For a good job, when you are at the bus station, or at the
airport, or get off the bus, this inquiry is started.
Entering through the gate, how you are behaving with the
guards, how you are behaving with the PN, how you are
behaving with the junior staff, what kind of attitude you
are showing, all these things are being done.
When you know that all these things are being done, then
why don't you use your gratitude? The skill of gratitude,
of course that is a skill.
It is a very soft skill.
It is a soft skill.
You have to say Ram Ram.
And what is the use of saying Ram Ram?
You have to give a smile.
There is no money in Hassan.
Smiling is no cost.
It is so much valuable, but you don't have to pay even a
single penny for that.
You don't have to pay anything for greetings.
But it has so many benefits.
So, why don't you use it?
If your attitude has been such till now, that you have to
be serious, generally you don't have to talk to anyone, you
don't have to pass a smile, so, it's better for you, start
changing from today onwards.
Good morning to all of you.
You can say that if you behave like this, your team doesn't
take your seriousness, your boss attitude seriously.
You should be a boss at work.
And it is important to be a boss.
Why can't you be a senior colleague? Why can't you be a
senior colleague with them? Is it necessary to be a boss?
The system of boss cabin is changing the culture of today.
Today, GM and CEO are also made to sit outside.
By putting a small cabin open.
So that everyone has an eye on you and you have an eye on
everyone.
What are you doing?
And there is nothing wrong in this.
It is important for you to remain sincere.
Otherwise, you are being attacked by a more serious sword.
Yes.
You can ask a junior level colleague.
But senior level is asked to resign.
You will say that we have an agreement of three months.
You will get your salary.
But what about the image?
You know that you are here for three months and you can't
even join.
And you won't even be allowed to come here.
Six months, three months, it may be.
But it is a question of the image.
What will you answer to yourself?
Why were you made to resign?
So, I feel that we are in need to execute these small
things.
And be sure, we are going to get the miracle benefit.
The importance of the gratitude.
Why am I telling gratitude?
Because that is also a part of the emotional intelligence.
And that can be very very crucial.
Not only for the sales marketing or HR professional.
But for overall professionals.
Whether you are a CA or CFO.
Whether you are a manager, GM, CEO, president, director.
Whoever you are.
Whether you are a political leader.
Whether you are a husband, wife, parents, children.
It is necessary for everybody.
Wherever you are interested to get some betterment.
Wherever you are expecting something better.
What does better mean?
Better than what is happening till now.
So, there is a lot of importance of gratitude for these
things.
Am I saying something wrong?
That a smiling, cheerful person.
Everybody wants to be friends with him.
When he is tense.
So, he wants to talk to him.
Because there is something in his mind.
And when he talks to him, his mood is fresh.
Am I saying something wrong?
So, his circle is not getting bigger.
I am not saying that you become a comedian.
But being a comedian in life.
It is very important for personal life.
If you keep your life partner happy by being a comedian.
It is very important.
I am not saying that you become a comedian.
When you need to be light.
So, be light.
I was giving an example.
What is the importance of this gratitude?
Gratitude is one topic.
But what I am talking about is a very crucial part of the
emotional intelligence.
If it is a professional topic.
Emotional quotient or emotional intelligence.
Which is really bombarding.
Most useful topic.
Skill.
I am not talking about topic.
Skill.
For everybody.
For everyone, whoever is intending to be more successful.
Whoever is intending to be more successful.
Whether it is personal life, social life or professional
life.
Then, this emotional intelligence skill is very very
important.
And one part of it is gratitude.
What is gratitude? To give a smile, to say good bye, to say
sorry, to say thank you.
These things.
Which are necessary for daily life.
A person feels alive.
And when a person feels alive.
He makes the atmosphere alive.
The wire which has current.
Wherever the wire touches, it will give current.
Current will be supplied.
When I am talking about life, I am talking about that
current.
If a smart person comes in front of you.
Take it easy.
When you see him, you get the current.
Don't you?
If suddenly someone comes in the office.
Everyone gets ready.
Or if someone is there.
I am talking about both.
Girls get ready.
If boys are there, boys get ready.
If girls are there, boys get ready.
I will give you two examples of this emotional intelligence.
You will get light notes.
But it is very useful.
I am talking about my class, my session.
I used to take a professional session.
In which there were around 20-25 professionals.
Manager, engineers, accountant, managers, account manager,
lawyers.
