Hello everybody, good evening to all of you.
This is Vineet Gautam, your coach, your trainer and today I
would like to give you
very crucial tips for being successful in your professional
life.
Hello professionals, hello sales and marketing
professionals or any kind of the professionals I'm going to
talk to you.
Whoever is intending to be
successful, to become successful, I would like to talk to
you all.
Now you ask yourself, who among you
wants to be successful?
Wherever you are, at whatever level you are, if you want to
move ahead, if you want to do something, then I would like
to talk to you.
You are the candidate with whom I want to talk.
This is Vineet Gautam,
motivational speaker, mind coach, life coach, author, my
book, learning attitude, specialist for
corporate trainers, but this is for everybody.
Whoever is interested to be successful,
he has to become a good learner.
If learning attitude is missing,
then don't think about becoming successful.
So, a good learner, before that a good listener.
A good listener can be a good learner.
You can have a good
learning attitude and that is the
path of being successful in whichever the field you are,
whatever you want to be, whatever you are right now.
Whatever you are now,
whatever you want to become, wherever you want to go,
how? Learning attitude is important and for that it is
important to be a good listener.
In communication skills section, we will tell you what
category of listener you should be.
Critical, you should know what is the use of what the other
person is saying.
The things you can learn and understand about your work,
that will benefit you.
Now the question is,
I have told you about learning attitude in your book.
Second, you can do.
A positive frame of mind that you can do.
Because this is the mindset which is inspiring you to do
something, to take some action, to move ahead.
Because many times, learning attitude is there, you have
learned,
you have knowledge, but you don't have self-belief that you
can do.
So my second book, which is on life
skills, the complete package for life skills, there is a
first volume.
You can do and within you can do,
you get the roadmap on which you want to move forward, you
move forward.
And then, to be successful, your age, caste and any other
special education
doesn't matter.
It does matter. So that is your thinking.
So first I talked about thinking,
learning attitude.
You can do.
I said, think with a learning attitude.
Where will the learning attitude come from? How can you be
a good learner?
Before that, you have to become a good listener.
Because the one who listens,
will learn.
The one who learns,
will move forward.
And will be successful. See, success is easy.
But if you do it with a strategy, with a planning, then it
is easy.
If you do it with a magic wand,
then no.
A continuous effort,
hard work, smart work, you will need to do.
You will need to do.
In that, you don't think,
Today, a 12-year-old boy becomes an IITian.
A 12-year-old boy becomes an IITian.
Our social level, our environment,
has made us limited.
Many times, a child wants to do something.
In that,
in-built, something special is there, which God has created
and sent something special.
But this society doesn't let us do it.
If a child wants to do it, what do people say?
You are a child. This is not a child's job.
Saying this, you have put a limitation, a boundary for him.
He has told you your age. No, Baba.
Age is just a number.
Sometimes, it is for being small, sometimes it is for being
big.
Because when you are 60 plus,
people still say, you can't do it. You are a retired man.
You have reached the age of retirement.
Now, you can't do it.
So, the very first thing that you have to remove from your
mind
is that age is not a matter.
Age is just a number.
This age, whether it is small or big,
whether it is less or more, in both situations,
there should not be a barrier in the path of your success.
There should not be a barrier.
Because even a child can do it.
For example, if a 12-year-old child is doing IIT,
then an old-age man can also do it.
The founder of KFC
proved that even a 60 plus person can start a big business.
Even a 60 plus person, when he leaves life, giving up, I
told you not to give up.
He thinks, now I just have to count the days. I am waiting
for death. No.
No.
Don't give up.
Every day is a new day. Always try to do something new,
something different.
Yes, I can. Yes, I can. Yes, I can.
So, don't take care about your age.
If a child is 8 years old, he has friends in the village.
They are good friends.
There are farms in the village, which are far away from the
village. One day, those two friends, in the afternoon,
reached the farm. They are far away from the house, and
especially in the afternoon, there is no one near the farm.
The farmers work in
the morning, when the sun rises.
So, they rest at home.
Then, in the evening, they go and work.
At that time, there is no one there.
In the village, even today, in the water fields, there are
wells.
