Hello everybody
Good evening to all of you.
This is Vineet Gautam, your trainer, your coach and
today I
Was talking about my last videos also
Degree is just not enough.
You need to improve your skills
Degree is not enough.
You need to improve your skills and
Behavior also matters
Just skilled or not both may have
You might have heard many times
even after
Being skilled, you have a degree but you are not skilled
You might have seen how many doctors are there who are
successful doctors
They have degree
Exactly degree which you have achieved in the process which
was your target
And the thought behind achieving that target
You made an effort according to that thought
For example, there is an engineer
He wants to become an engineer but why?
Because he wants a job
One person wants to become an engineer because he wants a
job in an international company
One person who is doing engineering because he wants to do
his own business
One person is doing engineering because he wants a degree
He has a lot of parental wealth
One person wants to do engineering because he wants to go
into research field and become a scientist
Engineering degree is a public thought
It is not a personal target.
It is a public target that they want to become an engineer
But the thought behind it is that they want a normal
government job
They want a job in MNCG
They are taking degree just like that
And one is that they are taking degree to go into research
So degree is not enough
The problem is actually here
Because the thought with which you have taken the degree
You make an effort according to that
The effort and knowledge of the people who want to go into
research is different
So the thought behind the degree will be there
But mainly what I was saying that degree is not enough
Because our education system is made in such a way
That after degree whatever you want to do, business, job,
whatever you want to do
It is not sufficient for that
You need to improve your skills
You need to develop your skills
Now what are those skills
I was talking about those skills that you need to develop
I have already discussed many things in different videos
We discussed about communication
We discussed about non-verbal communication
We discussed about listening
Listening is a skill
We discussed about its importance
We discussed about writing
Writing is a skill and its importance
Then we discussed about active listening and its benefit
And Emotional intelligence is also an important skill for
being a successful professional in your life.
We discussed about different departments of Emotional
Intelligence.
Then we discussed about Confidence.
How to gain confidence and what is exactly the importance.
These are the professional skills which are required for
being a successful professional in your life.
If you are interested to get, naturally you are a
professional so you are interested to get the professional
success.
So all these skills are required to develop and improve
apart from degree.
In the statement I am saying that degree is not enough, you
are in need to improve your skills.
Confidence, Conflict Resolution and Problem Solving.
Public Speaking, Body Language.
Assertiveness.
Assertiveness is a skill regularly referred to in social
and communication skills training.
Assertiveness means being able to stand up for your own or
others rights in a calm and positive way.
If you are a professional then you don't have to do only
duty.
I am not saying that you should not do duty.
Assertiveness means being able to stand up for your own
rights in a calm and positive way.
But you have to stand up for your own demands.
That is assertiveness.
In calm and positive way without being either aggressive or
passively accepting wrong.
You will not be aggressive but you will not accept wrong in
any way.
This is a very important skill and it should be there.
If you are not able to stand up for your own rights then
you will not be able to stand up for your team.
Then the world takes advantage of you.
Why the world?
Your family, your relatives, your friends, your neighbours,
everyone starts taking advantage of you.
That is why you should not be so straight forward that
people start sucking you like sugarcane.
You should know how to stand up for your own rights.
If you are not able to do this then it will be a very tough
situation for you.
Many times someone else takes your work to office.
They take it out from your office system.
You have prepared the presentation.
Someone else took it and is presenting it in his own name.
If you are not able to oppose then you will have a problem.
That is why you should develop the skill of assertiveness.
You need confidence in this.
If you do not have self confidence then you will not be
able to do it.
Even if everything is going well, you are not able to
oppose.
Many times you are proved wrong without any reason.
If you want to move forward then you should accept that
there are many people who are standing to stop you from
moving forward.
Your own brothers and sisters are standing to stop you from
moving forward.
Your neighbours do not want you to move forward.
They will always try to trap you in some way.
If you are not able to oppose then you should accept that
you will have a problem.
This is a very serious skill you need to develop in
yourself.
You should be able to speak for your right on the right
time.
Assertive individuals are able to get their point across
without upsetting others or becoming upset themselves.
How to do it?
It is not just about speaking.
