Hello everybody
Good afternoon to all of you.
This is Vineet Gautam your coach your trainer
your mind coach life coach motivational trainer corporate
trainer
Corporate trainer and
Today actually I am going to talk something not only for
the professionals
Not for the school student not for the college student
Not only for the homemakers or
Anybody else?
Identify Who is who?
What is their way of life?
Today I am going to talk about
Some people show off in their life
That they are with you
But mainly they are not with you
How will you be able to judge this thing?
Who is with you?
And who is showing off being with you?
If you will judge carefully
Then you will be able to understand this thing at each and
every level
For example, in this peak
One person is lying down
Second person is trying to take him out by giving him a hand
He is showing off that he is trying to take him out
If he was actually trying to take him out
Then look up
He is holding a ladder
He could have easily taken that letter out
He is holding a rope and not giving him the rope
And also is not holding the ladder He is showing off that
he is trying to give him the hand
So in the life
Wherever you are, maybe in the school, you are going to
join a new school.
you are going to join a new school, you are going to join a
new school.
you are going to join a new school, you are going to join a
new school.
because you have come here to do bad things.
So, the question is, first of all, you should assess for
yourself, because whatever it is, what you want from
yourself, it doesn't matter. Whatever you are, it happens
with you too.
Not 100%, but mostly it does happen.
So, if you are like this, then be careful.
This story is not going to last for long.
And in the long run, people will start avoiding you one by
one.
Sometimes, it happens that someone comes and attacks you.
So, whether you do good or bad, whatever you do with
someone, they will return to you after returning your
karma. So, if you want to be friends or enemies with
someone, then do it openly, don't show off. By showing off,
you trust the person, you think
that we are going to fight, we are two friends. And at the
last moment, you realize that your friend is not standing
with you.
I can't fight.
Or sometimes it happens that the person you are going to
fight with, your friend goes to him.
You must have seen a lot of such scenes.
You must have been able to assess in real life.
You must have done your assessment in real life.
Or you must have seen such scenes in movies.
People don't make such scenes in movies.
Because we see the scene in front of us, and it looks
clarified, so we understand.
Who did this to us in real life, even after it happened, we
don't realize that such a betrayal happened to us.
I was watching a serial scene.
There is a girl, her father is hospitalized, he is on
ventilation, oxygen mask is on.
What happens is, two minutes before, she has gone to the
mill.
Everything is going on fine.
She goes to buy ice cream.
She goes to buy ice cream,
and she is lost in her thoughts, that I had such and such
conversation with my father.
My father said, go and buy ice cream, we will eat our
favorite ice cream. On the way, she meets a doctor, the
head.
He says, yes, it is you.
Your father was admitted there, right?
So, he is no more.
He is no more.
Now, why did this happen?
The reason was given that it was due to multi-organ failure.
Multi-organ failure.
Now, at that time, everything was accepted in this way, and
the normal process, cremation, everything was done.
A few days later, when she visits the hospital, this is her
own hospital, it is a very big party, but everywhere, you
don't know that the people who are living with you in your
family, they are also with you, or are showing that they
are with you, and
behind your back, they are stabbing you.
Yes, this is a fact.
You have to be very careful there, and do the work.
I am giving the example practically because, it is her own
hospital.
So, when she visits, the nurse with whom she was there,
when her father came to the hospital, she called the head
nurse, and said that I want to meet a nurse named Riya.
The head nurse called the nurse named Riya.
The nurse named Riya comes, she says, this is not Riya, it
is someone else.
She says, this is the head nurse, this is the Riya, the
nurse in our hospital, who has been working for the last 5
years, and there is no nurse named Riya.
She says, there was a nurse named Riya, whom I met by face.
She has clear memory.
When she says,
I will tell you who was the nurse, show me the CCTV
footage, then that footage is also made to disappear.
See, I am telling the story, in which people show that we
are with you, and they are the same people.
Then, there is a real friend of hers, who tells her, from
where can we see that footage.
He goes to his head office, because he says, all his units,
all his CCTV footage recordings are there, in the head
office.
He sees there, when this girl comes out of there for ice
cream, then the same nurse, who was with her, she takes
some equipment and goes.
She has made a suspense.
It is clear that, she is someone who is with you, who is
with you every moment.
Who shows you, who is with you every moment, but to show
you, she is with you, who is with you every moment.
by using that nurse to get his father murdered.
So, what I want to say is that if someone is not with you,
then it's okay, you can keep someone else with you.
But those who are with you, show that they are with you.
They are physically with you, but not physically.
So, not only do they not benefit you, but they also cause
you a lot of loss.
And you don't even believe that whatever happened to me and
my loved ones, they did it.