Well, which is a deep pit in the ground.
which has water
because there in the fields, water is not used for
irrigation, but to drink it is used while coming and going,
if there is thirst then water is taken out of the well and
drunk mostly there is a bucket and a rope is tied to it and
kept there so that anyone
can drink water from it it is a system while playing these
children reach near the well and while playing by mistake,
they get pushed and the big child the big friend the 8 year
old he falls in the well he falls in the well
now till far away there are only fields and it is afternoon
there is no one who can help them the 5 year old who is one
of the two friends
he has fallen in the well the 5 year old who is the other
friend he is outside the well he wants to save his friend
there is no one to help him till far away
if he goes to call someone from the village till then his
friend may lose his life he is in the well he is in the
water he may lose his life he thinks what to do but nothing
happens he sees his friend he is restless in the well you
can understand when
you fall in the water there is a problem in breathing
he wants to save him he puts the bucket in the well he puts
the bucket in the well 30 feet below in the well there is a
friend who is 3 years older than him he puts the bucket in
the well he helps his friend and the 5 year old who is 3
years older than
him helps his 8 year old friend 30 feet below from the well
with the help of rope pulls him out you will say how is
this possible that 30 feet below from the well a 5 year old
helps his 3 year old friend when he goes to the village he
tells his story
the villagers say he is lying he is joking no one believes
him because just like you people the villagers were also
thinking that how can this small child do this how can this
small child do this he is lying this will never happen then
they go to a person
if you belong to a village then there is a smart person in
every village with whom everyone takes advice and asks for
a solution so everyone together goes to the uncle of that
village uncle, uncle these two children are saying he fell
down and his friend
saved him how is this possible how is this possible see the
uncle says yes, it is possible it is possible when I tell
you people these things you people feel it is nonsense talk
about knowledge knowledge was there yesterday people were
there yesterday
today we have a platform big social media so you can show
your knowledge can make people understand knowledge was
there yesterday let me give you an example
Baba Bhageshwar Dham
Baba Bhageshwar Dham understands people's mental problems
without asking on paper he writes you people have been
watching for a year or two you feel it is a miracle in our
Sanatan Dharma this has been happening for centuries but
then there was no social
media there were no media channels which would show these
things live and would reach the common people some
knowledgeable people who could reach those saints they were
left with this and they because the common people would not
believe it they would
not even tell so this did not reach the common people
I am also one of those who have not tolerated this for
centuries but at least
I have known it for two decades our Gurudev
Swami Sudarshanacharya Ji Maharaj
Jagadguru Jagadguru Swami Sudarshanacharya Ji Maharaj he
does this often many times
I have seen him doing this but those things were not
published that is why it was not known now I come to the
story that uncle, the villagers say it is absolutely
impossible so how? so how? how? this child was able to do
this because he was very powerful
or he had the passion to save his friend how did a 5 year
old become so powerful on that day? no this whole game is
of mindset because at that time he was not able to do this
if you come to do this and there is no one to stop you then
I don't know what
all you can do you are limited isn't it? there is a saying
the bigger the sheet, the more you spread your feet what is
this statement? to limit your power is the statement to
stay within your limits to stay within your limits you are
a child you belong
to this caste you are less educated this is not your
ability saying this this society forces us to stay within
our limits forces us to stay within our limits our society
now how did that child take a 5 year old and 8 year old 30
feet under the well this
was not applicable if there was someone there to say that
you are younger than him you are still a child you cannot
do this then he actually could have done it but there was
no one there to say that you cannot do this he had a
passion he could not see
his friend drowning he wanted to save him was there power
in him or not this is a different matter the question is
not about power a person is not powerful by his body he
should be powerful by his mind what does mind mean? it
means thinking your thinking
should be right positive you have decided not to give up so
you can do anything the child did this because there was no
one there to say that you are a child you cannot do this
this is not your work you cannot do this this is not your
work so the child
did this yes you can do anything
I have given you an example of age.
Age does not matter.
It is said that age is not the limit, nor is there a
bondage of birth. It means caste.
When someone falls in love, then the mind only looks.
I am saying here, age is not the limit, nor is there a
bondage of birth. When someone wants success, then what
should he look for in success?
He should look for your thoughts.
Positive thoughts.
Success is to come to you.
You are restless.
But your thoughts are not there to bring it to you.
Your thoughts are that
I am young.
How can I gain this work, how can I gain this success?
