Hello everybody, good evening to all of you.
This is Vineet Gautam your coach your trainer
Motivational speaker
Corporate trainer
Certified mind coach and life coach and today actually I'm
talking about
the success blueprint success blueprint series can that
May have to bark at our
learn to grow
Up cooks see K basic cheejo ki baat kara over all
successful hone ki liye
success mantra kya hai
Jisme sirf me professional ki baat nahi kara.
May baat kar raha hu
Her label ki
Chai, o personal level pe ho
Chai, social level pe ho
Chai, professional level pe ho
Profession may be up to just level pe bhi ho junior ho
CA ho, doctor ho, lawyers ho, engineers ho, managers ho,
CFO ho, CEO ho
Kuch bhi ye jo mantras hai
Success blueprint ki baatein jo main kar raha hu
The things are going to help you
everywhere Appreciation ki baat kar raha tha main
As a guardian
Aap apne bachon ko
appreciate kare
Pressure na banay unhe
Bus stop ki jarurat hai
Aap yakeen mane as a teacher trainer as a leader as a
manager
jab aap apne team members ke
Is tariqa se appreciate karte hai as a teacher jab aap apne
bachon ko appreciate karte hai
Ek star aapke liye choti si baat hoti hai
Wo bachche khus ho ke ghar jaldi jaldi aate hain, bag aise
phek ke copy nikalte hain
Parents ko dikhane ke liye
dikhe Kai parents bhi is cheez ko honor nahi karte hain
Kete hain theek hai theek hai rakho isko
Chalo days badlo khana khao yeh karo wo karo bachcha school
se jab nikla hai
To usko kitni excitement hai aadmi jab bhi jab bhi aadmi
Kuch bhi prapt karta hai
Prapt karne ke process mein jo efforts karta hai
Jisme usse girna bhi hota hai gir ke uthna bhi hota hai tab
hi jaake wo
Apne target ko achieve kar paata hai is process mein
Jab wo girta hai to uthne ki himmat
Kaha se aati hai jab usse yaad aata hai
Ki mere maa baap ke appreciation wo kitne khus ho jayenge
Galt Main dekh raha tha TV serial usme bachche 10th class
ke bachche
School ke internal paper ko leak kar lete hain
Usme ek ladki
Isliye paper leak ko support karte hain
Aur paper leti hain
Kyunki uske study proper nahi hui hain
Aur maa ne threaten kiya hai
Ki is baar tere marks agar achche nahi aaye
To main tere
Tere marks achche nahi aaye
To main tere
Marks achche nahi aaye
To main tere Samayti hai na Kahi tarah ki baate hai
Aise threatening
Bachcho ko kai baar galat raste dal deti hai
Juki achche baat Nahi hai
To achche baat kya hai
Ki aap
Apne bachcho ko appreciate karein
Maine kaha na
Ki bachche ko star mila hai
Aur wo dora dora aaya
Bag phekke copy nikalke
Dedo dadu
Aaj mere ko star mila hai 10 me se 10 marks mila hai
Kahi baar 9 me se 10 me se 9 8 mila hai 10 me se 10 marks
kahi baar mil gaye
Lekin Writing achche nahi hai To kya banta hai
As a parent main batara hu
Aap 10 me se 10 ko appreciate karein
Very good beta
Very good
Khus ho gaya Thoda jappiyan paalo yaar
Tumhara jigar ka tukra hai
Tumse nahi liptega ta kisse liptega
Dhyan rakhe
Agar tum nahi appreciate karoge
Liptaoge to kahin aur
Jagah dhundne lag jayega
Ya dhundne lag jayegi
Dost uspe mat dena
Karne tumhari hogi
As a parent
Main bhi hu as a parental coach
Aap saath mein ek baat aur bhi jod do
Bhai Mere bete ne toh bahut achcha kaam kiya 10 out of 10
mila
Lekin Mere beta toh Iss se bhi adik khushiyaar hai
Bachcha ka the real dedu
Aur aur bhi achcha kar sakta hai Kya Writing aur achchi
bana sakta hai
Tumne hain aap thodi kam hi kar di
Writing aur achchi bar sakti hai
Aur tum kar sakti ho
Kahi baar
Woh bachcha apne paper ko
Achchi writing mein likhega
Achchi writing mein Mujhe dhyan aata hai apna vaakya
Main do cheeze kahi
Ek toh teacher Star dekhe appreciate karna bilkul na bhole
Apne bachcho se kabhi
Galat baate aisi na kare
Kyunki aapki
Baate unke
Dil aur dimaag pe bahut asar karti hai
Kahi baar apne Baap se bhi adhik
Teachers ki baaton Ka asar hota hai bachchon ke dimaag pe
Toh aap apne is
Zimadaari ko
Samjhe Main as a leader as a manager Aapse bhi kehna
chahata hoon professional
Field mein