Like I explained to you in the serial story.
Similarly, in your class, in your official atmosphere, your
colleague, your peer, they are with you, but they never
want you to go beyond them.
You know, your friends are happy with your progress.
But,
if your progress is more than their progress, then they are
not happy.
I am very much ahead in life.
And my friend is also improving, so I am okay.
Okay, come.
But the day he gives me this message, that I am going to
get better than you, then I can't digest it.
That's why it is said, that you should never tell your
income to anyone.
Because if you tell your income in real, and the person you
are telling is more than that, then he will start looking
for a way to reduce your income.
How to reduce his income.
No matter who it is, he will not be able to tolerate it.
And if you tell less, then from that day, he will look down
on you.
Okay, that's it.
That's why, never tell the exact amount.
Yes, okay.
Keep it in suspense.
No matter how much you ask, it is said that girls should
not be told their age.
I am saying, boys should also be told their age and salary,
means income.
Both should not be told.
No one should be told.
There is no need to set the parameters.
You are there, that is personal for you.
So, I was saying that your colleague also, is always
looking for an opportunity, that the sincere student in the
class, who is doing well, his image is good in the eyes of
his school teachers, then the rest of the people, who are
your class fellows, who
are with you,
I am not talking about everyone, but mostly they keep an
eye on, when to look down on him.
Many times, even by putting a false accusation, they try to
show you wrong. Many times, the group does this together
with you. So, you should see this, at least, assertiveness
is so important, that for your rights, and for the rights
of your loved ones,
you should be able to raise your voice, at the right time,
for the right rights.
And, the wrong things, that you are being forced to listen,
you should not accept that.
So, this much positivity, this much assertiveness, should
be there in you.
This is a required part, a very important part, which is
very, very important in life, and it should be there.
Yes, this should be there.
So, this is at your school level, that your classmates,
I will tell you another example.
One candidate,
is living in a hostel, studying, doing engineering, so, you
must have seen, in movies,
I am talking about Theodors,
that he himself studies, and on exam day, he puts magazines
in everyone's room,
and that too, such magazines,
in which all the children get entangled,
their focus diverts,
and they can perform better.
Many times, your competitor does this, first example,
Dr. Rajendra Prasad, who was the first president of India,
because he always, used to top in his school, so, one of
his classmates, who was an English person, when he could
not dominate him, with his real talent, then through
someone else, his watch, was set an hour late.
Means, it was set slow, if it was 10 o'clock, then his
watch would show 9 o'clock, so, in exam, he reached an hour
late.
So, who could do it?
You will not give your watch to someone else, you will give
it to someone close to you, but the person close to you, is
playing with you.
Now, the question is, how do you identify such people?
You can identify,
one or two examples, whenever you go, for the first time,
they will talk very sweetly, they will look very
cooperative, so cooperative, that you will feel, whether it
is school level, college level, or office level,
I am talking about all the levels, social level, your
neighbors, if you shift to a new place, your neighbors,
your relatives are also like this.
But, believe me, such people, one, it is said, someone once
said,
that there should be some bad days in life,
only then you will know, who is with you, who supports you,
and who gives you knowledge.
The difference between good and bad, is found in such lean
patches.
You get an immediate monetary requirement,
and you call your friend,
and 99% out of 100, the answer, that I am going to give
you, you will get to hear it.
Oh my God!
If you had told me yesterday, yesterday, then I swear,
whatever I was asking for,
I could have doubled it.
The payment was made yesterday, when was it in my account?
I made the payment yesterday.
Many times, people come to a lower level, and cross the
limit.
Oh my God!
I have transferred it 10 minutes ago.
Such answers,
are the common answer, from the people, who show that they
are with you.
So, when you get such an answer,
you, I am not saying, to break the relationship immediately,
but in your eyes, in your personal diary, put those people,
in the column, who are not with you, that they are not with
you.
Yes.
If you do not put them in such a column,
then you understand,
that your friend, will kill you one day.
He took you far away, in solitude,
and by taking you there, he gives you to your enemy.
You will die.
You are thinking, that he is with you.
He is not with you.
So, that is why, to be a little smart,
to be a little diplomatic,
in today's time,
is very important.
Although, this is not a modern scene.
With you, you can see it from the history.
Whenever, your own people have cheated, then the greatest
of the greatest, have fallen.
Whether we talk about Tipu Sultan,
or we talk about Rana Pratap,
or we talk about Ravan,
there are many others in history.
Not our own people.
The British, have kept us slaves for so many years,
because of the betrayal of our own people.
Because, some of us, supported them.
They pretended to be with us,
but supported them.
That is why,
we have been slaves for so many years.
