Hello everybody, good afternoon to all of you.
This is Vineet Gautam, your trainer, your coach and today
in the corporate training section, so far actually
discussed about the various points
of communication part, management part, project management
part, leadership part,
performance, five points I have discussed here.
And one by one, we have discussed different points of those
five points.
Before that, in communication,
the major parts of communication that we have discussed,
I have explained their parts to you, what are they and how
can you do it.
Like in communication, we have discussed non-verbal
communication in an explained way.
Then I have talked about the importance of it.
Then we have talked about listening.
Then we have talked about what are the listening skills.
Then seven types of
listening that can change your life. I have discussed a
very important topic with you.
And one by one, we have explained everything.
Then we have talked about writing skills, what is the
importance of the writing.
And
ten benefits of writing, we have talked about the benefits
of writing.
And then we have talked about active listening.
What is active listening? And four types of
listening, I have talked about that. These are very
important, crucial topics.
You want to do these all things.
When we will do in the activity section, we will show you
practically
what is their importance. Now, as much as you can
understand, that would be better for you.
But, when we arrange a workshop, there you can learn.
These all things are really the
life-changing programs actually. You can get your life
changed through 60 degree.
Through 60 degree, you can get your life changed through
these training sessions. Through these training sessions,
you know, that training is the important for the lifetime.
And through these training sessions, you are getting your
life changing programs exactly.
So, we have told you about the types of listening.
These are the same types that are going on.
And then
emotional intelligence, which is a major part.
Either you are talking socially,
personally, or maybe officially.
Why is it discussed officially? Mostly, we don't care about
the social and the personal level.
But, these all things are really come as much more
required, important for official life.
So much social and personal is also required, but we don't
care.
Here, we are talking about the emotional skills.
What are they? How are they important? And what is their
importance?
We have talked about this in details.
One by one, effective communication skills. I have told you
all the details.
Self-regulation, the seven parts of emotional skills.
Five components of EQ that boost leadership skills.
To boost the leadership skills, the first five components
are emotional quotient or emotional
intelligence, empathy, social skills, self-awareness,
self-regulation, and
motivation. These five points, we have discussed one by one.
Already, we have discussed about self-motivation and seven
strategies to develop your self-motivation.
We discussed about these things. These all things are
available here.
You will also get the contents, but whenever you are going
to conduct a training session,
practically, there we are going to train you on the
activity-based. You can come to know the importance of this
thing exactly.
And today, here I am talking about the
confidence.
Confidence, we have talked about it, but we have not
explained it further.
And today onwards, in my coming videos, I am going to
explain these points.
The five points that we have discussed in the corporate
training,
from that, your communication,
your management, performance, leadership, and project
management.
Five points, we discussed.
The first point that we explained to you,
the importance of communication and listening, we have
talked about emotional intelligence. I am talking about its
parts.
And now, the major part of communication is confidence.
Confidence.
See, we have given a picture.
It is written, I can't. We have cut it and said, I can't,
not I can, I can.
Yes, this is the confidence. Confidence means feeling sure
of yourself and your abilities.
What is confidence? Feeling sure of yourself and your
abilities.
You have faith in your own
abilities.
That is your confidence.
Not in an arrogant way, not in an arrogant way,
but in a realistic secure way.
If you are arrogant, then it becomes overconfidence.
See, I can do this work. This is confidence. But I can only
do this work.
This is your arrogance, which we call overconfidence.
Why can't you do only? Others can also, but you can also
do. This is your confidence.
And this much is enough for you. You must be confident that
you can do.
You don't say that only you can do. If you are saying only
you can do, means you are overconfident.
And this is called arrogance. Arrogance is not okay.
Not in an arrogant way, but in a realistic secure way.
Confidence isn't about feeling superior to others.
Confidence means not feeling superior to others.
It's a quite inner knowledge that you are capable.
You have inner knowledge, you have feeling, you have
capabilities, that you know, you are capable, you have
normal knowledge and you have trust in it.
Many times what happens is that you have knowledge, you
have capability, but you don't trust upon yourself.
And that is called low confidence.
Confidence means you have knowledge and you have trust in
it.
That is your confidence and that confidence is good.
You are smart, but you don't believe that you are smart.
You are smart and you believe that you are smart.
