Hello everybody, good morning to all of you.
This is Vineet Gautam
Your trainer, your coach
and Today I'm going to talk about a topic
Which is exactly going to help you
in solving your problems or
Conflicts in your professional life, personal and social
life.
We only see things from our point of view.
We don't try to understand the point of view of the other
person.
And it can be at any place.
You may be a boss
Did you listen to your juniors when you were not able to
complete any work on time?
Did you try to understand their point of view?
Or not? If you don't do it and you feel that you will
get everything done on a stick, then your team internally
Internally means by heart will not be able to be
You can say that it is a professional life or personal
internal and
Internally emotional.
Mainly, self marketing is less logical and is only
emotional.
You can't convince anyone without emotion.
Yes, when you are going to deal in an emotional situation
You may not be so emotional that you get emotionally
trapped.
Like someone is doing an active acting,
doing an emotional scene, playing.
So if he becomes exactly emotional,
then he will not be able to present himself correctly.
He will not be able to give the right message to the other
person.
His pronunciation of the word will not be correct.
In the same way, there is a conflict in social life.
Why is there a conflict?
Because when the way of thinking of two people
and the way of taking decisions is different,
then there is a conflict.
Whether it is personal life, social life or
professional life.
So here I want to say
You see a stick here.
What is written here?
It doesn't matter.
What matters is that you are standing here or you are
standing there.
Yes.
What matters is that you are standing on this side or you
are standing on this side.
If you are standing on this side, then what is this for
you? It is a six.
If you are standing on this side,
then there is no change here, but it becomes a nine for you.
What does it become for you? It becomes a nine.
Just because you are right,
doesn't mean I am wrong.
What is the statement here?
You are right.
I am not saying that you are not right, but
it is not that I am wrong.
The candidate standing here is saying that it is a six.
He is right in his place.
But when the candidate standing here is saying that it is a
nine,
then he is also right.
He is not wrong.
So just because you are right,
doesn't mean that you are wrong.
You just have not seen my life from my side.
If this person says that it is a six and you are saying
that it is a nine,
and you claim that you are wrong in your place, then you
are wrong.
No, you are right in your place and you are right in your
place.
You have just not seen my life from my side.
The situation in real life,
to understand the conflict resolution
and to understand the point of view of another person,
you have to go into his character.
You have to go into his role.
Until you go into his role, until you understand his
situation exactly,
until then you will not be able to understand the situation
in real life.
It is very easy to point fingers at someone
and it does not work.
It spoils the whole situation.
If the situation spoils, then there will be no team-up.
When there is no team-up, then there is no success.
What will you do alone?
You can't do everything alone, boss.
So, the team is necessary.
I just want to say this,
wherever you are, wherever you are, all the way,
everywhere, in every situation,
wherever you are, in whichever position you are, if I talk
about family life, as a parent, as a husband and wife,
maybe as a child, then as a parent, are you able to
understand the feelings of your children?
Here is your child.
You are here.
He is explaining his point.
He may be right.
He may be right at his or her place.
But, you have declared him wrong from your position.
You have not tried to understand his point of view.
Again, I am talking about the statement just because you
are right.
Many times, you are the other person and you have not been
told that you are wrong.
You may be right, but your right does not mean that the
other person is wrong.
He can also be right.
So, it is very important to understand this.
You, as a conflict resolution, in the process of resolving,
as a senior, in any contradictory situation, you have to
listen to both of your points of view. You will feel that
both of your positions are right.
But, your position is right.
You have to replace his position.
You will be able to understand the situation of the other
person.
As long as you do not assume yourself in the position of
the other person, you will not be able to understand the
situation of the other person.
You will not be able to understand.
Especially, in married life, in the life skills section,
I like to say,
I will tell you a story.
A mother and daughter-in-law had a small fight.
Then, both of their BP was checked.
The BP of the daughter-in-law was normal.
The BP of the mother-in-law was a little high.
Then the BP of the wife's husband and mother-in-law's son
was checked there.
So his BP was very high.
Although he was not a part of the fight.
So in such a situation, why did you think his BP increased?
Because if he takes one step towards his wife in his place,
then the wife says that I have been raising him like a pet
for so many years.
And today, as soon as his wife came, he became his slave.
If he takes one step towards his mother, then the wife says
that I have come with your support, leaving my whole life.