We will teach you how to do it based on your activity.
So, sincere manager employee, he consoled him.
When he consoled him, what did he say?
Yes, ok, thank you, thank you.
You and your team work harder, work harder.
So, next year, I will buy a similar car for my son.
I will buy for my son.
So, in a way, it is not your right.
He did not say that I will give it to you.
If you work hard, I will buy it for my son.
There are people in this world, if you do not talk for your
rights, then people take away your hard earned money.
They also take away the credit of your work.
So, it is important for you to know how to fight for your
rights.
And that skill is called assertiveness.
And that must be improved.
It is a very important part.
To live a successful life, not only professionally, be it a
social life, personal life, wherever, in personal life, you
keep dying like a bull, keep doing, keep doing, but you do
not get anything in the name of credit.
You only get taunts and abuses.
You do not get anything.
Even if you die, even if you die, the family will say that
you left us and ran away. What kind of life is this?
What kind of life is this?
I do not understand.
If this is called life, then who is it called death?
Who is it called hell?
And this is everywhere.
Are you thinking that it is not at home?
I was watching a video.
Till now, we have heard that girls are being tortured.
It is the community of girls.
The government also talks about their rights.
Today, different rights have been given that they misuse.
Without talking, lakhs of cases, the case of Dori, the
whole family is harassed.
Today, actually, taking advantage of these rights, they are
torturing the gents.
And no one is listening to the pain of the gents.
The gents have formed a group after being badly harassed.
In this way, when there is a community with them, then
those people also share with each other, help each other.
Otherwise, there is no one to listen to them.
Even the parents leave the event that it is a personal
matter of husband and wife.
And, they leave it aside.
If they say, then the case will be filed against them also.
That husband's family is also torturing us.
And, from there, their family is also torturing them
continuously.
So, it is not the question that assertiveness is required
for socially, or professionally only. It is also required
on social level.
It is also required on personal level.
You should not talk about your rights while being
aggressive.
You should talk about it on the occasion.
So, you should develop this skill.
Whether you can activate it on the occasion or not.
Whether you can take action or not.
This is very important.
Otherwise, believe me, you are going to face a lot of
trouble.
It is going to be very bad.
Everywhere, it is going to be bad.
Everywhere, people are sitting like this.
On the social level, there are such people sitting in the
neighborhood.
I will tell you an example.
The neighbor, is building a house.
He thinks that his neighbor is simple.
He has money.
He has set up a building and collected the material in the
name of that neighbor.
By giving a grant.
The building material is also his own.
He is a material supplier.
He has set up his building.
He is not giving money.
The builder is going to the neighbor to collect the
material.
It happens that
you are a grantor.
He does not even know that he is a grantor.
He is being pressured to collect money from him.
He is not giving.
He is saying that he will give.
Even in the court, he said in front of the judge that he
will give.
He did not say that he will give.
But he is not giving.
So, standing up for your rights is important.
Sometimes, it is called rebel.
It is called rebellion.
It is called a mutineer.
So, it is okay.
But it is very important.
Otherwise, you will be tortured at every level.
From childhood to old age.
You will find someone who will keep torturing you.
You will die a horrible death.
And even if you die for them, they will say that they left
you.
No matter how much you do.
So, assertiveness is a skill which is the need for not only
for the professionals.
I am not talking about the degree professionals.
If you are at the social level, even if you are at the
social level, personal level, whatever level you are at,
this is the thing which is required.
Assertiveness is a skill.
Everyone needs this skill.
It is a very important skill.
It is required for each and everybody.
It is required for each and everybody who speaks about his
right in a polite way and does not accept wrong in any
condition.
That is the need exactly which is required.
I was talking about the next skill.
And that is group discussion.
What is group discussion?
Group discussion is a skill that whenever you sit in a
group, can you keep your point or not?
You cannot keep your point.
Now, it is not a personal thing.
Like in assertiveness, you were talking about your personal
right.
But in group discussion, it can be any topic of the public.
Can you keep your opinion on that topic or not?
Presentation skill is here also.
You have to keep your point in a time being, in a polite
way, with the right words, with the right sentence, with
the right expression, with the right language, with the
right volume.