If I am smart, then this is your overconfidence.
I am a trainer, I am a good trainer, I know it, but I am
the best trainer, I am the best.
There is no one like me. This is my overconfidence.
So, I don't think so.
I don't think like this and thinking like this is your
overconfidence.
There is a layer, a boundary, there is confidence on this
side and when you cross that boundary, then it becomes
overconfidence.
Or when you step back from that, then it becomes low
confidence.
I am smart. Confidence.
No, no, I am very bad, I look very bad.
This will be your low confidence.
And you say, I am smart, there is no one like me.
This is your overconfidence.
This is called arrogance and that's not good.
That's not good.
So, it's a quite inner knowledge that you are capable.
You know that you are capable and you believe in it.
Confident people feel secure rather than insecure.
Confident people feel secure at the place of insecure.
Whatever the inner confidence, whatever the knowledge you
have.
Opposite of confidence is fear.
When do you feel insecure?
Insecure means you are scared.
It is said that not having knowledge scares you.
It scares you.
When you work in an office and a project comes in front of
you, if you don't know anything about it, then you become
insecure, scared.
You don't know how to do it.
Are you worried?
Why? Because you don't have the adequate knowledge.
You don't have sufficient knowledge.
If you have, then you are happily accepting it and moving
ahead as a challenge.
and you will get better response so get the knowledge
because you are insecure without knowledge and it makes
your confidence down you should update yourself upgrade
yourself upskill yourself you should wear better dress
sense don't wear good dresses
dress sense look, dress with sense is always there dress is
nothing like better wear with sense which suits you in
whichever the dress you are feeling comfortable you will be
better look your look will be better or in whichever the
dress you are looking
better that is the best dress for you so dress with sense
is used what is updated in today's date is fine but it is
not necessary to follow it 100% it suits you in whichever
the dress you look better that is your best dress choose
dress with sense and
then in that dress you dress up yourself and feel confident
because you are not insecure you are looking good and when
you look good in your own eyes then the world also says
good to you if you don't like yourself if you don't like
yourself then don't
expect others to like you if you don't like yourself how
can you expect from others that others should like you if
you don't respect yourself how can you expect from others
that others should respect you when you don't like yourself
when you don't like
yourself then how can you expect from others that others
should like you there is something in you with which you
can honestly assess yourself and say that there is
something in me with which I like myself then others will
see those things you will see
confidence in your eyes you will look better you will
communicate better your dressing is better when you get
ready from home and look yourself in the mirror first of
all you look yourself in the mirror and say to yourself
that you are looking better
no one else says you say to yourself that you are looking
better and when you come out of others you also expect not
only with your tongue but also with your eyes they
appreciate you that yes you are looking better then what
happens this is a process
you say to yourself with courage that you did something new
and you are saying that I am right and then others are
going to support you and you are getting the appreciation
and appreciation always boosts the confidence appreciation
always boosts your
confidence
Confidence is something which is not visible has anyone
seen it? what color is confidence? red or green? red,
green, blue, white what color is confidence? has anyone
seen it? no one has seen it but confidence is in everything
confidence is in your body
language in your moving style in your sitting style in your
second eye contact in your dress sense in your
communication it is in everyone it is in everyone if your
moving style is confident then it is visible to the world
if you are feeling confident
in your dress then you look confident you are comfortable
you know that you have worn the dress according to the
fashion but you are not comfortable sometimes you are
pulling from here sometimes from there and you look worried
and the dress in which you
look worried how can you be confident in that? it is said
that never wear a dress and go to such occasions where you
want to show yourself better the dress in which you are
comfortable if you have brought a new dress then put it on
and check it then wear
it and go there and you will see that you are worried there
it is said that never buy a new pen and take it from the
shop use the tested pen use the pen on which your hand is
set and you know your writing use that old is always gold
never buy a new pen
don't take it immediately this confidence will make your
morale down instead of boosting
I am talking on the topic while communicating select the
right word select the right sentence what to talk when to
talk how to talk how much to talk what to talk make a draft
before talking make a draft what you want to talk to
someone don't start immediately
sometimes you start immediately and you are not able to
talk what you want to talk you talk something else and then
you get frustrated that I wanted to talk this but I
couldn't say that so first make a draft you send someone
whatsapp send mail you type
immediately and don't send make a draft go through it and
then select the right word which is not right replace it
and then after proper drafting send it your image will be
good and then when you get appreciation what do you say he
talks very well your
confidence increased because appreciation always boosts