Like this.
All were professionals.
Evening session used to take place.
Everyone used to come from office tired.
They used to sweat.
They used to come from everywhere.
One day, in that batch, from some other batch, a girl came
and sat.
For that particular day.
She was a smart girl.
And newly married.
So she used to wear make up and jewelry.
She looked smart.
So she came in the class for that day.
Now that day, the class was the same as the other day.
Everyone used to come from office tired.
Even the clothes were sweating.
Something like that.
It was nothing new.
And it was not something to mind.
Everyone used to come from office.
But the change I saw,
I saw in the next day's class.
Next day, in the same class,
when I entered,
I could smell this fragrance.
I turned around and checked.
I was in the same class.
The class changed.
Everybody was looking up.
Absolutely fresh.
I am using the word everybody, like they are not coming
from home, I mean not from office, they are coming from
home or maybe they are coming from salon.
I kept looking at everyone.
But I am a communication coach, personality development
trainer.
I said it's a good thing.
Our people are changing.
So that's good.
But I started the session but I kept noting that everyone's
eyes are on the door.
Everyone is looking at the door again and again.
I didn't understand anything in the real but I did note
this.
I have such discipline in the class that no one can dare to
ask the question like that.
Like this.
I am talking about the question.
Not like that.
Like that everybody is free to ask the topic related
question.
Second day also the same atmosphere was there.
Very fresh.
Third day also the same atmosphere was there.
Very fresh.
But everyone's eyes were still on the door.
You must have understood.
You are also professionals.
What was it?
But no one was asking anything to me.
Exactly, one of the senior engineer was a little open with
me.
Then they must have discussed among themselves.
That you ask sir.
So after the class, he came to my cabin.
Sir, do you want to ask something? I said yes.
So he put some queries and asked.
And after that he asked that question.
What? Sir, three days ago there was a new admission in our
class. I said who is the new admission? He said a girl had
come, the newly married one.
I said no, no, no.
She was not the new admission.
She is of the second batch.
That day she had some work.
So for that particular day she had come in this batch.
She is not new, she just came in the second batch.
But that batch was in her office time, day time.
So then I understood that the change which I did not see in
the last month or so, that only one day a smart girl is
getting entry for one and a half hour session. And next day
everything is changed.
What was there?
She was smart, appealing.
Of course she was smart and appealing.
Good voice, good smile.
All these things changed everything.
The same thing I am talking to you.
If you are doing, See, you will say that she did not say
anything to anyone.
First impression is the last impression.
And that is going to be assessed in first four seconds
whenever anybody new is meeting to you or you are meeting
to a new person.
Your impression is already made.
And in the first four seconds, the verbal communication has
not even started yet.
So now the question is, how is the first impression made?
First impression is made on the basis of non-verbal
communication.
NVC In which your body language, your dress sense, your eye
contact, face expression, smiling face, moving style,
physique, gesture, posture, sitting style, and the greeting
of the first entry, Hello, Hi.
There is nothing in the spelling of Hello, Hi.
The gesture with which you presented it, Hi.
This Hi did not take my attention.
This Hi made me sleepy.
Is it happen or not?
Of course, it does happen.
It does happen.
So, I am talking about these things.
I have talked about this on light note.
Today, if girls are successful everywhere, then reason is
this.
Before getting out of home, as they are, however they
behave, but she is not forgetting to maintain herself in a
better way.
Matching dress, makeup, whatever, however she is, however
she can make herself better, however she can present
herself better, she is doing the best.
But what we gents are doing?
And that's why the reason, in today's scenario, the girls
are getting more success everywhere, in each and every
field.
Be it accounts, IT,
I am not talking about beauty parlour and teaching, there
they are doing their best.
Now, top level exams, be it IIT NEET,
UPSC, management, everywhere.
If you boys do not learn from this, do not maintain, then,
be ready to say, yes ma'am, because in all the top
positions, girls will be seen sitting.
Then, yes ma'am, yes ma'am. I am not against it, whether
they sit in top positions or not, that's a different
question.
They should sit.
Whoever has capability, they should sit.
But, again when I talk about capability, then you do not
include these things in your capability.
The degree, the certificate, the knowledge, you call that
capability.
Whereas, its importance in your success, is only 15-20%.
Remaining 80-85% is your attitude, which makes you
successful.