Aapke team ke juniors aapko sab kuch Maante hain
Yeh jo respect mil raha na
Uske ek zimadaari bhi hoti hai
Aap us zimadaari ko
Samjhe Bachcha karega
Juroor karega
Main ek baat kahra tha
Okay, I was finding the marker
We didn't get so I had some points in my mind, I should
have noted them down
I was talking about writing
How can you appreciate it? I still remember when I was in
9th grade
There was a Hindi teacher named Bimla ma'am, more than
20-25 years ago
I still remember it because of an appreciation
What was the result of that appreciation?
I remember
There was a test in September
In that test
In Hindi, I wrote all the answers to all the questions
Mostly, I got good marks in all the subjects.
I think it's a December test
I had passed it three months ago, I had passed it in October
But The day I showed the paper of Hindi
Because it was an internal test of 9th grade
That day, I didn't go to school for some reason
The next day, when I went to school
Most of the students were waiting for me at the gate
Because the marks I got in the Hindi paper were surprising
Mostly, I got 90-95% marks in the subjects
I only got 2 marks in Maths
But in Hindi
I only got 40 marks out of 100.
It was a surprise for everybody
I was shocked to hear it
I was very worried
When the Hindi period came, I kept the paper with me
Answer sheet, I showed it to them.
First, I appreciated it
Look, try to understand the point.
I will tell you a story now
In which you don't appreciate
You directly apply that part.
Like I just said that my child scored 10 out of 10
You appreciated it first, but the writing is bad
You showed it later.
You started commenting beforehand
That how bad the writing is.
Like it happens at home too
You have 4 good things in your diet, but you don't
appreciate it
But if one thing is bad, you directly hit it
The other person has worked so hard
The poor girl has waited
It happens sometimes
It is easy to say
Executing these things
Implementing them is as difficult
But those who execute and implement
They make a difference.
They get a difference
If you think of making a difference
But you don't do it
Then how will you get a different result?
I remember a Hindi teacher
He told me to write all the answers correctly
But what was my problem?
The writing was so bad
I wrote it because I am not blaming anyone
Because I said that if I write with a calm mind, the
writing is good
I am working with responsibility
When you do any work with responsibility
The result is good
It happens with everyone
When you do a work with care, you do it correctly
And when you don't care
You finish it like that
So the result of the work will also look like this
Then he told me
How to write correctly
Clearly I had scored in my studies
But no one told me to focus on this That's why
I didn't do it
I told you
That the thing that you don't focus on
Things will not happen on their own
You have to focus
So
This thing
Was to be taken care of
He said that you did a good job, you did a very good job
Just a little
You asked questions
That day I learned
How to
Put the question in a colored way
Put it separately
Question number
You don't have to note the question
You have to write the answer Question number this
Answer
Then when this answer
From the sketch pen
Question number 4 Answer Then you wrote the answer with
your blue pen
Then when the second question You want to write
So I left two lines
Then I wrote Question number 5 Answer Then I wrote my answer
One you
Mixed everything in one
The answer to be seen is also correct
He doesn't feel like seeing it
If you write an essay
The viewer
Doesn't want to see it
He is also in a bad mood
I want to tell you students one thing
The teacher who checks your paper
He is also a human
Suppose you are checking 50 copies
And already checked 40
So by now he must be tired His mind must be irritated
It will happen And then
Your good answer But a bad copy
Comes in front So you think
Will they feel like reading this?