confidence
when you are dressing
I will tell you a trick of top level fashion designer that
after complete dressing
after complete dressing in final touch whatever you can
remove from it you remove it
whatever you can remove and that day and that dress will be
best for you you try this and see the tips it will work yes
so your dressing body language eye contact face expression
from every angle your confidence communication when you
second someone that's
when you know how much confidence you have if someone walks
away he didn't say anything but his walk tells you how
confident he is
you know when you introduce yourself to someone who are you
it's a different thing that the other person knows but
without introducing if the other person looks at you and
says
I don't know who he is but there is something special there
is something special so understand that there is something
special there is something special and this thing doesn't
come out from someone's mouth he assesses many things and
then says whether
it's your eye contact dress sense moving style
communication style standing style sitting style everyone
has their own style and that style is called non-verbal
communication non-verbal communication is a major part of
communication in which we don't
use words in that your dress sense, body language eye
contact, face expression gesture, posture sitting style
moving style all these things are noted and one more thing
very important if someone is speaking speaking and if you
are a listener listening
and other than verbal non-verbal communication which I just
talked about if you are missing this then you are missing
60% of communication because 60% of communication we do in
non-verbal way and another important thing you must have
heard the first impression
is the last impression have you ever thought if first
impression is the last impression then it should be made
better and if it is made better then how does it become
better so let me tell you that first impression whenever
you meet someone listen carefully
whenever you meet someone First impression is assessed in
the first 4 seconds and in that 4 seconds you haven't said
anything even you didn't use a single word till now you
haven't used a single word so you yourself think that on
what basis your first
impression was assessed your first impression is going to
be assessed on the basis of your non-verbal communication
which we call eye contact your hair style, your moving
style, your dress sense, your face expression, your
gesture, posture all these things
give your first impression so if you want your first
impression to be better so you have to take care about
these things and confidence goes from here see, confidence
is when you are ready to go and no one is saying anything
but is looking at you and
only wow is coming out of your expression wow, you didn't
say anything you judge the expression everyone knows this
psychology everyone knows it, a little bit so you start
feeling confident and your friends say the same let me tell
you one thing everyone
likes appreciation even you like it so learn to appreciate
others learn to share what you like if you share the one
who gained from you is giving to others so that thing will
come back to you this world is round if you have done
something bad to someone
so that badness will come back to you this is also a fact
similarly, if you have done something good to someone so
that thing will also come back to you
so appreciation is also a good thing if you are expecting
appreciation from anybody else why don't you are improving
your habit to appreciate others through this you can also
become a good leader leader means not political leader you
can be a leading
personality in your group everyone wants to meet a cheerful
person who appreciates everyone wants to make friendship he
knows that he appreciates so when he is ready to meet
someone he will find that person or he will find that
person who appreciates
and speaks good words because that boosts his confidence
and if you have a cheerful personality appreciation people
are also cheerful and everyone wants to meet cheerful
personalities sometimes there is tension so you talk to them
it changes the mood isn't it?
I am not talking about any other world
I am talking about this world only so here actually I am
talking about the confidence how to get confidence because
this confidence is going to give the miracle change the 360
degree change in your result in your outcome in your goal
achievement process
in your performance your confidence can make a 360 degree
change so you can understand the importance of this
confidence whatever you are wherever you are whatever you
are doing if you want to give your 100% performance then
you are in need to be confident
about your activity about your action about your words
communication face expression eye contact dress sense
presentation public speaking all these things now you will
say that confidence is not visible anywhere it is never
visible
I said that confidence is red, blue, green, white no one
knows but it is there it is there in everything and you
also know this you also know this that confidence is
everywhere air is there air is but we have never seen but
we know that air is our life
air is air is our life but have you ever seen never seen in
the same way confidence is never seen but it is everywhere
it is in everything it is in everything and this is inbuilt
inbuilt is our sense it is our sense which God has created
and put in us
inbuilt personality
I told you that
I was discussing in personality section that there are two
types of personality we mostly talk about one we always
talk about personality development development is the
second part first part is the personality discover what is
discover? when you take
mobile then in mobile there are some inbuilt functions
already there and many times we don't know about those
functions so first you discover those functions right?