I belong to this caste.
How can I do this work?
In my caste, see, in my caste, no one has done this.
Then how can I?
A negative thought, which is built in the mind.
Till today, no child of my age has done this, that five
years older than him, is pulled out of the well 30 feet
below.
If this thought had come to that child's mind, then he
would have surrendered.
He would have given up.
And then he would not have been able to do this work.
He would not have been successful in doing this work.
Why did he become successful?
Because he did not think like that.
He was not limited.
We will have to come out of this thought.
The thought that tells us to spread my legs as much as your
bed sheet.
Why Baba?
I will bring a big bed sheet.
Why should I gather my legs?
I will spread my legs as much as I can.
I will bring a big bed sheet.
I will bring a double bed sheet.
What does a double bed sheet of my resources mean?
You tell them,
I do not have money,
I do not have resources.
How can I do this project?
And because of this, before doing that project, you give up.
Do not give up on the project.
Increase your resources.
Update yourself.
If you need a new skill, improve it, enhance it.
But do not give up on that target.
99% of the people here give up on that target because they
do not consider themselves capable.
Whether it is physically, mentally, monetary wise,
resources, manpower, or in any other way.
There are many things.
Or sometimes, they do not consider themselves of that age.
They do not consider themselves experienced, mature.
When you get the chance, you do not consider yourself to be
that old.
You consider yourself to be young.
God is giving you a chance to do it.
Whether you get the chance or not, when will you get it?
When will you get it?
When you get the chance, when you get the idea, then do it.
God has made you capable enough to understand your inbuilt
power.
Understand it.
Use it.
Do it.
Jati.
It is not necessary that you are not a Brahmin.
If I talk about Jati, then you cannot become a writer.
What about Balmiki? Was he a Brahmin?
Surdas, Rabidas, Kalidas.
They have become such great writers.
It is said that there is no age limit for talent.
There is no Jati.
And there is no special education.
Wilgates says, they are not highly educated.
If I talk about today, all the successful people are not
highly educated.
And they are successful.
Do you know why?
Because the process of getting a higher degree teaches us
to stay within our limits.
You are educated, you cannot do this.
I am educated,
I cannot do this.
And our educated conscious mind teaches us to calculate, to
make limited calculations that you cannot do this.
You are stupid.
You think like this.
You are educated, you think like this. A child says,
I want an elephant in this bottle.
Inside the bottle.
When a child says this, people say, he is a child, he is
stupid, he is illiterate, if someone says this, then it is
understandable.
You, you are educated.
When Jio launched the company, it was two years ago, when
this thought came, when there were landline phones, when
the thought came, that a mobile phone will come, and what
will happen with the mobile phone?
Then we will not have to put any code.
If you want to dial a study number, then put this pin code,
put this code, put that code.
Now, wherever you are, you will dial a number and you will
talk. If a child thinks this, he says, yes, he is a child,
he can think anything, he is stupid.
When an illiterate person says this, he says, yes, he is
stupid.
If an educated person says this, then people say, you are
also an educated person. And the world has made a circle
for educated people by saying this. They do not take their
thoughts beyond that circle.
Because they are educated.
That is why, the big things, they either think like a child
or are less educated.
Because they think beyond the circle.
They think beyond the circle.
And this happened.
Today, I remember, when this transformation was happening,
you are calling a person, you are thinking that he is in
the next building, he is from your sector, and you find out
that he is in Mumbai, and you did not know.
Earlier, when you used to call on landline, you had to put
Mumbai's study code.
Now, without the code, you have dialed the number, and you
are talking there.
He says, oh, and earlier, the incoming fee was also high.
Outgoing was high.
So, people used to say, oh, I am here, so much money is
being deducted.
You are in Mumbai,
I thought you are at home.
You did not know.
Earlier, you used to know.
There was a surprise.
This surprise could happen because before thinking about
it, that person broke his circle.
If you want to do something big, if you want to do
something different, then first of all, make your thinking
different.
Make your thinking big.
Until the thinking is not big, until the thinking is not
different, nothing can be different.
Nothing can be big.
Get out of your circle of thinking.
Make your thinking big.
When the circle of thinking is big, something big will also
happen. And in that, in the middle of that thinking, your
age,
Age, whether it is 10 years old or 60 years old.