Have you come to do favors?
You are getting all the facilities, you are enjoying your
life.
You live with your parents, the dreams that are not
fulfilled.
You keep dreaming of him that I will go there, I will rule
there, all those dreams.
Where will the boy go to dream about himself? He has been
dying since day one in his father's house.
And as the father dies, you start killing more.
You leave him in your house as a stranger.
He does not even know whether his house is there or not.
Till today, it was his own house.
They were his own parents.
The reality is that from both the points of view,
See, the mother-in-law has fought.
The daughter-in-law does not have BP.
It is her daily routine.
It does not matter to her.
And now, the right has also been given.
The government has given so many rights.
It is said that lakhs of cases, fake cases of dowry, are
lodged and the boy's part is tortured. Illegal benefits are
being taken.
It does not matter to her.
She is very restless.
It does not matter to the mother-in-law either.
Because she will also play her emotional card.
But both the people are playing their emotional cards.
No one is worried about it.
No one is.
It is a matter to think about.
The fight took place between two people.
And their BP is normal.
Do not worry.
But whose BP increased in the middle?
See, it is not a part.
What kind of compulsion is this?
Is this called life?
If this is life, then go to hell.
Go to hell with this life.
I am explaining this topic here because the daughter-in-law
also needs to understand her situation by putting herself
in her husband's place.
But even after doing all that, she is told that you do not
do anything.
And the mother also needs to understand her situation.
This is a personal life issue.
In life skills section, this is a very crucial topic.
Very, very crucial.
The girl who comes after marriage, does not take a second
to say that my life is ruined by marrying you.
It has become hell.
Let me tell you one thing.
Whatever you criticize,
You are saying that my life is ruined by marrying you.
You are criticizing.
Whatever you criticize, it goes away from you.
Both people, the one whose BP is increasing, he is going to
convince both of them.
And both of them are in their place.
And both of them will blame him.
It will be his fault.
It is said that the mother-in-law says that my
daughter-in-law has ruined my life.
I am worried.
The daughter-in-law says that I am worried.
Have you ever heard a boy or a husband saying this?
Who is really worried.
But he is not able to say it.
If he says that he is worried, then he will be beaten up.
Today's girls are stupid.
They don't take a second to say that you were very happy
till now.
As soon as I came, you got worried.
Which means I am your problem.
These stupid girls.
They are studying.
Learn life skills.
There are books that you are studying in school and college.
Go outside.
Learn some life skills.
I am just on my topic.
I am talking about the perspective.
You can't understand the problem of that girl until you put
yourself in her shoes.
I am talking on the personal life.
The ghost in your mind that I have done BA, MA.
Go outside.
The education pattern is useless.
It doesn't teach you anything.
What do you learn by reading Akbar Babar's stories?
What did you learn?
What did you learn by reading A plus B the whole square?
What did you learn in life?
You didn't learn anything.
You should learn something.
Today, you are doing BA, MA.
Ask a girl if she knows how to make roti.
If she knows how to make roti, why does she do MA?
Doesn't a person who does MA feel hungry?
A person who feels hungry should know how to make roti.
Whether it is a girl or a boy.
I am talking about both.
What kind of education is this?
Leave one thing to get something else.
To get something, you have to lose something.
You don't have to lose anything.
To get something, you have to work hard.
You have to do something.
So, the statement I am talking about that if I am standing
here, then I can see 6.
If I come here, then I can see 9.
In this situation, I am saying in my personal life,
If, just because you are right, because you feel that you
are right, doesn't mean I am wrong.
It means that you should not think that you are wrong.
You can be right.
It doesn't mean that you are wrong.
But they don't take a second to take this thing as an
assumption that because I am right, that's why I am wrong.
And no matter whether you are intelligent or not, everyone
becomes a panchayat.
In the fight of others, there are a lot of panchayats.
Whether it is social, personal or official.
Whether you are intelligent or not.
And they will say, yes, this is right.
It has been proved.
Assume that it has been proved that it is right.
But by proving that it is right, what is normally believed?
That there are two parties, so if one is right, the other
will be wrong.
No.
It is not like that.
If one party is right, it does not mean that the other
party is wrong.
Look at it from the point of view of the other party.
Look at it from their point of view.
And you cannot understand their point of view until you put
yourself in their shoes.