after that whatever extra you want you develop it download
the app from outside in the
same way there are many inbuilt functions in us we don't
know for that you discuss with your friends discuss with
your parents discuss with your relatives or else mind
coach, life coach soft skill trainer because we are
specially going to take care we
can give you the idea we can help you to find the best of
you we can help you to assess the real potential of
yourself what is the real power in you maybe you don't know
we can help you to get those all things which is inside
lying lying because it is
lying all those talents are getting wasted you don't know
for example, you are looking for something very important
you don't know that it is getting wasted for which you are
looking for it from outside you want to develop it you
don't know that it is
in your storeroom in the same way you have many potentials
which you don't know about but in our training process
through our training we can help you to assess the real
potential of you you can be the best version of you you can
find your best we are
going to help you to get the best of you through our
training session and there the same person is going to feel
different from day onwards he starts feeling different tell
me a small thing you say non-verbal communication,
hairstyle girls have it you
see, the ponytail is coming very tight means that
confidence is missing somewhere you see with open hair and
waving like this of course, that is showing the confidence
yes these are all symbols there are many symbols in every
activity you are going with
your eyes down you can understand how confident you are and
you are looking at yes sadder yes I told you not to be over
confident you should not show arrogance but you should have
the attitude attitude I tell you you are getting the
certificate that you
have done in school or college the value of those
certificates is just 15% 15% I am talking about 85%
important part is your attitude they say a person has a lot
of attitude we say from behind that he has a lot of
attitude but from inside he has a lot
of attitude because everyone likes attitude he speaks that
is why he has attitude he does not even look he does not
even look what kind of a person he is
So attitude
Attitude is really so much precious in the compare of your
certificate and qualifications
If you don't have attitude and if it is missing then you
can take a job
But you will not get the right profile and right package of
the job
If you want to get the right profile and right package in
your job
Then you need to have attitude
Attitude is not important
Attitude is the upper part of your confidence
And where will the confidence come from? I told you that
opposite of confidence is fear and insecurity
And why insecurity? Because there is no knowledge
So if you want confidence then gain knowledge
Your knowledge, your experience will give you the confidence
I will tell you a simple example You drive a car
If you don't know how to drive properly
You will be scared
You will be scared before going on the road
What if there is an accident?
You are scared because you don't have proper knowledge
But if you have proper knowledge, then you don't have to
worry.
You know, those who don't have proper knowledge of driving,
they think, which road should I take, where I will get open
space, where I won't get stuck in the crowd, where there is
no tension.
They are thinking all this because of insecurity, because
they don't have knowledge.
But if you have the confidence, if you have proper
knowledge that I drive, I am experienced, then you don't
have tension, you are feeling confident.
In the same way, in every work, proper knowledge,
experience is going to give you the confidence.
And this confidence gives you an attitude.
There is a positive part.
You can say that there is a fragrance.
When you smell, the fragrance spreads.
Similarly, the fragrance of confidence spreads.
As they say, our positive body has a vibes of confidence.
Vibes, which comes out of us.
And if you stay close to a confident person, then gradually
you will also become confident.
Your society affects you.
If you stay close to a confident person, if your friend is
confident in your company, then gradually you will also
become confident.
And if you are staying with an arrogant person, then you
will also become arrogant gradually.
If you stay with a low-confidence person, then he will not
let you take any risk.
There is a useless tension, useless mess, wasting money.
And his training,
Nothing happens with training.
Nothing happens.
You stay there.
And the confident candidate, is not made confident, it is
spent for that.
To look good, go to a beauty parlour.
Look at the girls.
You must have seen them normally.
And on the day of the party, when they come from the beauty
parlour, dressed up, then even you start thinking,
I have seen this girl somewhere.
Not you, she meets you in the office every day.
Today she is totally changed.
Yes.
So that confidence, and she is getting confidence, she is
smiling, wow, I am looking so good today.
But, did that confidence come for free?
You spent on that, new dress, you spent on beauty parlour.
Similarly, you upskill yourself, develop new skills, from
where you are getting confidence, you will have to spend on
that also, on training.