Your certificate, your degree, can get you a job, but your
right package and profile, gives you an attitude, and I am
talking about that attitude development.
I am talking about that.
You must have studied those contents a lot in school and
college.
Even after you are suffering, you know better.
You are suffering even after reading all that.
But, we have to get you out of that suffering.
Successful.
We have to suffer to super.
You have to get from suffer to super.
Super success.
Yes.
This is our motto.
So, it is not like, an entry of a smart girl, changed the
scenario of the boys.
Entry of a smart boy also changed the scenario.
And there I am just not talking about this thing.
I am also talking about your confidence, your knowledge,
your presentation.
If your certificate knowledge is less, then it is okay.
If you have attitude, communication, presentation,
personality.
I am saying that during interview and selection, if all
these things are perfect, and if knowledge is less, then
people will say that he has taken the certificate, he will
learn it slowly.
But there it is, but zero in maintenance.
MNCs say that the person does not match with our MNC
company.
His personality does not match.
He should have a personality that he feels that he is a MNC.
You should be able to see it.
You are not called eligible, you are rejected from any
region.
But you will be rejected.
Yes.
So I am the trainer of attitude building.
The importance of which is 80-85% in your career.
In your success.
If you want to get 10x growth in your career, in your
profession.
And not only, once this attitude is built up,
then it will bring a miracle change in your personal life
and social life.
Transformed.
Everything will be transformed.
So it is not only going to help you in your professional
life, in your success, in increment, but it is also going
to help you in making a better impression in your society.
In your society and in your family also.
Yes.
If your family does not respect you, then your friends,
relatives, neighbors will not respect you at all.
Your respect starts from your family.
And before that, your respect starts from you.
If you don't like yourself, if you don't respect yourself,
then you don't expect the respect, likeness and love from
anybody else.
So you will care about yourself.
Your personality, communication, smile, hairstyle, and
maybe many more things.
Dressing.
You will care about everything.
Your nature.
Because you have to present better.
Because you like yourself, you love yourself, you respect
yourself.
And honestly, if you judge yourself in two parts, that the
way you are presenting yourself, are you worthy of respect
or not? Are you worthy of love or not? Are you worthy of
liking or not? And if your answer is yes,
then you should believe that the world will like you.
They will respect you.
They will love you.
The first time you get ready and leave the house, are you
looking good or bad?
The mirror speaks to you first.
It speaks to you, right? The girls say, Oh, you look so
good.
And when they meet their friends,
Oh, you look so good.
And then other people say,
Oh, you look so bad.
Take it on like note.
Because I am telling you a secret, I am telling you a
psychology.
Girls know their positive parts, because others are
commenting on them.
They take it in a positive way, that this is my plus point.
Whether it is my walk, my smile, my eyes, my hairstyle,
whether it is this part of the body or that part.
I am not saying that giving comments can be given politely.
Now a movie has come,
Sex education should be given to children.
In that, in our Kama Sutra books, these things have been
told, that what is the beauty of women.
And every beautiful girl, every girl, likes to hear this
about herself.
Yes, the comments should not be so much, that it irritates
her.
But even with the eyes, she can judge, what you have
appreciated. And there is nothing wrong.
Because they are so ready to leave.
For what?
If you don't give that appreciation, then there is
frustration.
So much hard work is useless.
Girls, I am not saying anything wrong.
But those comments should not come in such a way, that they
feel frustrated.
Irritate them.
No, no, no, no.
But appreciate.
Appreciation always boosts the confidence.
And that is a kind of gratitude.
And gratitude is a part of emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence.
I was giving another example.
I am giving it on a serious note.
Gratitude, which is a major part of emotional intelligence.
And what is its importance.
I will give an example on that.
Once a man was working in an ice factory.
And one evening, when it was a holiday,
he went to the room where the ice is made, to check if
everything is fine. At night, mostly the ice is made.
So the door closed from inside.
And the door closes from inside, but it opens from outside.
Look.
So usually there are two people, who keep the door open.
Now, he is stuck inside.
There is no sound coming out.
As the door closes, the temperature starts to drop.
The freezing process starts.
So that process starts.
And as the temperature starts to fall, his condition starts
to deteriorate.
He is a human being.
Now he feels that no one is coming from outside.
No sound is coming out.
And anyway, it is a holiday.
It is time.
Everyone has gone out.
Everyone has left the company.