And I will tell you one more thing.
Not only by putting yourself in their shoes, you have to
think in their way.
You will be able to understand his point of view.
Then it becomes easier to solve things.
Before you speak, you should think about how your words are
going to impact the other person.
You don't think.
You have become a boss in the office.
Junior is your slave.
Say anything to him.
It won't work, boss.
Your boss will be left behind.
He is not your slave.
He is a small part of that organization.
Even if he is small, but he is your part of the
organization.
He is not your slave.
And you have to do team building.
So, according to his position, he should be considered as a
strong part. For a big machine, sometimes a small nut bolt
becomes very important.
And you think that I am a big machine.
What difference does that small nut bolt make?
It makes a lot of difference.
Until you understand the importance of the other person,
you cannot understand his point of view.
Because you think, what will you say in front of me?
Junior.
I have heard many such statements.
I am talking about senior professionals.
Do you want to be alone?
Do you want to drag your life?
If you want to drag your life, then drag it.
But remember, today there are so many units of Adani and
Ambani.
Adani Gas, we are also supplying gas.
CNG is being supplied.
Does Adani come here to supply gas and CNG?
No.
They have their own organization.
They have their own team.
They are small units.
If they stop trusting people in these units, if they don't
understand their point of view, then what will they do
alone?
So, if you want to be on the top of your field, if you want
to live a successful personal life, then it is important to
understand both their points of view.
In basic married life, the role of the boy is denied, but
the most crucial role is that of the mother.
Leave your worries, son.
People say that being a boy is a matter of pride and
happiness.
Parents celebrate their son's birth, because they feel that
they have been blessed with the stick of their old age.
That is why they celebrate.
You are not doing a favor to your son.
He was born to die.
Responsibility has been taught since childhood.
Son, son, son, son.
You are a boy.
Your responsibility is your responsibility.
He is made a bull from the beginning.
No celebration is done like this.
This world is a world of selfishness.
The material world is based on selfishness.
Do you know that its bricks and cement are made of
selfishness?
All the relationships are made of selfishness.
Do you know?
When someone becomes someone's son, he becomes a son only
when he has some connection with his parents.
When someone becomes someone's wife, as Brahma has written
everything,
a wife is made because she has some connection with her
parents.
And the day,
you must have heard that sometimes a wife leaves early.
Sometimes you must have heard that a son comes in 6 years,
8 years, 10 years, 15 years and leaves.
If he leaves, it means he is dead.
Nothing happens like this.
Everything is planned.
In these relationships, the day the account will be clear,
you run a shop, you go to the people you have a connection
with to ask for money.
You keep going.
You are getting money every day.
But the day your connection will be over, you will stop
going to him.
The same is the case with these relationships.
The day the account is clear, if he is a father, he is gone.
If he is a mother, she is gone.
If he is a son, he is gone.
If he is a daughter, she is gone.
This is a relationship of selfishness.
So, understand your role in real.
Try to understand the point of view of the other person.
This is the normal thing outside.
If there is a conflict between two people, the normal
tendency is that if two people are fighting, one is right
and the other is wrong.
Like this.
And as soon as one person is proven right, the other person
is considered wrong.
His point of view is not heard.
There are only two situations.
One is right and the other is wrong.
One person is proven right, so the other person is wrong.
No.
You tell me what to do in this situation.
He is calling her 6 from his place.
She is calling him 9 from her place.
The statement is clear.
Just because you are right, doesn't mean I am wrong.
It does not mean that I am wrong.
You just haven't seen life from my side.
You haven't seen your life, your problem, your situation
from my angle.
You haven't thought about it.
So, let me tell you one thing.
Whatever you give, good or bad, you are going to get it as
a return.
In the office, as a boss, the way you behave with your
juniors, you too, even if you are a junior, you are going
to be treated the same way.
Because if they are your seniors, they know your behavior.
And secondly, when you behave well, when you get feedback,
your team supports you.
And everyone supports the person who has a team.
So, if you want support, first learn to behave well.
And for that, it is important to understand the point of
view of the other person. Today, on this topic,
I am talking not only to the professional persons, to the
social persons also, and to the personal also.
You and I,
we are the same people.
When we are at home, it is a personal matter.
When we are in society, it is a social matter.
The character is the same.
