Hello everybody. Good evening to all of you. This is Vineet
Gautam, your trainer, your coach.
And today, I'm to talk, to share something special for you.
This is the thing, this is the need, this is the motto of
each and everybody.
This is everyone's need. This is why a person lives.
If this thing is not there in life, then life becomes
boring.
So whoever is living the life, the reason is behind this
thing, that may be in any field, any kind of it is.
What is success? Success is a self-satisfaction, you can
say.
A self-satisfaction.
We have made a motto, we have made a target, we achieve it.
We get a self-satisfaction, we get peace.
And we have given it a name, that is success.
It can be different for everybody.
It can be different for different persons.
One thing which can be a success, it can't be for that.
Because it's a feeling.
It's a feeling.
People say, there is happiness and sadness.
There is, but that's also a feeling.
That's also a feeling.
Let me tell you a small thing.
If there is only one thing that can give happiness, then
how does it become a cause of sadness for someone?
I told you, at home, a person is sleeping on a soft
mattress every day, in a cool way, in a relaxed way.
One day, you put him on a normal mattress or bed, without
AC, and put him to sleep.
Now you tell me, how will that night be for him?
A night of happiness or a night of sadness?
There is a bed in that room, the room is good, the fans are
working, the AC is not working.
There is no proper mattress on the bed.
It's okay, it's so-so.
So for that, tell me, normally, on a good mattress, on a
soft, good mattress, in a cool room, in an AC, he is used
to sleeping, for him, is that night a night of happiness or
a night of sadness?
There is no need to say.
It will be a very sad night.
He will explain it in a very terrific way.
I swear, that night was so sad.
And, the same room, the same bed, the same normal mattress,
fans, on that, you put such a person to sleep, who sleeps
on the side of the road, on the footpath.
He sleeps on the side of the road, on the footpath.
So, for him, that bed, normal mattress, and that room
without AC, where there is only a fan, if you ask him, the
next day, about his experience, what will he say?
Wow, I enjoyed sleeping.
I slept so well.
The mattress was so soft.
The fan was on.
Now tell me, what is happiness?
It's about getting, I am on the topic of success.
We can also call success happiness.
We want to get some luxury, which is our success, which we
have made a success, that this is my success.
So, happiness is success.
Success is happiness.
We are successful, we get peace, happiness provides that
thing.
So, you tell me, is this success in anything?
If in that mattress, in that bed, in that room, with the
fan on, there is happiness in reality, then why is the
first person sad?
And in the same scene, on the same mattress, bed, in the
same room, why is the second person happy?
So, success,
I was saying the same thing, success is a self-satisfaction
and it can be different for a particular person.
Second, in that, the person is getting sad.
Your target is to get 95% in the exam, and if you get 90%,
then you are not celebrating, you are getting sad.
And the person whose target is 85%, and if he gets 90%,
then he is celebrating.
90% marks are given in both the situations.
But, one person is celebrating by achieving that 90%, and
the second person is sad even after achieving that 90%.
What is success?
Self-satisfaction.
You give your effort for it, you give 100%, you are able to
achieve it, you are not able to achieve it.
Now, I want to say a small thing here.
Why is one person getting sad by achieving 90%, and the
other person is happy by achieving it?
Whatever you want to get, whatever you want to get, there
must be a target for you in your mind.
There must be a target for you in your mind, whatever you
want to get.
Whatever you want to get, there must be a target for it.
And, I am telling you this in detail,
Never share your real target with anyone.
Never share it with anyone.
Otherwise, no matter how much success you gain, you will
not be able to celebrate it.
If you
have a 90% target for yourself, then don't tell the world
the exact 90%.
You tell the world 85%, you have a 90% target for yourself,
and if you have a 90% target for yourself,
or if you want to gain 85%, then tell the world 80%, and if
you have a 90% target for yourself, see, three things have
happened.
What is it?
You want to gain 85%.
Okay? You are giving 90% effort.
Effort
and 80% target
you are disclosing
to the people.