Sometimes the right answer will be cut.
There is one more thing, you will not get 5 marks for neat
and clean.
And where you had to give them 1.5 marks, you gave 1 mark,
you cut 5 places like this, so 5 marks were cut.
And the second method that I told you, question number 1
wrote with a sketch pen, answer, then you gave the answer.
Then the second question came, you left a gap between the
two lines, question number 2, answer
Because if the person comes in a good mood, then it is fine,
even if he is not in a good mood, he will still look good,
listen to a good voice,
if a lady calls, girl, if a person comes in a good mood, he
will listen to the conversation.
If he is not in a good mood, he will still listen to the
conversation.
See, take it on a light note, but this is the fact.
And believe me, after listening to the Hindi ma'am, Vimla
ma'am,
I made an effort, she said, son, try, you know everything,
do it this way.
The next time, the final exam of 9th class,
in that,
the Hindi copy that I made,
in which I got the top marks from all the sections of my
class in the whole school, I think, around 85-90 marks,
there is a lot in literature.
And I am talking about 25 years ago, not today,
and not CBC,
that the marks are deliberately given by the school to make
the children's results.
That copy,
the ma'am was so happy,
appreciated so much, blessed so much,
being happy, she showed the copy to the teachers of the
other section,
she showed the copy to the principal,
she showed the copy to the students,
the first one and the second one, that this is the change,
the first journey from here to here, the children have only
completed it in two months,
this is called appreciation.
In a way,
you instruct,
but if you do it in a way,
then the result will be a must, believe me.
Like it happened here,
if you were scolded,
then you would have got the result worse than 40 marks, and
the interest in Hindi would have been over.
I will tell you another story,
when you don't perform your responsibility properly,
today, the children who are preparing for IIT NEET,
I am talking about India, they go to the quota, and there
are hundreds of committing suicides.
In the exams, they don't get good marks, the children jump
from the building, they hang themselves from the fan.
In this, to a great extent, the teachers of the school, the
parents, the teachers of the institute, the teachers of the
coaching industry, are at fault.
Because we have created direct pressure, we don't have
control over our tongue,
we don't understand our responsibilities.
They say anything.
They are parents, they are adults, they are children, they
say anything. They don't value or respect their emotions.
The same is happening in schools.
When a child becomes successful, the school says, my child
has gained success.
Parents say, my child has, the coaching institute says, my
child has, but when the child commits suicide,
no school says, my child has committed suicide.
No parents say, my child has committed suicide.
No coaching institute says, my child has committed suicide
because of my mistake.
Does anyone say that?
Then it is said that the child has committed suicide.
When a mistake happens, then the responsibility is placed
on the child.
If you had done the same thing when he was becoming
successful, then the suicide action
Before the action,
the child remembers your appreciation, remembers your
activity.
Believe me, parents listen carefully.
As a parenting coach,
I am telling you, even if the child is doing something
wrong, you explain it to him first. Appreciate him a little.
Explain him.
He should believe that he himself is regretting by doing
something wrong.
He needs to be comforted.
If he has such confidence in his parents,
that in such a situation, my parents will understand me.
I made a mistake.
I will not make such a mistake again.
So, or I will make more efforts next time.
He will not be taunted.
He will be comforted.
He will get appreciation.
For what he has got so far,
he will not take an action like committing suicide.
He will not.
Before taking that action, once he remembers your face,
your face, your appreciation, he will remember it.
Then, he will leave this idea.
Believe me.
I can give you a written guarantee that he will change his
mind.
He will not commit suicide.
But, But, we have become dictators.
He is a child.
I am spending on him.
I am feeding him, feeding him, raising him.
He is my slave.
I will have to obey whatever he says.
My master, what is the effect of my words on his emotions?
How is it affecting him?
He is not thinking.
I have made this child a machine.