The company is empty.
He is stuck inside.
So he feels that now nothing can happen to him.
Now it is time to go.
In this way, a man starts to remember his good and bad
deeds.
He can clearly see that death is in front of him.
Then he prays to God.
O God,
If I have done anything good in my life,
I am telling you about the importance of gratitude.
You take it very lightly.
You don't understand the importance of it.
What does he say to God?
O God,
If I have done anything good in my life, then please spare
my life.
I am the sole breadwinner of my family.
But physically,
I have my children, family, wife.
What will happen to them?
He is praying like this.
While praying, he starts to shed tears.
But, his eyes seem to be breaking.
But at that moment, the door opens.
There is a knock on the door, a sound is heard, and then
the door opens.
His condition is not so good, but he has come to know that
there is a sound on the door. The door is open, but he does
not know who it is.
Someone comes inside, he lifts him out of the door, puts
him in a blanket, gives him heat, and rubs his hands and
feet for a while.
After a while, he regains consciousness.
When he regains consciousness, he comes to know who it was,
the person who had lifted him out of the door.
It was a guard of that company.
A security guard at the gate.
Everyone had left the company.
No one had heard his voice.
Then how did the guard know that he was locked up there?
And how did he reach there while searching for him?
It's a big question.
This question was going on in the mind of that guard as
well.
He asked the guard,
Ram Singh, how did you know that I was locked up in this
room?
And you came there?
Ram Singh said, Sir, I did not know.
Then how did you come there?
Now listen carefully to what I am going to say next.
This person was about to die, who had survived, and the
guard had saved him, but why did the guard save him? Now
listen to this carefully.
The topic of gratitude, how important is it?
You may ignore it every day, but you will understand.
The guard said, Sir, there are so many people in the whole
company.
They come and go to the company every day.
I greet everyone,
I say good morning.
Some people reply, but most people don't even reply.
But I do my duty.
It is my duty.
You are the only person in the whole company who responds
to my greetings and good morning with a smile.
And you don't just reply, you also ask,
Ram Singh, how are you?
How is your family?
Is everything fine at home?
Note it down.
You reply to my good morning with a smile, and you ask, Ram
Singh, how are you?
Is everything fine in your family?
Are your family members fine?
How much time does it take to do this?
One minute.
I hope it won't take more than this.
I hope it won't take more than 30 seconds.
And you put your hand on your shoulder as you leave.
Okay? Let me know if there is anything.
It will hardly take one minute.
Ram Singh says,
You are the only person in the whole company who does this
to me.
And I always wait for you when you come and when you leave.
When I came, I saw, heard, and felt that person's patience,
that comfort, that closeness.
When I came in the morning.
In the evening, everyone left one by one.
I only wait for that person who asks me, Ram Singh, how was
your day?
Is everything fine?
Let me know if there is anything.
Everyone left one by one, but my only good-natured person,
who is the only one, did not come to the gate.
He did not come out of the gate.
He did come in the morning.
I mean, you did come in the morning, but you did not leave
in the evening.
So I started to worry about you.
Why did you not come?
You came inside.
I was outside the gate all day.
You did not leave.
So I went inside to look for you.
And I looked for the whole company.
I did not find you anywhere.
So I found only one place which was left open, that this is
the ice room.
I thought, maybe you are trapped in this.
And then I came here.
So I found you here.
Simple attitude, which we call gratitude, a very sincere
part of the emotional intelligence, which you may not
understand its importance.
What is there to ask someone, to say good morning, to pat
on the shoulder, to ask about his family, to ask if he has
kept anything.
He has kept, Baba.
This thing saved his life today.
His life was saved today.
Otherwise, he would have been killed.
He would have been killed.
So if this gratitude can save someone's life,
I am only talking about your increment, promotion, success,
Baba.
This is actually the importance of the emotional
intelligence.
And there I am talking about the importance of gratitude.
I swear, I was about to go crazy with each and every one of
them.
These things, you will say, are they natural? No.
There are many things, I have accepted, but many things are
developed, learned.
Even an average girl, when she gets ready with make-up, she
looks so good.
We are maintaining it, aren't we?
And then, smile or gratitude, what is there in this?
Anyone can do this, isn't it?
And a smiling face, everyone likes this, isn't it?
So why can't you do?
Why can't you do?
So here, in this video, actually I am talking about a very
crucial topic, emotional intelligence for you professionals.