You will have to spend on training.
And, it is said that your money and your labour, never goes
to waste.
You have learnt some knowledge, if the new thing you
learnt, that will be never in vain. It will never go to
waste.
That will pay you one day.
Anywhere, anytime, anything can happen.
You will get the response from anywhere.
You keep working hard, keep learning, keep updating
yourself, keep upgrading.
Gain confidence.
Confidence comes in many ways.
In many ways, you will gain, in many varieties of things,
you have to improve in yourself.
And, the same person, is absolutely going to be changed.
And that can be done, through the training process.
Training.
You go to the same person, lean and thin. For example, you
joined the gym, joined the slimming centre, in 6 months, in
one year, you have changed your body.
What?
Of course, you will be confident.
You will feel confident.
Of course.
And, when you feel confident, others will feel confident.
See, you always start.
You always start.
You have to take a single step.
When you look at yourself, you are saying that, you are
looking good, fit.
You are looking fit.
And when that fitness shines through your eyes, others also
start seeing that.
Others also start seeing that.
You must be thinking, that you are looking good.
Others say to you,
No, no.
First, you say to yourself, that you are looking good.
You are looking confident.
You are good.
Whatever talent you have,
I have said, that confidence means, feeling sure of
yourself, and your abilities. You are sure of yourself, and
your abilities. That is your confidence.
So, when did you become sure of your abilities?
First, you became sure.
When you are sure, in the interview, you were asked, will
you be able to do this? Yes, sir. I will do it.
You assured the other person, that you will do it.
But, before that assurance, you became sure yourself.
Until you are sure, that you will do it, how will you
assure the other person? Until you feel confident, those
vibes, sometimes they are said, sometimes they are
expressed.
Non-verbal communication.
So, the other person feels, that he is confident.
She is confident.
She is good.
She is better dressed.
All these things, you give from your side.
You are dressed well, but you look worried.
If you look worried, no one will say anything good to you.
You will have to feel better first.
So, mainly actually, we are talking about the importance of
the confidence, and this is the part of each and everything.
Every activity, actions, presentation, project, public
speaking, wherever you do anything, your walking, walking,
speaking, sitting, getting up, seeing, listening,
narrating, there is confidence in everything.
There is confidence in everything.
There should be an action.
There should be a way.
And that is the confidence.
You must feel, you must develop in yourself, if you want to
get yourself changed totally.
And that you can do.
The title of my book is,
You Can Do on Life Skills.
And I am saying,
I am damn sure, if you have decided, that you can do, then
no one can stop you.
But if you have decided, that I can't, then no one can make
you do. So, you have to decide, whether you can do it or
not.
If yes, then yes, and if no, then no one can say yes.
Because, you have to do the work.
So, say yourself, that you can do.
Whatever you want to achieve, you can achieve.
Then the world will come with you.
The world will come with you, when you move forward, in
good and bad.
If you don't take a step, then no one is going to come with
you.
Someone says,
God helps those who help themselves.
God helps those, who help themselves.
God is a later thing.
Society helps those, who help themselves.
Your friends are with you, in public.
If suddenly, there is a problem, a fourth or fifth person,
comes and misbehaves with you, if you oppose him, then your
friends will support you.
But, when you are alone, you are alone.
The style of high is everything in it.
There is a simple word HI-High.
But the style in which it was high, the way it was
pronounced, the expression, the eye contact, the hand, the
body language, all these things together increase the value
of that high so much that sometimes this high becomes
memorable.
Why God, what a high it was!
Some people's high makes you sleep, some people's high,
which you can call first impression.
First impression, wherever you are going to give a
presentation, your first impression is like this,
Wow, what a presentation, what an entry!
Yes! So you present every activity as a presentation.
Don't do the work, don't finish it.
If you are leaving the house, you can do anything.
No! Do something better, do some matching. Always you try
to do your each and every work in a performed way.
You try to perform, don't try to complete or finish the
work.
Try to perform.
When you give your best, until you give your best, how can
you expect the best result?
So if you want to get the best result for you, always try
to give your best.
If you are giving your best, you deserve to get the best.
You will get, you will get, be sure about that.
But before that, don't forget to give your best.
And be sure you can do.
You can do.
Just try and do.
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