So, these people, who pretend to be with us,
sometimes, they are so dangerous.
But, let me tell you one more thing.
Tipu Sultan's brother-in-law, betrayed him, and got him
killed.
And, after that, he gave him greed, that he will give me
the throne, he will make me the king.
What happens?
Those, who betray their own people, and support their
enemies,
they forget this.
See,
what you want,
to happen with you,
does not happen.
It happens,
as you deserve.
The level you are,
when you betray someone,
what do you think?
I am saying this for them.
You should be careful with them.
First of all, you should ask this question honestly to
yourself.
Whether you are a student, college student, school student,
social person or in personal life.
Because these days, diplomacy and personal life is also
going on in the family.
Especially, I think it has started happening after watching
TV serials.
Mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, sister-in-law,
brother-in-law, sister-in-law, sister-in-law,
mother-in-law, daughter-in-law.
It is going on in brother-in-law.
You have already seen a lot of fights between
brother-in-law.
There were many fights for property.
So, he is showing off with brother-in-law but not in
reality.
So, this parameter of yours to assess someone, keep it
active at all times.
When someone is appreciating you, saying good things,
When someone is embracing you,
After that, when he says,
His reaction after that,
For example, a politician goes to the parliament and
embraces Modi ji.
He shows gestures that we are people who share love.
After that, he is looking at his friend and blinking his
eyes.
So, such people just show off being together.
You should understand such situations and assess them.
That these people are not exactly showing off being
together.
Similarly, when you are assessing your colleague,
Whether this person is with you or not,
When he says that I will do this,
You will look at his face and blink your eyes.
So, how much dedication and willingness to be together,
You can judge that.
Yes, you can.
This power is very important.
I say this for girls too, school girls, college girls,
office girls.
Mostly, you get involved in their talks too early.
You get involved in their talks too early.
You show off being good.
You lie, you are dishonest, you present yourself in a
polished way.
You get involved in their talks too early.
And then they take advantage of you.
They harm you.
And the same thing is happening with boys also.
It is happening with boys too.
So, before trusting anyone,
I am saying this in the sense of becoming a better person.
The better you are,
The better you remain,
For this, only positive positive efforts are not enough.
With that positive effort, the work will not be going on.
You will have to do something,
So that this thing remains with you, Otherwise people are
ready to take it away.
And such people come to meet you,
Only after showing off being your friend.
Their plan is something else.
They come to you to make friends, So that they can clean it
from its roots.
And make it last forever.
So, can you judge such people?
You will say, God will do bad with such people.
God will do bad later.
But till then, you will have suffering.
You will have problems.
That is why God has given you so much CPU, so much brain,
So that you can assess such people.
And at least you don't become like them.
Whether you do good or bad with anyone, Your karma will
come back to you.
If you do bad with anyone,
It will happen to you too.
However, you are, you will not be able to stop it.
Secondly, if you are not like that, How can you be careful
with such people?
So, for this, there are many parameters.
You should stay away from sweet talk.
If someone is talking too sweetly,
You should understand that there is some problem.
Yes.
Because a simple, dedicated person stays away from such
things.
He is pure gold, which does not have much shine.
And does not talk too much.
So, you should judge him.
And judgment is in need.
It is said that a friend in need is a friend indeed.
Judgment is only when needed.
Who is your true friend and who is showing off.
So, many times you set such small parameters and keep
judging yourself.
You must have gained such experiences in your life.
However, life goes on like this.
And many times, years later, you find out that
The one who was with me was not my friend.
Now, where will you put it?
But, as much as possible, keep your radar on judgment.
Because, many times, in family, brother is doing to brother,
Brother is doing to sister.
This is also happening in your relationships.
So, it is very tough to judge.
Because, many times, your wife,
With her boyfriend, Both of them murder you and go.
So, where will you put it?
But, if you keep your radar on judgment.
I am telling you, when you get extra cooperation,
Extra smooth talk, See, there is a natural process.
The one who is showing more love,
I am telling you, I will give you a small example.
A couple went to see a zoo.
They see a monkey being loved.
So, the wife says to the husband,
See, the monkey is loving his monkey so much.
You don't love me at all.
Then, they went a little further.
Then, they saw a lion.
And lioness,
They are sitting outside.
But, the lion is sitting facing this side.
Lioness is sitting facing that side.
Then, the wife says,
You are like this lion.
See, his wife is sitting facing that side.
You are also like this.
You don't love me at all.
Then, the man says,
Do one thing,
Go to the cage where the monkeys are loving each other.
Pick up a stone and hit it.
When she hits the stone,
The monkey leaves the monkey and runs away.
Listen to this carefully.
The one who was in love with the monkey,
There is no one better than him.