You have to keep all these things in proportion.
So, can you do this or not?
That is the question.
And that is a very very weak question.
This is a very big question.
Can you do this or not?
So, mainly the group discussion is for judging your
leadership quality.
Whenever you are sitting in a public place and talking, are
there any such things that you keep logical and the people
sitting in the group agree with you? In group discussion,
mainly, we will tell you how to enter in a group
discussion, how to present,
how to conclude.
Mostly, if you don't get a chance to speak, then how do you
enter?
You can't scare anyone.
If you increase the volume, there will be a thread of
aggressiveness which is negative. So, this skill,
participating in a group discussion, is also a skill and it
is very important for proving your leadership quality.
So, this skill is also required to be learnt.
As it is, the selection process, the interview process,
along with the interview, group discussion is also done at
a good level.
It is done at every level.
And its motto, if you talk at any level, its motto is to
assess your leadership quality.
So, here, we are also going to help you in improving your
group discussion quality.
Accept. Accept your degree. If you have a degree already,
then you will also need these things. We will help you.
Next, we said, for professionals, taking and giving,
Taking and Personal Interview Technique
This is not talking, this is taking
Taking and Facing
The interview is taught in both ways
And this skill
Giving an interview is necessary at every level
Junior to senior level is necessary at every level
How to face the interview
So in this we tell you a lot of varieties of things How to
prepare mentally, how to prepare the file
How to present, all these things
So this is giving
In taking also we teach you a lot
That there is HR department
And if HR department does not select the right candidate in
the selection process
Selects the wrong candidate
Which in the next month or two
The post for which it was selected
It is not proven right
So it will be removed
But if this process is going on again and again
Then the HR department
Who is doing the recruitment process
They also raise questions
Because if it happens again and again
There is disturbance in the company
One person came for a month or two and did nothing
Then came and did
The company is disturbed
The system will be disturbed
So taking and giving the interview
Both the tricks
How do you assess someone
And how do you present in front of someone
So that he assesses you in a positive way
And selects you
And for the interviewer
It is also an important part
How will you know
That he is telling the right thing
Or telling fake
In that what he is saying
Yes I will do it, is there quality in real or not
Because in 10-15 minute interview
You can't ask everything
So how can you judge in 15 minutes
How can you judge
That what he is saying is right
Or there is a problem in it
So this is the technique
The skill
It is a very professional skill
Absolute professional skill
Which you need to learn
And we teach you in detail
In the right way
So that your professional life
Will not be affected
By any problem
So these things
We have discussed till now
In this video
I have discussed 3 things
Assertiveness
I have discussed assertiveness
Which I have told
Why it is important
That you know how to talk about your right
In the right way
Anyway
In any situation
You will not accept wrong
In any situation
The other thing I have discussed
Is group discussion
In the public
You do group discussion
So that is exactly for
Judging your leadership quality
If you can do it properly
Then you will come out
As a leader
And that is exactly required
When you are in the team
Of 20-30-40 members
And your colleagues
When there is a discussion
If you can present yourself
In the right way
Then you will be selected
As a leader
That you are a team leader
And out of the 5 team leaders
One will be the manager
So this is a process
So you need to know this
And then
I have discussed
Interview
Taking and giving
I have discussed both
Personal interview
Taking and giving
Facing and
Taking
Both the skills are required
So that you give an interview
In the right way
And you are going to be selected
You present yourself
In the right way
In the right process
So that the other person
Is the right candidate
And is suitable for his system
Is suitable for his post
Is favorable for him
For his system
Not that you have to change it again and again
So that it harms you
Sometimes other companies
Put their candidates in the middle
So are you in the HR recruitment section
Are you able to assess this
Or not
So that you know
That he came and ruined your system
And took the inner work
And took the outer work
So these are the things
These are very sincere skills
The three things that I have discussed
If you want to become a professional
Then these are the skills
You need to develop in yourself
And here we are going to help you
In giving these things
And further I am going to talk about
Something else also
The skills required
For being successful
In your field, wherever you are
Whatever you are
And whichever label
You want to move ahead
You have to develop these skills And you will have the need
For these skills
And here are some examples