When you go to the office, you become professional.
The problem is the same.
And when your point of view, the way you think, changes, it
will change everywhere.
So, things will be fine everywhere.
And if you don't change, the problem will remain everywhere.
Yes.
What do you think? If you are very good in your personal
life, you will not be good in the office. If you utilize
those things there, you will be good there also.
And if you are bad here, you will be bad there also.
For being successful
Understanding Interview is very important
And to answer this simple question, the aspirant took time.
The interviewer said, why are you taking so much time for
such a simple question? 2 plus 2 is equal to 4, don't you
know?
The aspirant said, I have come for IAS in the interview.
I thought, why is this question being asked to me at the
nursery level?
I thought, there must be something special in this.
The aspirant said, no.
When you become an IAS officer in a district, all kinds of
people will come to meet you.
Not only educated candidates of IAS level, you will also
have mediocre, literate, semi-literate, illiterate
villagers.
If you keep the question of understanding interview at your
own level, you will not be able to understand the problems
of a poor, illiterate person.
Yes, I am not talking about small things.
I am talking about practical questions.
I am talking about a very big faculty.
Medical College.
They say, when you are going to give training in a session,
as a faculty, you should keep your attitude aside.
Keep it out.
Take the attitude of a trainer, a faculty.
And what is the attitude of a faculty and a trainer?
The attitude of a trainer is to train the other person
according to his level.
It is very clear.
As far as I am concerned, until you take yourself to that
level according to the level of the other person,
you will not be able to understand his point of view, his
problem.
You will not be able to understand.
I gave you two examples of top labels.
I am talking about boys now.
I have talked about girls till now.
But keeping girls happy is not such a stressful job.
It is not.
Take them out and feed them sweets.
They become happy.
Take them out in the evening and feed them ice-cream.
It is their favorite.
They become happy.
You are going out for 8 hours, 10 hours, 12 hours.
You are waiting at home.
You are roaming around in the house.
You take chocolates with you.
They become happy.
Do you even do this or not?
Assume that you are kept at home for 2-4 days.
What will be your expectation?
If you think from this point of view, then solving things
is not that difficult.
I just talked about boys' problems.
But it does not mean this.
If you prove them wrong, then you are right.
This is also a point of view.
Here I talked positively.
Just because you are right, doesn't mean I am wrong.
Now I will reverse it.
Just because you are wrong, just because you are wrong,
doesn't mean I am right.
If you prove the other person wrong,
doesn't mean you are right.
No, you are not.
It is very important to understand small things.
Educated girls come to home.
As a homemaker, you write the household chores.
You earn 50,000, 1,00,000 or 2,00,000 rupees.
You give 5,000 or 10,000 per month.
Or if she needs 100 or 200 rupees, then she has to ask you.
This is also a problem.
If she wants to give something to her family, her mother,
her nephews, nieces, she wants to give something to them.
So, she comes to you for everything.
She asks you to give her 100 or 200 rupees.
And you are happy by making her say that.
Then you are wrong, boss.
You are wrong.
We also say that when we give money for household chores,
every homemaker, housewife, saves something.
It is a good thing that they save.
It is their technique.
But why are you forcing them to do this?
Don't they have any right?
I am not just talking about one part.
I am recommending them to understand their pain.
So that their pain is also understood.
You bring gifts from outside and tell them that I bring
gifts.
They would also feel like bringing a surprise gift for you.
And how would you feel if they ask you for money?
How would you feel?
They would also feel like getting something for their son
or daughter.
They go to the market, the child is crying,
I want this.
And she is calling you to confirm.
Should I get this for her?
No.
You know, the image of a person, the weight of a person,
your family, your wife, your children, how they are
existing in society, getting up, sitting, talking, eating,
drinking, clothes, all these things are based on their
image. Your wife is not able
to talk properly, nor is she able to wear clothes.
I am a lion.
If you are a lion, your child should be a lion too.
You roar like a lion and if he roars like a female, his
look is like a female, then your lion will fall.
Yes.
So you will have to do that too.
And again, I was talking from your point of view.
As a duty,
I don't know how to do my duty.
I don't want to do any duty.
I am just talking about my right.
There should be no conflict at any level.
Inflation is increasing.
I am telling you the real situation today.
Inflation is increasing.