Because the age limit is also there that you are a child,
you cannot do it.
Remove it from there too.
And even if you are 60 years old, then remove the number 60
from your mind.
And believe me, age is just a number.
And as a mind coach, I tell you, there are two types of age.
One is physical age, the age of the body, the birth you
took, it is counted according to the date of birth.
And the other is mental age.
And mental age is always 50% of your physical age.
If you are 60 years old, this is your physical age, don't
let it influence your mental age.
Because what is your mental age?
Just 30.
So whenever someone asks, you will say 30, not 60.
Let it be in the papers.
Leave the other person.
You say to yourself,
I am of 30, I am of 30.
Your thinking will be of those of 30.
You will not think before jumping and jumping.
Because you are of 30.
A person of 30 can jump.
He can think of creative things.
If you believe you are 60, then you will say, I have become
old.
Now I cannot jump.
This is not a good thing.
Does this suit an old man?
Now it is not your turn to think.
Your age has limited the space in your mind.
It has limited the space in your thinking.
You cannot think of anything big now.
You have become old.
Either you have become old, or you have not become old.
These are two thoughts.
Either you have become old, you cannot do anything. Or you
have not become old, you are still a child.
That is why you cannot do anything.
This thought has limited us.
And because of such thoughts, many times we let go of big
opportunities.
By thinking that I am still young, how will I handle such a
big project?
I will give you my example.
15 years ago, I had got a very big project.
15 years ago,
I already had a training communication coach.
I had a general manager,
Mr. H.R. Tyagi, who used to come to improve communication.
His daughter also used to come with him.
She was doing MCOM at that time.
He stayed with me for many months and improved
communication. Mainly he was having good communication.
But he was a very knowledgeable man in management.
He was a management consultant.
Companies used to hire him to solve their management
problems.
Now to do this, he was getting offers from outside.
He had to go abroad.
So, his advanced level of communication skills and voice
and accent used to be a problem.
And he was here for that purpose.
We stayed together for many months.
Classes used to go on.
We used to have a session on communication skills.
In the meantime, as a professional, he was a very nice guy.
Very professional candidate.
He must have done some assessment.
I used to run my own normal institute.
He gave me an offer of Rs. 50 lakhs.
He told me to convert my institute into a private limited
company.
And develop the contents in this way so that I can give it
a franchise at a national level.
Increase the work.
I will give the building.
I will arrange for the transport.
15 years ago, Rs. 50 lakhs.
Today, Rs. 5 lakhs.
Can we assume Rs.
10 lakhs?
That means, an investment of Rs.
10 lakhs has come to your table. An investment of Rs.
10 lakhs has come to your table and with the money in front
of you, you are convincing me to do it. You can do it.
And nothing to worry.
I am not saying that you should start returning me today.
When it starts happening, give it to me.
But, he is also saying that you don't believe, I believe.
I have my 20-25 years of experience.
I am telling you that you can do it.
But, what was in my mind?
The same age.
I am still young.
How can I handle such a big project? I am not capable.
I cannot do it.
And by doing this,
I left such a good offer.
To think what?
Just by thinking that
I am still young.
I cannot handle such a big project.
I am telling my practical story.
And I left that project.
Maybe if I had taken that in that, then in 15 years,
I don't know how big an account book
Private Limited Company would have.
I am telling you all that such types of opportunities can
come in your way.
Opportunities come in everyone's way.
Are you ready to grab it with your good thinking or not?
That's a big question.
Or like me, like me, by giving an excuse of your age,
you want to leave it.
I want to give a practical example.
Don't leave it like me.
After a long time, today I have learned.
But now, it's been 15 years,
I haven't got such an opportunity again.
Sometimes you also think that you will get another
opportunity.
I am telling you,
I haven't got it again.
Okay.
Now I am a trainer.
I am doing.
But 15 years ago, if I had converted it into a company,
then you will also understand that if I had taken that
decision at that time, then today the situation would have
been different.
I am not doing anything wrong.
That's why, never think about your age, that you are young,
that you are young, that you are young, that you are young,
that you are
young, that you are young, that you are young, that you are
young, that
you are young, that you are young, that you are young.
or at the last moment, you give yourself an excuse of being
young, of low caste, and of being less educated and you
refuse to grab that opportunity.