For you professionals, in your personal life, in your
social life, and in your professional life.
If you are a professional, then you are not just a
professional.
Because, what happens many times, mostly the professionally
successful persons are not successful in the personal life,
because they use all their skills in the professional
field, but not at home.
Make your home a management office, and apply the skills of
domestic management and the emotional intelligence there.
And get the maximum benefit
You take maximum benefit from there also Why don't you take?
Do take
That is very very crucial very very important You use it I
am saying it again and again Yes This is the thing, the
topic I was talking about And In this also when I was
talking
These points
These are the points
About which I have talked
I was talking about one part of empathy
Gratitude Which is a part of the empathy
Emotional quotient
Emotional Skills Emotional intelligence
Skills is a very big topic
It has five crucial components
Which can be a life changing program for you
One part of it
Empathy I was talking about one small part of it
One small part of it
Has saved
Someone's life
Do you understand?
It is more precious than life
Until you
Understand the importance of these skills
From this angle
And learn
And utilize
Until then
You Will not be able to take
The real benefit You can say that for months
Years What that person must have done
With Ram Singh If you also invest for years
Sometimes it comes in handy
Why don't you Understand this as an investment for years
Which Comes in handy
This is also an
Investment of course
So you take life insurance
Life insurance
In which you
Invest well
Every month
Which does not
Save your life
After death
You take medicare
Which in your situation
Can save your life
You invest there
Every month
To save your life
By taking medicare
You Invest it for a minute
And do not give anything
Gratitude I am saying Use it
In your house, neighborhood
Your society
Will be so good
That when you need
Then you will call one
Ten people will stand
Will meet
And if it is missing
Then note it No matter how much money you earn Education
How much you gain
If this thing is not there
Then when the opportunity comes
Then in front of you
No one will come forward
Says Many people come
To invite for marriage
But when in death
You come to know
How many people liked you
Or there are
There you come to know
How you come to know
How many people
Liked you
And in that liking
Only money does not matter
Only your education
Your education does not matter
There is something else
That matters
So one of them
Is very
Very important
And that is this gratitude
In which your Hing is not there
The color is also good
There is no expense
There is no monthly investment
That you are putting something in it You have to give a
smile
And That smile
Does not have a price
But it is the best price
There is no money in laughing
There is
But there is a lot of work How much work can be done with a
smile
If you talk to someone with love
How much work can be done
If you appreciate someone
How much work can be done
You have to ask for time
You have to ask for a way
You have to ask for love
Excuse me ma'am
The lady in front of you also feels
Ma'am, I am looking good
I am not talking about the school girl
Outwardly, respect
Excuse me sir
The person's mood will also be bad
And excuse me ma'am
If you speak with a smile
With a little gesture
Then the work will not be done
If it will be done A gratitude nature When the vibrations
Go around you
Then All the things The way the vibrations
Will go, the same things will attract So everyone
Who will come to you
That too
With gratitude
You go to the hotel You give a tip to the waiter Giving a
tip You feel
You are doing a favor to him Don't do a favor
You meet him Hug him
Give him a little pat
Say thank you With a tip His price is going to increase
Here people
Hold a tip from a distance
Okay, he needs it
He takes it But if you Second him
If you
Say thank you Then this gratitude He will remember Because
not everyone does this
So if you want to get something different
Then do something different
Because not everyone does this
And what does it look like? Nothing
And of course
You will get something different
As an award, as a reward
As a result
So, I am saying You can't buy everything with money
I am telling you
I went to Mumbai for a training session
Lonavala In between training session
My father died I remember that day
After that
I was crying like a baby
The people there The hotel staff The coordination and
cooperation
Because it was the third day
We spent two days there And from there we learned
Gratitude session
We used it We talked to the waiter
So much cooperation
While talking
Because I had to talk
I am the eldest son
While talking
I went to the hotel garden
I turned back
I saw two waiters I asked what happened
They said nothing I asked
We came to ask
Do you want anything?
In the hotel garden
Waiter's job is not to serve
In the hotel garden
I said
Give me a glass of water
They were not standing like that
Another waiter gave me a glass of water
I took the water
Another waiter gave me a glass of lemon water
I asked for lemon water
He gave me a glass of juice
Their duty was not to serve
In the hotel garden
You can't buy them with money
But the behavior
That I gave in two days
I was getting the response
Which I felt practically
Should I call it bad luck or the last wish of my father
that he told me not to leave work in between and not to
leave the training session in between
That's why I couldn't go. But in his last cremation
ceremony, so many people had gathered, two buses were full.