The situation that did not happen in the last two years due
to Corona, the situation is more ridiculous than that in
today's date.
Everything has become 30 to 40 percent expensive.
Everything.
Samosas have increased from 10 to 15 percent.
Rice vendors, lentils vendors, vegetables vendors, fruit
vendors, everyone has increased their rates.
What did they say?
That inflation is coming from above.
That means God has also increased it.
But an employee, where he is working, his boss, is still
giving him a low salary in the name of Corona.
This means that such a boss is not understanding the real
problem of his employee. And when you don't understand the
problem, then there is a limit to bear the pain.
He will blast.
The problem will come.
It will be very typical.
That's why you keep yourself in the place of your employee.
The one who earns 50,000 is earning 30,000-40,000 today.
And inflation is compelling him that you should be 60-70
instead of 40-50.
Then your expenses will be maintained.
Because inflation has increased by 30 percent at every
level.
Now you can say that you are not earning from above.
Here, the cost of daily use has increased.
And when you go to the retailer, he says that inflation is
coming from above.
He will charge you.
And your salary has not increased.
It has decreased.
It has decreased since before.
And it has decreased even today.
So understanding this pain, as a boss, as an organizer, as
a government, it is important to understand them too.
And the retailers who claim that inflation has increased,
Baba, you also understand the pain of the public.
Understand their point of view.
I am using this statement all the way for everybody, at
each and every situation.
At every level.
Take it for teaching.
In Corona, not double, how many attacks have been done?
Online education, children's education was not proper.
In the eyes of the government, the education field was
never closed.
But how much injustice was done to the workers in the
education field.
Four teachers used to take four classes.
The education system took out three, merged four classes
and put one teacher.
The government took the payment from everyone.
The government took the payment from everyone, from all the
children, from all the parents.
Even, even transport, because we understand the pain of the
other person.
Transport charges were also taken in many places.
It was said that the bus driver, the conductor, how will we
pay them in installments?
Nobody is understanding anyone's pain.
It is just their own thing.
But what was delivered,
that zero.
The children who have studied in Corona for two years, when
they are asked a question,
they say,
Sir, there was no education in Corona.
There was no education.
The house was tortured.
Everything was taken away.
Even I am from the same education field, so I know the
practical.
Many children are not going to study.
Their fees have been set so much.
And the pressure is that they cannot take their children
from one school to another.
Because today, there is a link with Aadhaar card.
When he applies for admission in another school, and as
soon as his profile is entered, it is seen there that this
child is already enrolled in that school.
And these people do not have these rules.
But these people have mutual union that a school child
cannot go to another school and take admission.
So, our social coordination that is being made, in the
right way, the official coordination that is being made,
there should be a coordination.
When we say coordination, there should be a coordination.
For this, it is necessary that you along with yourself,
whatever is in front of you,
try to understand its point of view.
Today, I am talking about a basic problem.
Nowadays, children are watching mobile a lot at home.
They are watching mobile a lot.
Parents themselves are busy with their mobile or with their
work.
You have closed the house.
You have given more instructions.
The child does not have to go to the neighbor's house.
Stay at home.
You are busy with your work.
Madam is busy in the kitchen.
What should the child do?
Why don't you understand her point of view?
What should she do?
Involve her somewhere.
And then, in the public, you do not hesitate to say,
otherwise, Madam will get angry.
So, she goes to the school and complains to her teacher
that she watches mobile a lot at home.
She gets angry at her teacher.
The child is thinking,
I watch mobile only when there is no one to play with me.
What should I do?
I watch mobile only when I get bored.
And when the child starts watching,
there is some content in it that she likes.
She gets busy with it.
You do not have time to get busy.
If you had time, if you were busy, she would not have gone
to the mobile.
So, you cannot understand the problem of the child's
emotions until and unless you see her from your position as
a guardian.
You come to her position.
Come to her position.
Consider yourself a child.
Think about what the thoughts of that 5-year-old,
6-year-old, 8-year-old child are saying.
Then you will be able to give a solution.
I am talking professionally.
As a general manager, you cannot understand the problem of
managers, executives, senior executives.
You have to keep yourself in their place.
Yes.
You remember those days, Baba.
You didn't become a direct GM.
Remember those days.
When you were an executive senior, executive assistant
manager, what all happened to you?
How did you think about your seniors?