You are the only one.
There is no one other than you.
But, when it was the turn of the stone,
The monkey left the monkey and ran away.
Then, he said to his wife,
The man,
The wife was saying to him,
The monkey is loving you so much.
You don't love me at all.
Then, he said,
Pick up a stone and hit the lioness.
The wife of the lion.
Hit her.
When the woman hits the lioness,
The lioness,
Who is sitting on the other side,
Who is sitting at a distance,
Suddenly, She jumps up and comes towards the lioness.
Then, the husband says to his wife,
This is real love.
I am talking about the same topic today.
Some people show off.
Like, the monkey was showing off his love.
But, when he needed help,
He left the monkey and ran away.
The lioness was sitting at a distance.
But, as soon as she saw him,
So, I said, the more complicated things, the more loving
touch you are getting, you don't believe that in reality,
that is your close.
So, I said, if you are not able to give your wife the right
payment in 6 months, does your wife's behavior remain the
same or does it change?
This is also a way of assessment.
Your wife is very beautiful, maybe you like so much, you
love so much.
If there is any problem with her, she is not that smart
anymore, does your love remain the same or does it change?
If you are not able to give your wife the right payment in
6 months, does your wife's behavior remain the same or does
it change? This is also a way of assessment.
If you are not able to give your wife the right payment in
6 months, does your wife's behavior remain the same or does
it change?
This is also a way of assessment.
If you are not able to give your wife the right payment in
6 months, does your wife's behavior remain the same or does
it change? This is also a way of assessment.
Yes, you are very genius, master.
Because anyone can make a mistake.
We are human beings, we are not God.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
No, no, no, no, no, no.
But in your personal diary write their name two columns.
For personal life, for social life and professional life as
well.
Who is with you and who not? because you can't be out of
the society, you have to stay in the society, but you know
which neighbor is with you, who will come to work on time,
so keep a separate list of that.
And, and, you also try that if he ever needs anything, then
you also support him.
So, as much as possible,
I am just not talking about the monetary, I am talking
about the physically,
I am talking about the mentally, as much as possible,
because then the bonding becomes even better.
And, those whom you feel that no, he is not with me, be
careful with them.
Staying together is there, but you have to be careful.
For example, there are dogs, you want to feed them, feed
them, but be careful, they can attack at any time.
There are animals, you feed the cow, you have to feed the
cow, you have to take care of the cow, but be careful,
there are animals.
You go to feed the monkey wheat, you go to feed the banana,
but the monkey is a monkey, be careful. Similarly, there
are humans too, they look like humans, but they have the
qualities of animals, which can do anything at any time.
We have called them animals, that they are animals, they
can do anything, be careful.
But, how do you recognize people even among humans? Because
you will not be able to recognize that people are not
really with you, but if they are pretending to be with you,
then you can have a big problem at any time.
Even, you can lose your life.
Many times, you make your friend and bring him to your
house.
See, I am talking on a practical level.
For everybody, you make your friend and bring him to your
house, and his bad intentions are on your family members,
your sister, your wife, they are not able to tell because
of your behavior, and he is trying.
You can hire many employees in the office,
I am telling you practically.
For example, I hired a counselor in the office, she gave a
reference of my sister, that I am a friend of your sister.
But, when I came to know from behind, that there is no
admission, queries are coming, we have a process, that data
is being called, queries are coming, but they are not
maturing.
Why? In one week, nothing is maturing.
If I go to the class to take the session, the students also
want to say something, but they are not able to say. In
between, those who I am attending, they are all maturing.
See, the process of assessment,
I am telling you the practical experience.
Then, I told about one sister, that I am her friend. When I
asked her, she said, yes, she knows a little, she is not a
friend.
Then, I sent my other sister as a customer, to go and take
some inquiry. So, she came and told me, because I told her
that I have to bring the entire inquiry, that she has been
sent by someone.
You see, be careful, here also, in every field, your
opponent is a competitor.
She has been sent, she is taking double salary, she is
taking salary from you, she is taking from him also. She
has come to you, so that the customers who are coming to
you, they should not get enrolled here, but should go
anywhere, or should go to her,
from where she has come.
If they are not able to reach there, they should go
somewhere else, but should not stay here.
Divide them.
With this motive, when I came and asked her, that you have
come with so much love, you are a friend of my sister, I
have welcomed you also.
What did I do to you, because of which you are doing this?
Sometimes, you are so kind, that you say, you did good, why
did you do bad?
Those who are bad, they will do bad.
They will do bad.
So, they will do good also.
Yes, it is going to happen with them.
Don't worry, it happened temporarily with you, but it will
be good with you, because you are doing good.