Still people were not able to come. They stood up and went.
But no one had any objection, no complaint.
And it was not like that you have to go 500 meters away
from home. Here even if you have to go 500 meters away,
people are not ready.
Not ready to go 100 meters away. I had to go 70-80
kilometers away. Ganga Ghat. Still people went. So much
crowd.
What was that? It was the gratitude of my father. Because
when I went, I came to know.
People had that gratitude that people from 10, 20, 50
villages had gathered and went. Gratitude.
Neither caste, nor wealth, nor poverty, no woman, no man.
Whoever is in need, mostly people don't talk to them. We
are in the village. We come from Swaraj. I am a big man. I
am a landowner.
So the Scheduled Caste, Scheduled Tribes, they don't talk
to them.
There are people like that in our village. But my father
used to talk to everyone. He used to ask everyone.
He used to help everyone as much as he could. Because of
this, from small to big, caste wise, economic wise,
everybody was by heart participated.
Behind me, the grand ceremony, ok whatever it was, but it
was a ceremony.
Now my father won't come to take the ceremony again. That
was his last farewell.
In which I was not part of it, but that grand ceremony,
what was that? It was the result of his gratitude.
After that, I went to the village for some paperwork. I
went to the village.
So the women and children of the village all came out,
lined up.
To see if there was something like that for me.
In the name of my father, that his sons have come.
Let's see how they are. They were so good.
So much respect and love is being received for us also,
because of their gratitude.
Do you understand the importance of this gratitude?
One generation is also transferring it to the next
generation.
One generation has done it and gone. The next generation is
also getting its benefit.
If you start a business with gratitude.
A samosa vendor, a shopkeeper, a vegetable vendor.
When someone has a good smile, when he has a good
conversation, only then you can start a good business.
When you go to the shop, you will remember the face of that
person.
You will go to his shop, he talks very well.
You can get the goods from anywhere, but why do you talk to
him? He talks well, he talks with a smile. Whoever talks,
he does it with a smile.
I said, does anything go in talking well?
Does anything go in giving a smile? But your business is
growing.
And you have started a good business with this gesture and
gratitude.
And you are transferring that business to your children.
If the child treats you well, then he will also have a good
image.
But at least you have transferred the business of that
label to your child.
Because of your gratitude, your behavior, your nature.
Of course, I am not saying that the job is good or bad.
But where you take retirement, your child will not start
from there.
He will have to start from zero again.
He is not going to be the CEO or GM of the company.
Yes, your company's owner's son will definitely be there.
You have earned for him.
But you have used all these things to start your own
business.
I am balancing the importance of this in both places.
Job is something different, business is something different.
You have used all these things and given something to your
next generation.
For example, good deeds, good work, good helping nature,
gratitude.
I am getting this as a gift from my father.
That the people of my village, neighbors, 10-20-50 people
are giving me love.
In a way, we have also got a loan.
Our ancestors, who gave us loans.
Isn't it our duty to transfer this to our next generation?
Isn't it?
A better life, a better respect, a better success.
You can transfer to your next generation also.
You can also transfer a better life, a better success to
your next generation.
You can definitely do it.
I have given you so many examples.
Now you don't just have to listen to this lecture.
I want to tell you as an implementation coach.
Just from today onwards, you start using this thing.
Start executing, implementing this thing in your life.
If you really want its benefit.
So from today onwards, start using it.
Start implementing it.
If you don't do it, then there is no point in listening to
this lecture.
Whether you listen to me or any trainer in the world.
Whether you read anyone's books.
Whether you read from the internet.
There is no benefit of taking this knowledge.
As a sales, marketing, professional or professional,
whatever you are.
You can't get benefit in your life till you are not using
these things in your life.
Either it's a professional life, social life or personal
life.
Because a professional is not just a professional.
Sometimes he is social, sometimes he is personal.
He has his own life.
And as a corporate trainer, I am talking about your
professional life, professional success.
But as a life coach, I am talking about your social and
personal life success also.
Because if a plant has a one-sided development.
One branch is long and the other is short.
We won't call it development.
All the branches should develop in parallel.
You are in a professional life.