If you keep that thing in mind and think, then you can
understand their problems even today without telling.
But you want to live in the present.
I am not saying that you should live in the past.
But it is also said that learn from the past.
It is important to learn from your past.
And live the present in that way.
And plan the future in that way.
You can be a better senior, better boss.
Not dominating, but a cooperating boss.
Yes, you can be a cooperative leader.
But there is a little difficulty in this.
Why do these leaders give reservations?
Because by giving reservations, they don't need to be
involved for 5 years.
They need to be with the public and understand their pain.
They don't need to solve their problems unit-wise.
They give reservations, set quota system, and are sitting
in their own space, roaming around abroad, having fun. And
in this way, they are making the public useless.
We are also doing the same with our children.
There are many ways to feed a child.
Take it from the fridge.
I am eating chocolate.
If I have toothache, I slap him.
He keeps eating chocolate.
Now the child thinks.
She herself says, take it.
Because she doesn't have time to talk to her friends.
I will show you a scene.
You imagine, visualize.
On the bed, on one side husband, on the other side wife.
One is busy with her laptop.
The other is busy with her tab.
The child is looking at both sides.
And is thinking, am I born?
Or am I downloaded?
I am in the middle.
They don't even know.
One more thing.
Children never do what you tell them to do.
Children do what you do.
Boss, as a senior professional I am talking.
I am telling to you.
Your juniors are not going to do all that.
They are not going to do all the things that you tell them
to do.
They will do what you do.
You want your employees, your team to do good work.
You are punctual, dedicated, hardworking, honest.
Your team will be like that.
Yes.
Will be.
You want your team to be punctual, dedicated, hardworking,
passionate.
But you don't do anything like that.
You are not like that.
It means, you are not worthy of having a dedicated,
hardworking, passionate team. And we get things only those
things we are worthy of.
And these things apply to both.
I am again coming to this topic.
You are right, it doesn't mean I am wrong.
And second thing, if you have proved someone wrong, it
doesn't mean you are right.
This too, ask yourself.
He has the real calculator.
There is some God Almighty.
There are 800 crore people on earth.
And no one has the same face.
This is the basis on which these hands are made.
There are millions of people, but none of them have the
same face.
There is so much space.
There is so little face.
But none of them have the same face.
None of them have the same retina.
You don't believe in God.
But, there is such a great artist, master mind maker,
designer, architect, who has created such an art, among 800
crore people, none of them have the same face. So, at least
accept that power, and be afraid of it.
If he can create such a great art, then you are proving
someone wrong, and proving yourself right, without any
doubt, he will do the math right.
He will do it right.
And people use a word,
God fearing.
Don't be afraid of anyone in this world.
You think you are very smart.
Because you can fool everyone.
But at least be afraid of him.
If you are God fearing, then you will be able to understand
the pain of the other person.
You will be able to understand his point of view.
You can be a better person.
Because, the people of the society will tell you better,
when you are able to understand their pain and emotions.
You behave according to that.
Whatever you do, it is better if you don't do it. It is
better if you don't do it.
Avoid it.
So, if you want to make a good social infrastructure,
personal, family infrastructure, or professional
infrastructure, if you want to create a positive
atmosphere, if you want to create a real bonding, official
bonding, social and personal, then you should
try to understand the point of view of the other person.
And this,
I am not saying this for one person,
I am saying this for everyone.
And when I am understanding your point of view, you are
understanding mine, he is understanding his point of view,
she is understanding her point of view, if both of them are
understanding each other's point of view, then there will
be no conflict.
The solution will come automatically.
The solution is yours, yours is with you, mine is with me.
If we respect each other's point of view, this is how it is
in family life.
It is not necessary that husband and wife agree on every
point of view.
But respect each other's point of view, Baba.
Respect it.
Maybe you don't agree with him, but because she is your
wife, respect her point of view.
Because he is your husband.
Respect his way of thinking.
In the office, you may think, she is less educated, she is
my wife. Nonsense.
No, no, no, no.
It won't work.
In the office, you may think, he is my junior,
I am his 10-15 year senior.
What is his point of view? No.
Point of view.
If you don't understand then you won't get voting.
This is democracy.
You won't be able to be a boss.
You won't be able to carry as a sincere boss.
So, if you want to be successful either in your personal
life, social life or professional life then listen to the
other person and understand his point of view.