When I told her, she was not ready to accept.
But I had practical evidence, everything was clear,
I mean immediate.
As a girl,
I said,
I am not taking action like this, but out.
Although, my neighbors were saying, that you should not
have let her go so easily.
Then when I went to the class, each student of my class was
saying,
Sir, we wanted to tell you since so many days.
She used to tell other new students, she used to tell us
also, leave from here and go.
Because we don't have any problem.
And she also used to say,
I am a friend of Sir's sister.
That's why we didn't tell you, that you might think, that
we are saying this about our sister's friend.
But when we used to come daily, we used to think, that
today you must have removed her, today you must have
removed her, today you must have thrown her away.
But she used to meet us daily.
Today when you did this, means one more thing, note it,
when something like this is happening with you, till the
time you don't take action, till then your own people, who
are with you, they also can't help you.
You have to take action.
So, you can't imagine, that what is with you,
Is it real or not?
Such and such examples of assessment
But on small activities
You will see
When you assess it in detail
And this is very very necessary for building a good team
For building a favorite, faithful cooperative friend circle
You are good
But you should not be so good that people will suck you
like a sugarcane
Assertiveness This much is exactly required that you can
talk about your rights can talk can understand can say
about someone else's rights that you can say about your own
You will have to have so much courage that when there is no
one with you then if it is too serious then you should not
do it
Why? When someone meets you and talks bad about you
Whenever you want to do a new project and he starts
counting his bad points then you should understand that
there is a problem
Yes Because he never wants you to do well
So he is not really with you
He is just pretending to be with you
And he wants to be with you so that you can keep telling
him Many times the person you are telling your problems to
is the root of the problem
He created that problem for you
And you are discussing it as your friend This is the life
So I am not talking about being afraid But at each and
every level
Whether you are a girl or a boy, or a school student or a
college student or in professional life
Whatever level you are
At every level
Your opposition is as big as you are
And it can be anyone
It can be at a personal level
Your own brother
Your own brother who is pretending to be with you is with
you
He is with you
Many times you are the elder brother of the family
Your father is no more
And you are fulfilling the responsibility of being the elder
You got your younger brother married
You got him educated
You got him married
You got your younger sisters educated
You got them married
In this process
You moved a little ahead
Now You got your younger brother married
You got him educated
In the eyes of your younger brother And in the eyes of his
family Now this thing is coming
That if
What good you did
What bad you did
They are not thinking
Now this thing is coming
That if the brother is not married He will earn all his
life and give it to us
And all the property will be ours It is better if he does
not have it
And can you imagine
If you had a brother
Your own brother For whom you did everything
And he is going to cut off your marriage
This Now who is with you
And who is pretending
You need to assess on this level That who is with you
And who is yours
If you want to move ahead
Nowadays people do everything
And they will be able to do And they will be able to do
What is with you
That they even tie the capital source of income
Yes Everything is possible They create such a situation
That they cannot move ahead
And they will show themselves
You ask for help from them
They will show you in this way That I want to help you
But I am not able to
But in reality they do not want to help
They do not want to use their resources
They do not want to use them for you
So that they can help you
Because they do not want to
So as a life coach
As a life lesson
I am talking about life skills
That you can assess
In your circle In your surroundings Whether it is personal
level
Whether it is social level
Whether it is official level
Who is with you
And who is not with you
In reality
Who is with you in reality
Who wants the best for you
The person you feel
When you talk to
You get a positive feeling
About yourself
Let's say he is with you I told you about the lion story It
is not necessary
That the person who is always close to you
Is with you The person who is with you
Is the one who comes to you at the right time
The person who comes to you
At the wrong time
Is the one who is with you
Never leave him
You should also come to him at the right time
Because only at such times
One can prove the other
In normal conditions
Everyone knows how to love
They are doing monkey things
But as soon as
Someone talks about killing
The monkey runs away
Leaving the monkey
Not like this
So You develop
Such an ability in yourself
So that in this circle
You develop a radar
Who is with you in the circle
Who is not with you
Before you develop a relationship
Before making a friendship
Take some time
Assess Then slowly move forward
And then many times
Even if the situation is normal
You will be able to assess
Who agrees with you
When needed
And who does not
The cold weather is going on
It is 12 o'clock at night
There is hail all around
You have to call someone
To receive
Who can come with you
To go somewhere
Then you will know
Who is with you and who is not
In such a typical situation
Why is marriage done?
No, no, no
Whether it is a man, girl or boy
If we talk about physical requirement
If we talk about sexual requirement
Then you can fulfill it from anywhere Marriage is not for
this
Marriage is done
To get rid of loneliness
It is done to get rid of loneliness
It is done for real
Even in this relationship, there is bitterness But why is
it done?