I am not only a child, as a leader, as a manager, if he
behaves like this with your team, which happens many times,
you think that if he is your junior, you can say anything,
scold him, beat him, abuse him.
It does not work.
Today's generation is very energetic, smart, emotional.
Appreciate their emotions.
Respect them.
They will go far.
What happens now?
Many parents think,
If you respect someone's values too much, they might start
dancing on their heads.
This is not done.
You know, to understand the difference between these two,
it takes time.
It takes time.
If you can give that time, then you will be able to
understand the subtlety.
No.
So, why is the process of leaders?
Why is the reservation still going on?
The reservation is still going on because our leaders don't
have time to talk to their people and talk about their
development.
They don't have time to do it.
They don't have time.
After giving the reservation, they remove the cover.
Ganga Asnayan is done.
Go.
We will meet again in 5 years.
After giving this reservation, they are making them useless.
They are making them useless.
And when those useless people become officers in your
system, go to the government office, become doctors, then
those useless doctors, useless doctors, useless IAS, IPS
officers, when all these people will start sitting in the
system, then the useless
system, useless government, useless doctors, useless
doctors, who have your system in their hands, who have your
life in their hands, then suffer.
Die.
That is why there are such doctors who do the operation and
leave their gun inside.
No reservation.
There are many parents.
They are so busy in earning money, that they don't even
know which class the child is in.
I am talking about a CA.
He got him admitted in a big school.
But after that, they don't even know, maybe they didn't
even go to get him admitted, that they don't even know
which class the child is in. They don't even know.
Maharaj Ji is a CA.
I am not saying that Harsh is doing this.
But there is an example.
So appreciation is required.
You give instructions.
No one refused.
But appreciation is also important.
It is very important.
Because in reality, if you don't appreciate, They say, the
language of love and affection, even animals understand.
Even plants understand.
They say, the plant you talk to with love, play music, its
growth increases.
It remains green.
The mind training that we were taught, that you hug the
trees, appreciate them, that because of you, we have life.
Thank them.
You hug them from your heart, for 2 minutes, 5 minutes.
And in the form of that tree, you appreciate, close your
eyes.
You will see the picture of the most beautiful person in
the world.
The one who has always given you shade like that tree.
I, as a leader, as a parent, as a teacher, I want to talk
to you, that if your child, your student, your junior
employee, when he is hugging a tree, and thanking it, and
tears are coming out of his eyes, at that time, do you have
such an image, that he
sees your picture?
Your picture.
When I did this session,
I remember, that one of my friends, a class fellow, Vishal
Ratna.
Vishal Ratna,
I remember the face of my friend.
We studied together.
I don't know, why? But the reality is, that in my life, on
every good and bad decision, on ups and downs, in every
way, that person has helped me, till today.
He has done it.
He has done it with selflessness.
Don't you feel, that you should also do something, that
your student, your child, your junior employee, sees your
picture, as an inspirator. They should thank you.
They should believe, that by mistake, by mistake, by
mistake,
I will not be scolded.
I will be at peace.
I will get a shoulder, where I can express my pain.
From there,
I will get appreciation,
I will get help.
I will not be abused.
Do you have such an image, in the eyes of your children, in
the eyes of your children, as a parent?
Is such an image, as a teacher, in the minds of your
students?
Is such an image, as a manager, as a leader, in the minds
of your junior employees? It is not easy.
But if you can do this, then it is not impossible.
You can definitely do this.
If you have only one heart, then shouldn't you, make such
an effort for it?
You should, shouldn't you?
You will say, as a teacher, that in our class, many
students study.
It is said, if you have chosen the job of an army, to earn
money, If you have joined for patriotism, then you are
doing injustice with your job.
It is not a business, it is not a job, it is not a
profession.
If you don't have a feeling of patriotism, then you cannot
do that role properly.
Similarly, if you have taken a teacher's profession and you
don't have this feeling of commitment, If you have become
an accidental teacher, that you didn't get anything to do,
then you thought that I will do this work, I will do it.
Then maybe you should not expect that you will have this
kind of thinking, this kind of feeling.
