Ok friends, so I was talking about how can you manage the
situation or control the situation
If you want to control something or a worse situation, then
first you have to control yourself
It is not written that the one who has controlled himself
can do everything in the world
You are the boss in the office and there is a contradiction
between colleagues, there is a problem, they have fought
You also start fighting, start shouting that you will be
able to solve the problem
You are getting out of control, you are getting out of
yourself
It is not a solution to shout abuses, you will get someone
out, that is not the solution
So how to control?
Very first you need to keep patience, control yourself,
listen everybody whatever the problem they are having one
by one
Then introspect, churn out and then talk exactly
In the court, the judge listens to the hot discussions of
both the lawyers
He listens in a controlled way, quietly and calmly
In the hot discussions of both the lawyers, if the judge
gets excited and starts talking, then he cannot give a
judgement
When can he give a judgement?
When both the sides are in a controlled way
Next body problems, you can't
Because if a person is out of control, be it in anger, be
it in a scheduled way, be it time management, be it
disciplined
If you are not disciplined yourself, you cannot give a
lecture on how to be disciplined to others, you cannot make
others disciplined
Action speaks always louder than the words
Your action is always louder than your words
When will your action be better?
When you present an example with your controlled personality
And others are going to follow you
So things are made like this
I said here that you go for management interview
You make a file in a controlled way, you set that file
properly, you present it properly
And what idea did he take from that?
The person who is presenting his file in a proper way, the
person can manage the office in a proper way also
Yes, you are in a controlled way
Mostly what happens is, you make a plan for everything
That I will say this, I will say this, I will do this
According to the atmosphere there, you move away from your
plan, your control moves away from you
Whatever you are doing, you will have an opposition
Your strategy is to present yourself in a proper way
Opposition's strategy is to disable you
You should not be able to keep your words properly, you
should not be able to do your work properly
And you will be trapped in opposition's plan when you will
lose control over yourself
Your strategy will lose control over your plan
So you are trapped in their plan
Let me give you an example
There is a cricket match
The batsman is playing very well, but the bowler is upset
He is upset because he is not able to control his bowling
Because you have spoiled his control
Now he starts sledging
Do you know sledging?
It is to irritate the batsman
The batsman is also saying something
His teammates are also saying something
You are executing your strategy in a controlled way
You know how to give shots, how to hit
Now they are saying something against your strategy
Sledging, teasing, they are saying something
If you are in a controlled way
You must have seen this a lot
If you are in a controlled way
Then you will be able to answer them
You are there to play, you have to play in a proper way
But as soon as you lose control over yourself
You forget the right shot selection
You are angry and you say I can do this
You know you can't, but you still say I will do it
You know you can fight two people
But you are angry, you are out of control
They said something, so you go to fight four people
And their strategy is to come in their plan
And they will throw your wicket
Or they will beat you up
This is their plan
If you are in a controlled way
Instead of going between four people
You will leave
If you are in a cricket ground
Keep cool, keep cool
Do you know
There is a decent example of keeping control
You must have seen in the match between England and India
In which Yuvraj Singh put a six on a six ball
That also happened after a contradiction
But the person was angry
He was angry but he controlled himself
He generated his power
Mostly what happens when you are out of control
We release our power
Anger is a fire that burns itself
You burn your power, you burn your mind
You are angry but you controlled
Cool Cool
The person cooled himself
Then He said, you have teased me
I will respond in a controlled way
I will not get trapped in your strategy
I will respond according to my strategy
And then one, two, three, four, five and six
Yes The controlled way
His strategy was something else
Disable him
Trouble him
He will lose control
Then we will take out the wicket
Not just one place
It happens everywhere
You must have seen a corporate movie
In that a CEO of a big company
Has taken the strategy of his company in his laptop
Opposition company
Wants to take his strategy plan
So He can't do anything directly
But he is in a hotel somewhere
And there
He sent a girl from his side
Okay He sent a girl
And she
See again
You are on a business tour
You deal with a stranger
You don't know where you will get trapped
And he gets trapped there
And his entire plan
Opposition company took it
Took it
You lost control there
All these things are small
And they have been going on for a long time
Regime The kingdom is coming from the time of the kings,
that the one in front of us is being heavy on us, so in
this way also the justice of the world was sent to him.