I will tell you
When it is a date afternoon
It is the month of June
There is hailstorm all around
No one is seen on the road Everyone is busy with their own
Then at that time
Your loneliness opens up
You feel the need for a companion
With whom you can
Share your personal moments
And enjoy
When it is rainy season
There is water all around
No one cares about anyone
Everyone is busy with their own
You are also busy
You are alone
Your loneliness opens up
For that time, you need a partner
You need an intimate partner
If it is a winter season
You are alone
You need a partner
It is a matter of
You are young
When you are 60 plus
It becomes more crucial
In that situation
Only your partner
Can support you
No one else
Your sons and daughters
Will be busy with their families
Brothers, relatives
Will be busy
Your own partner
Will be with you
So Don't make any assessment
To such a partner
Physical look
Appearance These all things are secondary
This thing will end in minutes
At least at 60 plus
Neither your
Attraction of body of gents
Nor of wife
Or physical appearance
Real beauty
Which is internal
Good or bad
At that time
Do you
Accept each other's shortcomings
And cooperate with each other
That will be matter
That will be seriously matter
So These relationships
Are formed
In the process of marriage
But how many percent
Are exactly with each other
When each other's
Shortcomings Are not
Identified Then The relationship
Becomes Inferior And The relationship
Becomes Inferior And The relationship They work to cover up
the shortcomings and not to push it forward. These days,
these relationships are also very sour. Girls have been
given rights by the government. And in thousands of cases,
false cases are lodged
in the name of Dori system and the boy and his family are
harassed. Yes, it is a record.
So, do you know who is with you? Is he with you or not?
So, it is necessary to assess it at every level.
If I talk finally, if you want long term evergreen bonding,
then there is no one other than that.
Anyway, it is useless to expect permanent bonding from this
worldliness.
But it has become a different story.
If you want to go to that level, then you can understand
that too.
Because in reality, when this world is of show, then people
will be showy.
Because the world is of show.
Physical life is not a permanent state that you have to be
permanent.
So, when this is not stable, then people are also showy.
But in that too, there is a good one who can support each
other for at least 10, 20, 50 years of life.
So, at each and every level, you should assess such people
carefully.
Only after assessing, develop a relationship, develop a
bonding, develop a friendship.
You need to be very careful.
See, the one who is looking so neutral, it does not mean
that he is not good.
The one who is looking so smooth, understand.
In the earlier times, kings used to have a lot of girls.
They used to be very beautiful.
And the royal court used them to finish their opposition.
With beauty, with words, with dance, with singing, with
everything, to finish the opponent.
Similarly, today, people are at every level.
You can read history, present, past.
It is full of such examples that there are such people in
your surroundings who are with you to show you exactly.
They are not exact with you.
It does not matter if they do not support you on the
occasion, but they do not cheat you on the occasion.
But they also cheat.
It should be known that your friend only.
I will give you an example.
I will give you an example with spiritual touch.
Because I have such practical experience.
I am associated with Ashram.
Siddhartha Ashram, Faridabad.
There, a lady used to come daily and sit there and cry for
hours.
Today, you are seeing in Baba Dhirendra Shastri, you are
hearing that Baba Ji writes a letter.
And in the letter, he writes the desires of the other
person.
And there is so much commotion on this matter.
Does this really happen?
There are so many people who are coming with mindlers and
talking about this.
That all this is a show, a lie, a fraud.
It is nothing. It is the truth.
It is the truth.
Our Guru Ji has been doing this for many years.
Yes, I am talking about my Guru Sudarshan Shah Ji Maharaj.
Yes.
I was giving you an example.
A lady comes and sits daily.
Because to meet Guru Ji, you have to dial a number.
And most people think that the number is dialed with a lot
of recommendation.
No.
The number is dialed by the one whom Guru Ji wants.
Whatever has come from the mind, from the feeling, Guru Ji
knows everything.
He knows everything.
He knows what he has thought and spoken at home.
He knows everything.
So, she has been coming for many years, for many months.
She comes daily, she cries, she wants to meet Guru Ji.
But no one writes her name.
She is not able to reach Guru Ji.
She sits for 2 hours, 4 hours, 6 hours.
She keeps crying, keeps crying.
She gets up and leaves.
She comes again the next day, comes again the next day,
comes again the next day.
Everyone in the ashram is watching this.
But until the order is not given from above, no one can
write her name.
No one can go.
So, people decided among themselves.
Everyone knows that if Guru Ji is not doing this, is not
meeting,
it means there is something.
But I am talking about spiritual power, Guru's Leela.
I am talking about my Guru, personally.
But Guru is always Guru, no matter who he is.