But if you have become a teacher with a planned way of
thinking, It is said that a teacher needs a lot of patience.
Because only one question can be asked many times by
different children.
And you can get irritated because you have to answer the
same question again and again.
Do you have a test of patience? Because you are answering
the same question again and again, but the children who are
coming to ask, it may be the first time for them.
You may be irritated from normal life, you may have a
problem at home,
But what about the friends of those innocent children, on
whom you go and vent your anger.
This is not fair to your profession.
If you want to keep your image, which is made with great
difficulty, then you have to make big sacrifices.
You have to hide your emotions, your pain, you have to
suppress it.
As it is said, you have no character of pain, it is your
personal.
So, as a leader in professional life, manager, teacher or
parents, I would like to say to all three people, that the
result of the team may not be as good, but still you have
to make yourself a booster, keep yourself positive.
Because as a leader, as a teacher, as a parent, your
excitement, your temper, will break the morale of the team,
your child's morale, and your anger, your anger will take
away his faith from you.
If you make a mistake next time, he will not be able to
dare to share it with you, and then someone will become his
Messiah, who will tolerate him and take advantage of him.
Such boys go astray.
Such girls go astray.
And once you slip, it becomes difficult to handle.
Would you like this as a parent?
Would you like this as a teacher? Would you like this as a
leader, as a manager?
Would your junior employee do this?
Would you like this?
Think about it.
It may seem easy, but it is not.
You have to think about it very carefully.
If you can think, then think.
You have to think.
It is said that you have to scold like a prince, you have
to look down, and then hit from above.
This is the way to straighten the utensil.
You can scold your junior, students, your child, but you
have to keep your hands down, with appreciation and peace.
Otherwise, if a prince moves his hand down and hits from
above, then the utensil will break.
It will become crooked.
On one hand, you straighten it, on the other hand, it
becomes crooked. If you want to avoid doing this, then I am
not saying that you should not hit from above, but you
should keep your hands down. I will tell you a story, where
the parents hit from above,
but they forgot to hit from inside.
What was the result?
I will also tell you a story, where they kept their hands
down, but they hit from above.
What was the result?
First, I will tell you a story, in which the parents did
not hit.
A child gives the board exam.
He is a very smart child, he is a school topper.
In fact, he has topped the entire school.
He has become a district topper.
He comes home with the result.
He is the only son of his parents.
He knows that his parents will be happy to see his result.
They will give him the award.
They will celebrate.
See, to achieve any success, the process is tough.
This is something to be taken seriously.
There should not be any confusion in this.
A person still goes through the process, because when he
thinks about the good result, he gets the strength to bear
the pain of the process.
Think about it.
A mother, who has to take care of her child for 9 months,
how much pain does she have to bear? How much pain does she
have to bear? Walking, walking, getting up, sitting,
sleeping, how much pain does she have to bear? If not,
after 6-7 months, the teacher
will kick her from inside.
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9 months of pain He failed in 11th class final exam.
Was this the desire of parents?
Did they want their child to fail?
Of course not.
But it happened.
Why did it happen?
What was the problem?
I will tell you the real story later.
When the child failed in 11th class final exam, he was
counseled by a psychologist.
We do this as a mentor.
When the psychologist asked the child the whole story,
hypnotized him and took him to the school one year earlier.
The child remembered that day and said,
Today is the result day.
I am happy to be a school topper and district topper.
I am excited to see how happy my parents will be.
I will get to eat good food.
I will appreciate and celebrate.
I was excited to see this.
I told this to all my friends.
But when I came home, what was the behavior of my parents?
They simply said,
Okay, keep the result and start studying for the next class.
I felt that they have nothing to do with my success.
They are not happy.
This is all I have.
I have nothing but this.
When they are not happy with my success,
I have already said this, that a person works hard with
dedication so that he can celebrate the result with his
loved ones.
Now the child is saying, when they are not happy, they
don't want to celebrate, then why should I work hard, why
should I die all year? For whom?
Because of this thought,
he stopped working hard in the next class.