I saw you in the time of saints, if many saints are doing
penance, a lot, then on top of that, the angels were sent
from Indra, that what to do with them, again the situation
was to disable the control.
That the one who is doing penance, who is doing penance in
a controlled way, and with the action done in that
controlled way, everyone is scared.
To end that action, to break in between, and for this all
activities are done.
Even then, if you are able to control yourself, such
situations come, you are a human being, you can wander, you
are walking with a very good character, such situation
comes.
You are walking with a very good image, someone offers you
a bribe, and you don't know that you are being trapped, and
you get trapped.
So, I am talking about all the way, everywhere.
You have made a strategy in the form of students, that I
have to study this much time, this much time, and you
study, you will get success.
But your friends play, and your friends who play say, why
do you keep dying, let's play.
You have removed the control from your strategy, and you
are with them.
So, if you are with them, then with the help of your
strategy, the control is over.
The control is over on yourself, that is why you went there.
So, success is also their strategy.
So, you are in such a phase, what is the phase?
In a way, we call it Jungle Raj.
In the jungle, it is said, whoever has a stick, he has a
buffalo.
Everyone keeps fighting.
It is the same here.
This is how it is for success.
We make straight plans, I will do this, I will do that, I
will do this, I will do that.
Have you ever made a plan, that if something negative
happens, how will I control the situation?
Like what happened with Modi.
Bajpayee sent Modi, that go, Gujarat's situation is out of
control, control it.
Control, again control.
And control, the situation was made in such a way, that
what is control?
The person is not able to control himself.
But the person controlled himself, controlled the
situation, came out of it.
Do you know what are the plus points these days?
In the top interviews of good labels, they don't ask what
you can do, what you have done.
They don't judge your power with this.
They don't judge your ability and efficiency.
They say, how many times have you failed?
And even in that situation, you have maintained your
control.
And how did you come out of it?
Because mostly when there is a failure, we get out of
control.
We lose our patience.
And we fall further down.
If you have maintained control, then you will see with
peace,
you are going on the road, the car has disturbed you.
You are going to a very important meeting, it has disturbed
you.
You are so angry, you don't know what the problem is.
And you are so angry, it has broken you, or else it has set
fire to you.
Is this a car?
Doesn't it support me on the spot?
Gone.
The car is gone, because you have lost control.
And will you be able to reach on time?
And will you be able to work properly?
If in a controlled way, you park the car on the side, call
the mechanic, call him later, you take the cab, leave, work.
Work will be done there.
Because once the control is over, then neither the car is
going to run properly, nor the interview is going to be
right, nor the presentation is going to be right.
Because the control is yours, and the action will be yours.
I have given you many examples.
If you are that who can control himself or herself, can do
anything in this world, who has controlled himself, then he
can do everything in this world.
We are not able to control ourselves,
so learn to do that.
Communication, presentation, communication, why do we say
skill?
As far as speaking is concerned, we speak with our tongue,
and that is exactly free, gifted by God.
And the government has not imposed any tax.
So you can say anything.
But if you say anything, then you will be trapped.
When there is a need, at that time, how much, with whom do
you have to speak, the right word, the right language,
choosing the right sentence, can you keep your speech in a
controlled way or not?
If you can keep it, and even you are keeping smiling, the
other person will listen to you, will listen to you.
So keep patience.
Because until there is no patience, there is no control,
and until there is no control, there can be no right
execution of any work.
You are people from accounts field, what do you think, you
will not have patience, there will be no control, can you
make the right calculation?
Company is going into loss, if it is going, then why is it
going?
The company is going to hell, I am tensed.
Oh, you have a job profile, you have to see, if it is in
loss, then where is it?
From where can you cut the cost?
You have to see.
You have 50 vendors, and they take 5 lakhs per month, they
take 2.5 crores, you do 10% cutting, think, plan, make a
strategy.
And when does a strategy get made?
When you are in a controlled way, when you are in a
controlled way, a strategy in a rush, never gets made,
running, running, crying, singing, shouting, does it ever
get made?
You sit quietly, ideas come only then, controlled, do
meditation and control, ideas come from there, what to do,
how to do, how to control situations, step by step you move.
Otherwise, immediate, fight or die, no, this is not the
solution.
So, you have to take the action, but you need to take the
action in a controlled way.