How can he give you a slap, Baba?
He wants to give. He gives too.
He gives and he wants to give too.
But if you don't accept it, what will he do?
What will he do? He won't be able to do anything.
He won't be able to do anything, Baba.
He won't be able to do anything. So it's up to you.
I have given a practical example with my honesty.
You get opportunities to be successful.
If you are ready to grab that opportunity with good
thinking and good preparation, grab the opportunity, then
you will be successful.
To be successful, age, caste, special education, or ability
don't matter.
Your thinking should be right.
If your thinking is not positive, if you don't have
self-belief, if you don't have self-confidence, if you have
given a logic of not having self-confidence for whatever
reason, because you are young, you can't do it.
Because you don't belong to this caste, you can't do it.
Because I am not specially educated in this qualification,
that's why I can't do this work. No, it's not like that.
It's not like that.
All the successful people are successful today because they
are not well-educated.
The thought of being well-educated binds us in a circle.
It forces us to think,
I am a B.A.
pass student, how can I make a gulgappa? You keep saying
that a B.A.
pass student is selling gulgappa, a B.Tech student is
selling juice, someone is selling samosas, someone is
selling momos.
The parameter of education that we have made, the problem
is here.
We make ourselves qualified, we become educated.
If you learn something, you get work based on what you
learn.
I am saying that you take three years to graduate, and then
you sell gulgappas, you have a problem selling momos.
If you had learned something in the process of taking a
three-year degree,
I am talking about learning, not about being qualified or
taking a certificate.
If you had learned something, then you don't have to make
gulgappas.
If you learn to make momos and gulgappas in three to six
months, I am talking about learning,
if you learn, then you,
I told you that after being educated, education has limited
us in a certain area, and that area makes us useless,
unemployed, unsuccessful.
Do you want to be useless, unemployed, unsuccessful?
Then study.
And if you want to be successful, if you want to do
something, then learn something.
Learn something.
I told you, learning attitude.
Learn to grow.
Learn to earn.
If you want to earn, not just money, but if you want to
earn respect, then you have to learn something.
If you want to move forward, then learn something.
Don't study.
Don't take a certificate.
Don't take a degree.
It is of no use.
That certificate, that degree, is a hindrance for you in
making you successful.
Because you have not learned anything.
You can't do a big thing.
You won't do a small thing.
Because you don't have the ability to do a big thing.
And you won't be able to do a small thing.
So, speaking.
People learn to speak English these days. I say, learn,
don't speak. People comment, don't learn, speak. What is
there to speak?
God has given us free speech.
The government has not put any text.
Say anything.
No, you have to learn what you have to say.
And if you learn what you have to say, you will become a
communication coach. So, learn anything.
If you learn, whatever you learn, will move forward.
In between, if your caste is coming, then remove it. If
your age is becoming a hindrance, then separate it. If your
school, college, certificate, degree is coming in between,
then separate it too.
Don't go to learn.
There is no need.
If you feel, as Guruji says, education, manners, society,
labels teach you something.
Is that going to make your work work?
If it is going to work, then why are you unemployed even
after passing BA?
Why can't you feed yourself?
What is the use of that education that even after studying
for so many years, you couldn't earn enough to feed
yourself?
If you want to take it, then take it.
I am not telling you not to go to college.
But with this, at least learn something.
If that degree, that age, that caste, if there is a
hindrance in your learning, then remove it.
Because if you don't learn, you cannot move forward.
You cannot be successful.
I have already said, if you want to be successful, first is
learning attitude, which is my first book.
And second, this thought that you can do.
You can do.
This thought is also very important.
Because if you don't have this thought, then many times the
knowledge you have learned becomes useless. Second, learn
to recognize opportunities.
Learn.
I am talking about learning to recognize opportunities.
Which opportunity is beneficial for you?
Which is harmful for you?
It is important.
Grab the one that is beneficial for you.
Grab it.
Move forward.
A boy gets an offer.
He is a young candidate.
A girl who has good wealth.
She is the only daughter of her parents.
She likes him a lot.
She wants to marry him.
The boy is from a middle class family.
But she likes him.
He is a good person.
As soon as she marries him, she will have a lot of wealth.