The psychologist asked the parents, did you do this?
The parents said, yes, we did.
The psychologist asked, why did you do this?
Weren't you happy with the result of your child?
Weren't you happy? Your child had become a district topper.
The parents said, yes, we were happy.
Then why did you say, Okay, keep the result and start
studying for the next class.
Why didn't you express your happiness?
Why didn't you give him a gift and celebrate?
Why didn't you appreciate him and applaud him?
Then the parents told their real thoughts, that we, husband
and wife, had made a plan among ourselves, that this is the
third exam, he did well in this, and we should appreciate
him and celebrate him, so that he doesn't get disappointed.
So that he doesn't stop studying in the next class.
11th and 12th are required classes for his career.
His career is to be completed after 11th and 12th.
That's why we did this, so that he keeps working hard, and
performs better in 11th and 12th.
So that he doesn't stop studying in the next class.
But, the way the parents thought, and the way they behaved,
the result was the opposite.
The way they behaved, so that he doesn't get arrogant, and
he doesn't stop studying in 11th.
That's why they didn't appreciate him.
They just gave him instructions.
What am I saying? The appreciation hand that was supposed
to be put down, before giving instructions from above, that
appreciation hand got missed.
They just gave instructions, and the straight hand that was
supposed to be put down, got missed.
The message went the other way.
If they had done this, that they should have appreciated
him first, hugged him, celebrated him, took him around, he
had worked hard for a year.
Then, after that, they put the love hand back, and hugged
him.
And then, next year, they would have told him about his
studies, about his future.
They would have appreciated him, that if he had become a
district topper, he has potential, he can become a state
topper, he can become a national topper.
Next year, work harder, son. We are with you.
How dare you, fail in 11th? I am telling you to take a
return.
If he does not become a state national topper in 11th or
12th.
But when?
You need to be a little more careful.
I am not saying that those parents were wrong or right.
But what was the result?
It was wrong, right?
So, we need to broaden our thinking.
We need to deepen it.
And how will this work?
I am telling you that today.
If those parents, had thought of themselves, instead of
their child, if you are going to make a view about someone,
if you are going to make your thinking about someone, if
you are going to make your thinking about someone,
Think about it once by putting yourself in his place.
You will be able to understand his point of view, his
thinking, his action, his expectation.
Then decide.
I am saying that your decision will be 99% correct.
And don't be in a hurry in this.
There is time to think about someone, to take a decision
about someone.
This is not a small task.
You can take your time.
Give yourself 2-4 examples.
If these parents had removed themselves, and put themselves
in the place of their child, and see that the one who works
hard all year and studies, and on the day of the result, if
he is happy, then what can be his thinking at that time,
what can be his
expectation, if they had thought about it by putting
themselves in his place, then they would not have behaved
so rudely.
I told you, do it.
Do the things according to the instructions.
But before that, do what I told you, appreciation,
celebration.
Then keep that other thing.
Keep your hands down, so that they don't come out of your
hands.
And when will you understand this?
When you will see yourself in his place.
So, as a leader, if you are a leader, a manager in your
company, you are a parent, you are a teacher, you are a
representative of your society, you are a leader, whatever
it is, you have to understand the emotions of your juniors,
students,
I am talking about your friends, your family, your parents,
when your children grow up, they have to understand the
emotions of their parents, as a sister of your brother,
before making any opinion about anyone, before saying
anything, before making any
decision, till yesterday your brother was like that, today
he is also married, you are also married, as a sister, you
have started feeling that your brother is no longer like
that, he has changed, if your thinking has started to be
like that, then before
making any opinion about your brother or sister, see
yourself in his place, that you are in your brother's
place, you are married, a girl from someone else's house
has come, how is she adjusting with him, you don't know
that relationship, how are you
handling it, but you have made a decision, you have made an
opinion, how is she adjusting, he comes to you, meets you,
does what he can, but you don't stop him from saying that
your brother has changed, how much do you stop him, and I
want to say the
same to those brothers, who make such an opinion about
their sister, that before making such an opinion, see
yourself in the house where your sister is married, how is
she living, how is she living her life, what is her
situation, before making any decision,
think once, what is happening to her, what is going on,
I was saying this because, whatever result comes in front
of us, the type of relationships that are around us, the
level, the bond, the strength with which the relationships
are going on, whether it is between husband and wife,
between parents and children,
between children and parents, between brother and sister,
between brother and sister, between friend and friend,
between neighbor and neighbor, or in your society, whatever
it is, all this is the result of your thinking.