So, the head of the trust, the head of department, the
great Satsangi Ji, everyone told him,
Satsangi Ji, you only talk to Guru Ji.
The woman has been troubled for many months.
Guru Ji is not meeting her.
So, Guru Ji goes to him.
GP Satsangi says,
Gurudev, a woman has been coming for so many days.
She seems very troubled.
Guru Ji says, yes, Satsangi, you have become very
compassionate.
You have become very compassionate.
Your Guru has become very patient.
You have become very compassionate.
When I say that I know everything that comes from the mind
and emotions in the Ashram.
So, don't you believe this?
You are feeling very compassionate.
I don't know whether she is crying or sitting.
I also know.
I know everything.
Still, you feel that Guru is patient.
Why?
You are feeling compassionate because you don't know the
reason behind it.
I know everything.
Now, I will give you a real example of the situation where
you are together and you are deceiving each other.
Guru Ji told me this without asking me.
She was coming.
She had a friend who was her husband.
He was her business partner.
They used to do business together.
Her husband killed his friend and took over his business.
Now, the friend whose family is on the streets,
is dependent on each and every one of them.
And because his wife and children are suffering,
his friend's soul is troubling him.
See, those who don't believe in this,
don't do it.
But this is a fact.
There are souls who are unhappy and restless.
So, she is troubling him.
She is troubling his entire family.
Now, she has come here for that reason.
Now, you tell me,
what should I do in such a situation?
They are suffering for their wrongdoings.
So, such people…
I want to say two things here.
Whether as a friend or as a business partner,
whether he is with you or against you,
he has taken your life.
So, this is possible.
You are in need to be alert from everybody.
Now, I will talk about the spiritual side.
I will talk about Guru Ji's power.
Guru Ji says,
I have told you this.
Now, you go and ask him.
What is this?
When Satsangi Ji goes
and asks that woman,
she starts crying badly.
She says, yes, this is the case.
We have made a mistake.
And she is crying even more badly.
She says, now I will not go from this door at all.
I will not go at all.
Because when Guru Ji told her the whole story without
asking,
she was convinced that
if Guru Ji knows the whole story, then he will also give a
solution.
He will give.
Then Guru Ji said, I cannot do anything.
I can only do this much.
I will call your husband's friend's soul
and you talk to him directly.
See, I am saying very big things on a spiritual level.
And all these possible things happened in front of me.
A practical example.
For example,
a woman's husband's friend's soul was called to someone's
body
whom he had killed.
And then he was asked, what do you want?
He says, my wife and children,
all the share that I have,
should be given to my wife and children.
Because as long as my wife and children are troubled,
and need money,
I will not let them live in peace.
So, there are three examples in this.
One, I am talking about spiritual power.
Second, I am talking about worldliness.
Third, I am talking for those people,
to learn a lesson.
Those who are thinking by cheating someone else,
by killing their friend,
and taking all his property,
that I will have fun.
No.
Your karma will come back to you.
It will definitely come back to you.
Yes, this will be a very very good step towards the
improvement, towards the goodness, towards
the goodness.
Then, in this way, Guruji did the settlement, that okay,
all the properties
of this part, give it to his wife and children.
And then, he said, okay, now you stay in
your place, do not disturb anyone from now on.
He accepted that I will not do it.
The wife and children should not be disturbed.
So, if you think that his soul, in some way
or the other, will do something, that God's justice will be
done.
How will it happen?
If it will not be like this, still, you have killed
someone, then someone else will do the work and go away.
So, don't do anything like this.
Or, as a human being, who is with
you, who is not with you, you should think about this and
decide, see what is going on,
what is not going on, and then assess.
Do not take any decision quickly.
As a HR manager,
when you are doing recruitment, you should see these things.
Because sincere employees
should not only work, they should be honest, dedicated,
cooperative.
The team is formed
only then.
So, I am saying this for HR managers, for sales marketing
professionals, that you as a colleague, do this type of
work, only show off work.
Keep competition, but keep
envious. Envious means, you will not pull other's leg, you
will learn from others, you will
try to make yourself better, you will try to move forward.
To make your line big, do
not think of making other's line small.
You think of making your line bigger with your work, you
start erasing other's line.
Leg pulling is to erase the line.
Do not erase
the line.
If you erase someone else's line and become big, tomorrow
someone will erase
your line also. So, this process, this way of thinking,
this is the result of thinking.
This way of thinking should be eradicated from the root.
If you are with someone, be open
and honest, otherwise do not be.
And for you everybody, I am talking about, before developing
any relationship, before trusting anyone, assess it
carefully, judge it, put your entire radar on it, then only
you can believe in it.