If you are not ready to get married to a Punjabi girl, then
why did you get married to a Punjabi girl from a different
caste?
Now the question is, have you taken a CA degree?
Or have you learnt something from it?
If you have learnt, if you have developed a good thinking,
then you will not get stuck in that caste, you will break
it, you will come out of it.
You will come out of it and you will grab that opportunity.
You will grab that opportunity.
And I am telling you a particular example.
That CA grabbed that opportunity.
You will think that I will go out of the caste.
The society, my relatives will throw me out.
All these things are coming to you.
If they don't come, then anyway all people will leave you.
If they don't come, then no one will come to give.
And believe me, how are you going to become successful?
It's not matter.
The matter is, are you successful or not? If you are
successful, anyhow, then all your friends and relatives
will come to you sooner or later.
And only if you follow the principles,
then one by one, all your friends and relatives will leave
you.
Because you will never be successful.
That's why no one is going to ask you.
That's why in both the situations, you don't need to think
about anyone else.
Come out of your limitations.
Come out of your age, caste.
And I am not that educated.
If you are not, then become one now.
If you feel that you should update yourself,
you should upgrade yourself,
then do it now.
Who has stopped you?
Do it now. Upgrade yourself.
Develop your skills.
According to the demand.
Yes.
I am talking about learning according to the demand.
I am talking about learning the details of making gulgappas
or momos.
Not the degree of college,
which you get by scoring rounds and getting certificates.
Understand it in detail.
I am saying that if you learn to make momos in detail,
then you can do something different.
Of course.
Today, those who make momos, gulgappas, samosas, pakoras,
they are earning better.
They are living a better life.
Because they are not thinking about their caste, age,
nor are they thinking about education.
They know their work.
They know how to do their work.
And just they are doing,
and they are better successful.
They are better successful than an educated.
I won't say educated.
Qualified.
The person who is having qualification, certificate.
If he is educated, then he will learn.
Education did not teach us to tie at an early age.
In reality, education means to be educated.
To acquire knowledge in a particular field.
To do something good in any field.
We are not able to do that.
What I mean to say is that
on the path of being successful,
whether it is your age barrier, whether it is your caste
barrier,
whether it is your special education barrier,
get rid of it.
What is success anyway?
When you are on the path of success,
whatever hurdles are coming in between,
by removing them, you have reached your target.
Then you are successful.
Those hurdles can be your age.
Whether you are young or old.
Your thinking that I am young, I can't do this.
Or I am old, I can't do this.
I am not from this caste, so I can't do this.
Or I am from this caste, so I should not do this.
I don't have the ability to do this.
I can't do this.
I am saying that whatever hurdles, whatever negative
thinking,
whatever thinking,
such a thing comes to your mind that I can't do this,
get rid of that thinking.
Age comes to mind.
Age is not a matter.
Age is just a number.
I can do.
Whether it is less or more.
Gender is not a matter.
I can do.
Whatever thinking does not allow you to do anything,
whatever things do not allow you to make such thinking,
get rid of those things.
Get rid of those things.
If you keep those things with you,
if you keep them with you,
then your thinking will not develop.
And then you will not be able to do anything in reality.
And the society,
sometimes the society also
does not allow you to get out of the circle.
The society that you do not want to do anything by thinking,
you think that you are respecting them,
if you are not successful,
that society will also leave you one day.
It will leave you.
And
if without caring for them,
you change your thinking and go on the path of success,
then all people,
today or tomorrow,
success is that magnet
that pulls everyone towards you.
Be successful once.
Until then,
it is said,
walk on the path of success.
Do not stop until you achieve that target.
You do not reach your goal.
And whatever obstacles,
barriers,
are coming in that path,
which you do not want to face,
you do not want to face,
you do not want to face, You have to think whether you want
to be successful or not.
If you want to be successful, you have to overcome these
barriers.
One day you will be successful.
You have to change your thinking.
If you want to be successful, you have to change your
thinking.
If you want to be successful, you have to change your
thinking.
If you want to be successful, you have to change your
thinking.
If you want to be successful, you have to change your
thinking.
If you want to be successful, you have to change your
thinking.
If you want to be successful, you have to change your
thinking.
If you want to be successful, you have to change your
thinking.
If you want to be successful, you have to change your
thinking.