The way you think, the way you behave, this is the result
of that.
Never think that, this relationship that is going on with
my sister, this is because of her.
No.
This is because of you.
And, one more thing, I am not just saying that a brother is
guilty,
I am not just saying that a friend is guilty,
I am also saying to my sister, that today your brother's
attitude, the way it is, this is because of you.
You will say, just now you were saying, to put yourself in
someone else's place and then make an opinion, then you are
saying that you are responsible.
I said, that both, when they are making an opinion about
each other, then leave your own position, and instead of
each other, if a brother puts himself in the place of his
sister, and a sister puts herself in the place of her
brother, then, the thought
that is going to come now, the relationship that will be
formed according to that, that is because of you. is a
relation can say
that
there is a reason
The details of the hospital will be visible to them.
Everything is possible.
After failing in the 10th grade, the English teacher said,
I took him and sat with him.
He was still young and was busy having fun.
I appreciated him a little.
You can do it.
You both do something.
First scold him, then appreciate him.
Then appreciate him, then scold him.
Do whatever you want.
But do it.
Make a balance.
It is very important to make a balance.
If you don't make a balance, it will be difficult.
He explained everything.
The school where you are studying,
I am a well-known Riyon teacher.
I also have my own reputation.
You are also intelligent and intelligent.
You have the ability.
You can do it.
But you are not trying.
Now, there was no education.
Now there is a board exam.
Your career depends on this.
You have to spend your life with this.
In short, instead of scolding, instead of abusing, with
love, he explained everything about himself and the world.
This is called a counselling session.
You can do it with your child.
It is not necessary that the counsellor will do the
counselling.
The psychologist will do the counselling.
You can do it.
Do it.
It is your responsibility.
It is important for you.
I don't know what clicked.
After the pre-board, in the main exam, there is a
three-month time.
In those three months, the failed student worked so hard
that he got the first division.
He said, you have the ability.
You can do it.
Now, you need to do it.
Do it.
Because now, it is a question of your career.
As a parent, running a dictatorship is not your job.
Things get worse.
In three months, the student got the first division.
In 11th, he got medical.
In 12th, he got distinction.
He got merit.
He got NIT.
From Banaras University, he got B.H.U.
He got MBBS MD.
In 10th, the student who failed in the pre-board, today, he
is an MBBS MD doctor.
Remember, when we used to go to his house to study in the
morning, he used to come in between.
The whole village used to get together.
Because he used to check up everyone for free. He used to
bring some basic medicine.
He used to distribute it.
He used to share it.
We used to be very happy to see it.
Doctor, doctor, doctor, he was much older than us.
He was 6-7 years old.
He used to tell the story.
He used to sit there and teach.
His son was very happy.
His boss was also very happy.
What is the difference?
You should decide it yourself.
In the previous story, what was the shortcoming?
In 10th, the district topper student failed in 11th.
And, in 10th, in board, in 1st division, in 12th,
distinction, and MBBS MD, what was the difference in the
role of both the parents?
This is something to think about.
And, it is very important.
I would like to stop this video here.
I think that I have succeeded in conveying my message.
I think that you must have understood what I said.
If all the people who are watching this video understand
what I said, and execute it, implement it, if any child's
life improves, if any student's life improves, if any
employee's life improves, if any manager, teacher, or
parents listen to me and bring
changes in their behavior, in their thinking, then it will
be an appreciation for me.
My video will be successful.
I will say this.
You will do this.
You will definitely do this.
And, by doing this, you will do better for yourself.
You will do better for your loved ones.
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