It is not necessary that if you are right then the other
person is wrong.
You should look at his point of view from his point of view.
Then you will be able to understand the problem.
See, any case where there is a problem between two people
it happens because both of them don't have the same opinion.
If both of them listen to each other's point of view then
the problem can be solved.
I will give you a practical example.
It is a rainy night.
A man is running from his office to his house.
He hears the crying of a child.
He looks around.
He can't see anything.
He can't see any child.
Then again he hears a cry.
There is a temple nearby.
He goes there.
He sees a small child of 2-4 months in the shadow of the
temple.
He is wrapped in a cloth.
He is crying.
What would he do in such a situation? It is natural.
He will pick up the child.
He looks around.
He calls out.
Is there anyone?
Whose child is this?
Why isn't anyone picking him up?
Take him away.
How did you leave the child here in the shadow?
No one replies.
No one listens to him.
Humanity tells us to pick up the child.
It picks up the child.
It doesn't have a wife.
It is alone.
It looks around.
At this time, a priest comes.
The priest comes before the child.
When the child is crying in the shadow, he is standing
there.
He is thinking of leaving.
The priest says,
Why are you leaving the child?
He says,
It is my child.
If it is my child, then whose child is it?
I can't see anyone else here.
It is your child.
Why are you leaving it?
The priest, while the police jeep is leaving, the priest
tells the police,
Sir, look, he is leaving his child.
He says,
It is not my child.
Sir, there is no one else here.
It is raining heavily.
This child belongs to him.
He is leaving it.
The police says,
Take the child.
Run away.
He took the child.
He started taking care of the child.
However, he goes there for 3-4 days, 5 days daily.
He has also told the priest,
It is not my child.
If anyone comes and asks, tell them,
I will return the child.
But this is not possible.
After a few days, it is found that the child is not normal.
The doctor said,
His wife is not there.
He is taking care of his child.
He becomes the support of his life.
Slowly, he gets attached.
If he is not attached, why will he care?
Gradually, the child grows up.
When the child is 19 years old, suddenly a lady, who does
concerts, does programs for children, she comes.
Suddenly, they have to meet.
They take the child out.
They go to different places.
And then,
it is found that the child has a childhood photo.
The child has a childhood photo.
A similar photo.
Because when he went there, he took it out.
So, he also has it.
That photo, the same child,
which is an abnormal child, has gone to his house, of the
lady.
So, he has seen.
One day, he finds that photo in his house.
So, he takes it.
He says, both the photos are the same.
They are the same.
Now, the lady finds out that this child is mine.
This is my real child, which I had left on the steps of the
temple 19 years ago.
Now,
she tells the father to give her child to her.
For the father, everything is the same.
He is obsessed with it.
Look at the game of fate.
No one is going to ask about the good and the bad. They are
fighting to take that abnormal child.
Now, that lady, because the father has refused that this is
his child, the lady has filed a case in the court
that this is her child.
Biologically, it is her child.
But, she has raised an abnormal child for so many years by
kidnapping him.
Look,
both are right in their places.
Standing here, as a father,
the man who kidnapped the child from the steps of the
temple 19 years ago, thinking from his side, you tell me,
is he wrong?
No, you cannot say he is wrong.
If you think from the side of the mother,
why did she keep him on the steps of the temple?
What was her helplessness?
Being married,
without marriage, that child was not able to be raised.
She did not even have the assets to raise him.
That is why she left him.
This is also right in its place.
Here, she did not even have the assets to raise the child.
But, she did.
Now,
you cannot say either of these is wrong.
But,
the child will be given to only one person.
Being given to only one person does not mean that the other
party is wrong.
It is not wrong.
In a situation, a compromise is made to understand the
emotions of the other person.
You, as a judge,
are the judge of the court in which the case is going on.
So, you think what decision you are going to take in such a
situation.
On whose side are you going to decide?
The judge has to listen and understand the emotions of both
the people and then decide.
But, I cannot say that if we understand the situation of
the other person in detail,
if the other person understands my situation, then we can
come together and find a right solution.
And then, we can be a good family person, a good social
person and a good professional person also.
So, not only yourself,
but also try to understand the point of view of the other
person.
I'm talking about this.
Yes.
I'll make sure to spread the word to all my classmates.