Many people say this. It happens.
Doctor is a very good person, very good CA, but human is
very bad.
Doctor is very good, but human is very bad, very miserly
person, does not help anyone.
Professionally you may be good, your image is good, but
what is on social and personal level?
Your family says you don't give them time, you don't care
for them, your personal image is not good.
But here I am talking about your professional image, your
professional success, your social image, your social
success, your personal image and your personal success also.
Overall development, my academy is the trainer's academy,
whose tagline is transforming lives.
When I am talking about life, then professional life,
social life and personal life are included in it.
Your professional life is successful, but no one knows you
in the society.
If you ask your neighbor, he doesn't know your name.
I will tell you, there is a person named Dubey, who is well
known.
Dubey uncle went to see a boy to get his daughter married.
When he went to see the boy, he met a big shot from a
village half a kilometer away.
But before that he wanted to know about him from others.
So most of the people refused to know about him.
So he came back and said, what is the big deal, no one
knows him from half a kilometer away.
I don't want to give my daughter to such a big shot.
In future, if need be, no one will know him and no one will
be able to help him.
Professionally, they are very much successful, but society
is zero.
It happens.
You will say, if you waste your time in society, then you
are not professionally successful.
Not more, but less.
But it is also necessary to be socially successful.
In a marriage, especially when someone dies, how many
people come to your door?
Even if you take out time from your very busy schedule,
someone will come to your door.
When you had come to his house, it shows what your social
status is.
How socially powerful you are.
So here I am talking about three types of development.
Not one.
Professional, social and personal.
I was talking about one thing.
Core components of emotional intelligence.
Empathy, social skills, self-awareness, self-regulation and
motivation.
These five components are capable of transforming your life.
One small component of empathy is gratitude.
How many benefits does gratitude have?
I told you that it will definitely give you success.
It will give you respect and love.
It can even save your life.
I told you about the example of Ice Company.
When you leave the world, thousands of people gather at
your cremation ceremony.
Just because of your gratitude.
And not only this.
Even after you leave, your children get respect and love.
Because of your gratitude.
Because of your gratitude, your business and professional
life is also being transferred.
Because of your gratitude.
The insurance company says,
Not only in life, but also after life.
They talk about that investment.
I am also talking about the importance of gratitude without
investment.
It is going to help you not only in your life, but also
after life.
To you and to your family also.
Investment?
Zero.
Why?
Because there is no money in a smile.
There is no money in saying hi or hello to someone.
I am not talking about big help.
There is no money in giving small help.
There is no money in getting a blind person to cross the
road.
There is no educated person.
You have written something on a piece of paper and read it.
Do you feel anything?
A housekeeper comes to your house.
And you have taught her to write her name.
What did you think?
But her life has changed.
From today, she will be counted among educated people.
Till today, the world used to call her illiterate.
Now she will be called educated.
Because in our country, the one who does the signature is
called educated.
In her society, it may be a small thing for you.
But the society in which she lives, she will become the
leader there.
Because she may be the first woman who did the signature.
You cannot measure the happiness on her face.
Where she used to put her thumb.
When the grocery store clerk asks her to put her thumb.
She says, brother, give me a pen, I will sign.
So, the surprise of all the people standing there.
And the smile on her face.
And that confidence.
Today, you compare her to your younger sister.
See, how big she is.
How big she is.
Did you think that I will help Mehtabai Kanta Bai to write
her name.
I will not teach her to write a long letter.
I will only teach her to write Kanta Bai.
Kanta Bai.
And Kanta Bai's life has changed.
So, Kanta Bai, won't you be able to do your work on time?
I am saying, such people are ready to give their life for
such a small gratitude.
Yes.
Didn't the guard save the life of the manager of the ice
company? What did the manager do?
He used to ask, Ram Singh.
He used to answer in the morning with a smile.
He used to pat his shoulder.
He used to ask about his family.
It didn't take a minute.
But the importance of this one minute of gratitude, the
investment saved her life.
You understand the success of insurance investment.
Big actors say, start an investment of crores of rupees.
I am saying, start an investment of billions of rupees.
Start with a smile.
Is there a price lower than the billions of rupees of this
life?
It's investment, it's safety starts with a smile.
You don't talk to a rickshaw driver lovingly, who stands at
the crossroads of your house.
And you do.
Suddenly, in the market, one day you have an accident.
There is no one there.