Because, in today's time, there are many
people who show off, but there are very few people who
support. So, assessment is necessary.
You cannot trust the crowd.
Have you ever seen, you go to
the temple, you take off your sandals and go out, you
think, when you come out, there
are hundreds of sandals lying there, all of them are the
same, but in that, who is yours?
You have to find out.
In the same crowd of the world, everyone is the same, they
have hands, feet, nose, mouth, but in that, who is yours,
who is going to support you? You
have to find that. You do not just pick up a sandal and
take it away from the temple.
You find your own sandals and shoes, right? Similarly, your
own, which can be yours, which
can support you, it takes time to find such a candidate.
Till then, keep patience.
it takes 15-20 minutes, you do not get your sandals and
shoes, still you keep looking,
you do not pick up someone else and take it away.
Similarly, even if it is good, you do
not pick it up.
So, if you see someone good or there is someone good, you
have to assess
him. When you feel he is yours, you have to accept him.
Otherwise, no.
Otherwise, if you
do this, then in the long term, you are going to face a lot
of bad things.
Even you can
lose your life.
If he had assessed you in the beginning, before you became
friends, then
no. And a little caution is also necessary.
It is said that if the door of the house is open, then the
honest man's eyes are also deceived.
So, a little caution is also necessary
to maintain relationships.
It is necessary to keep a little gap.
Keep a little gap.
It is said that when a friend becomes an enemy, then he
becomes the biggest enemy because
he knows all your secrets.
When a friend becomes an enemy for any reason, then he
becomes the
biggest enemy because he knows all your secrets.
So, even if he is your best friend, do not tell him all
your secrets.
Do not tell him.
Be your best friend.
Be yourself.
If you
want to trust someone, then trust yourself.
Do not trust anyone more than yourself.
not trust anyone.
I am talking about anyone, whether it is your parents,
brother, sister, wife, friend, neighbor, relative.
If you can, then do it on yourself.
It is said that every
soul has the presence of God.
Then do it on that soul.
Do it on that soul.
He will never
deceive you.
The real father is God.
He is the real father.
is the real father.
Do it on God.
Do it on your Guru.
It will be good for
you in his scolding and beatings.
It is said that it is the same with parents.
But even
in the relationships of parents, a few things have been
manipulated, whether it is because of parents.
Do it on yourself.
Do it on your Guru.
Do it on that person.
Yes. You will
be good in this world also.
You will be good.
And from this world to the world, where everyone
has to go, you will go there also.
You must be thinking.
I have talked about all things like school level, college
level, office level, social level, personal level.
But finally
But finally, if you don't build up trust anywhere, then
that's why I am saying, at least don't take any negative
action to commit suicide like that. If you lose your life,
if you lose people's negative behavior, if you lose the
negativity of the world,
then sometimes you take negative action, you end your life.
No, this is very precious.
This human body is not like that.
When God blesses, then he gives us this human body so that
you get free from this cycle of wandering.
So that you attain salvation.
So use this.
The real use of this is that.
The rest of what you are doing in the world, is just a
means to satisfy your hunger.
You are earning to satisfy your hunger.
This is not the real target of this life.
This precious life is not just for eating, drinking and
dying.
It is for that.
So, if you are troubled by this world, then apply real love
to it.
Where you will get permanent love.
You will get everything.
And when the whole world leaves you, then he comes with you.
He comes with you.
And then he never leaves you.
Never leaves you.
So, mostly some people show off that they are with you.
This whole world is like that.
Showing off, deceiving.
So, here, as long as you want to live, with understanding,
according to the parameters set, there is a lot to talk
about physical life. If finally for that, then connect
yourself with that.
Very peaceful. Yes, you can do.
Do it for you, for yourself.
Think about it, life is very precious, life is very
precious.
And I gave an example of my Gurudev.
There are many such saints.
I don't talk about many, I know a practical example of my
Gurudev.
I had shared this real experience with you.
If any of you are in Srisridhata Ashram, Faridabad,
Haryana, near Delhi border in India, you are most welcome.
There are branches in India, in the world, people from all
over the world, who believe in this, who want to come here,
you are most welcome.
There is a solution to all your problems.
Nothing new for life.
You are not living for the life you are living.
In reality, you have got life only for the purpose of going
beyond.
So, do you want to go?
Do you want to use your life in real?
You will get help in understanding things in this world as
well.
You will enjoy a good school life, college life, personal
and social life, you will enjoy professional life as well.
People come here, talk about their good profession, talk
about starting a company, talk about their marriage, talk
about their children, talk about all the problems, there is
a solution to all the problems.
And finally, the solution to that problem, for which you
have got this life in reality, that also you have got.
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