That rickshaw driver picks you up and takes you to the
hospital on time.
Your life is saved.
For what?
You just talk to him lovingly, ask him.
That's all he knows you, recognizes you.
And leaves his work and comes to your work on time.
So do it, Baba.
I am saying, the value of life,
Start with a smile.
Just ask him how he is doing.
It's such a small investment,
And the return is so big.
Your life is saved.
Even a medic can't do anything,
If no one can take you to the hospital on time.
What can a medic do?
The insurance money will be given to the family,
But life is gone.
But I am talking about the investment of that free smile,
gesture, and gratitude,
In which there is nothing to get hurt,
But it can save your life.
You will say, there is one such insurance,
Which only works in life, Lifetram.
This life can ride,
Can improve life,
Can give success, Can give happiness, Can give love,
And can also save life.
That is, even with life,
And even after life,
What stays with you,
That is gratitude.
You don't want to invest this gratitude,
You don't want to implement it,
In your life from today.
I swear, start now,
Life will change from today.
You can get your life transformed.
It's in your hands,
Whether you want to transform your life or not.
By reading books, by listening to lectures, Life will not
change.
You have to start.
You have to take steps, you have to move forward.
Even if it's a single step.
It is said, A good start means half done.
A good start means,
Half the work is done.
Half done.
So, Are you ready to make a good start, With life,
And even after life,
Are you ready to do it?
Are you ready to do it,
That when you go to office tomorrow, You will stand at the
gate and say good morning to Ram Singh.
Are you ready, That you will ask him,
Yes Ram Singh, how are you?
Is everything fine in your family?
This is called a healing touch,
Which you do by putting your hand on your shoulder.
You get a lot of courage,
From this.
Sometimes you are passing through a lean patch,
And someone puts his hand on his shoulder,
And gives you a breath,
Don't worry,
I am there.
You get a lot of comfort,
You feel so peaceful.
If you ask yourself,
You will feel,
That when you get this feeling,
Everyone else gets it.
Will you be able to forget that person,
Who is standing with you,
In your bad times,
Like this,
Even if you don't need him,
You don't need him,
But in your mind,
In your heart, There is a hope,
That I am not alone,
He is with me.
He is.
What is this? Gratitude.
So are you ready for this investment? The investment of
gratitude,
In your life, With life,
And after life also.
With life,
And after life also.
What is this? Gratitude.
Which is capable to make you successful, In your
professional life,
In your social life,
In your personal life,
It is capable,
To give you success,
Happiness, Love, And respect,
In your life, And even after life.
To you,
And to your children also.
Not only to you,
But to your children also.
Respect.
Even when you leave,
People still remember you,
Respect you,
Respect you.
Gandhi Ji left long ago,
But the good deeds he did,
Gratitude, Which he gave to the poor,
Millah Jullah.
People still remember all these things.
We remember them.
Which means,
Even after death,
With life,
And after life also,
You get the benefit of this investment.
People say,
No.
Here I am saying,
With life also,
As long as you are alive,
And even when you are dead,
You get the benefit of this investment.
Not only you,
Even your children get the benefit of this investment.
So, Are you not ready to make such an investment,
In which you don't even have to invest.
Here people say, 400, 500, 700, 1000 rupees investment is
required.
I am saying it for free.
Does it cost money to invest in Hassan?
Does it cost anything to ask someone about their condition?
And that too,
He has made it capable for the smile.
Think about it.
You are not using this precious thing, Which is for free.
He will also feel the pain.
What will you do if he snatches your smile?
The way you can ask someone about their condition,
And you are not asking,
What will you do if he snatches your tongue?
What would you have done if he hadn't given it to you?
Ask him who is mute,
Who cannot speak.
Then you will understand the value of this.
It is nothing for you.
You are still not using it.
Do it.
I think,
At least for today,
Take one lesson,
With life also,
And even after life,
For yourself,
For your children, One investment,
One gratitude,
You are going to start investing from today.
Start it.
You can do it.
Just go and do.
If even today, If you don't want to do it,
Then even God will not be able to help you,
If you don't do anything.
God helps those who help themselves.
I have given you a free tip.
And, If you still don't want to help yourself,
Then even God will not be able to help you.
And if you start doing this today, Then the whole universe
will come with you.
Do you want this?
That sounds interesting.
I'll make sure to spread the word to all my gnomes.