Okay? Gain you want.
now what I have written that 85% you want to gain, you have
disclosed 80% target to the world and you have given an
effort of 90%
I am telling you that you will not be able to celebrate
success even after gaining it but you will be able to do it
in this way you will enjoy, you will move ahead, you will
be inspired and boost you will become an inspiration for
people 85% you want to gain, you have disclosed 80% target
to the world and you are giving an effort for yourself you
have given a target of 90% for yourself and you are giving
an effort according to 90% you are giving an effort
according to 90% what happens is that
are giving an effort of 90% but we are normal human beings
many times situation becomes like this, sometimes you fall
sick, sometimes there is a party of normal life there are
some functions, there are some such things, there is
weather change there are many things because of which you
are not able to give an effort of 90% continuously let me
tell you one more simple thing train is running at 120,
sometimes at 100, sometimes at 60 there is an average of 80
once it is running at 120, it does not
that you have declared that it is running at 120 what will
you do when it is running at 60 similarly, when you have
set your target sometimes you give 100%, sometimes 120%
sometimes you can give 60% similarly, you have given an
average in between you have disclosed 80% to people you
have set a real target of 85% which is for yourself but you
will give an effort of 90% because sometimes you are giving
90% but many times you will not be able to give so at least
you will adjust at 85% you will
at 85% even if you are not able to adjust at 85% still you
are in a safe zone what have you told people, 80% sometimes
you become successful you are ready to be happy in your
happiness people do not want to let you be happy you want
to enjoy your achievements but people do not let you enjoy
if you have set a target of 90% you have disclosed 90% to
the public and mostly it happens that you do not get 90% if
even 1% comes below 89% then people will not stop taunting
and will not let you enjoy now
80% to 90% gap is for you to enjoy your success how can you
enjoy your success because until you enjoy you can't move
for the next level you can't move forward and second thing
celebrate every small success celebrate every small moment
your small moment celebration will create a new big moment
for you be sure about this thing so this is how I told you
have set a target of 85% you are giving 90% effort and you
have disclosed 80% to the public if you have given 100% and
you have taken 90% then
will say wow you have set a target of 80% and you have
taken 90% but never disclose to the public that you have
set a target of 90% don't do this this is a secret if you
take 85% instead of 90% which is your target you have set a
target by the way if you are not able to give like train
speed is not always 120 if you are not able to give then
you stop at 85% then also people will say you said 80% you
took 85% you will be able to celebrate you will be able to
meet people otherwise people make
life miserable you are ready to enjoy in your limited
source but people are not allowing you to do so and we will
be able to celebrate only after meeting people and when
people will not come with you then with whom will you
celebrate with whom and when you don't celebrate you don't
get an inspiration let me tell you a story a boy in 10th
class
he gets very good marks
he gets very good marks he is a school topper but that same
boy in next class in 11th class fails fails I am telling
you the importance of celebration
I am telling you the importance of appreciation for success
it didn't happen in one day it happened in whole year but
gradually his performance in 11th gets down and finally he
fails later when psychologically he was assessed that why
did this happen a school topper in 10th class fails in 11th
class why enough of anything is bad
what happened after psychological assessment when a person
makes an effort to gain success he has a target that when I
when I gain this when I sweat he asks himself why am I
dying so much he says when I achieve this
I will celebrate with my family
I will celebrate with my friends how happy they will be how
happy my wife and kids will be how happy my parents will be
he thinks about all these things and makes an effort we get
pushed in office all day we listen to news we avoid this
because when we go home and take our wife and kids
demanding things we will be able to fulfill the demand
seeing that smile we forget all the scoldings we forget all
the tensions if no one is waiting at home with a smile we
don't feel like going home we don't
like going home so so there is always a target in the mind
that if something like this happens
I will do it so I was talking about that boy who is a
topper in 10th and failed in 11th what happened when that
topper came in 10th he came home with his marks feeling
happy that I am the only son of my parents and I am the
school's topper
I have got such a good response and success they will
celebrate me appreciate me
I will get a lot but when he went home his parents said
keep it and start studying for next class he felt that my
parents are not happy with my success
I have only my parents who else do I have and if these
people are not happy with my success then what should I do
with this success
I studied whole year with all my heart my friends kept
playing but I didn't go for getting this success and also
my parents will be happy with this success but they are not
happy and he said when they are not happy who else do I
have in this world then why should I study why should I die
why should I study giving my life studying whole night
studying whole day all my friends are playing and I keep
studying For what? For what celebration?
There is no one to celebrate with me.
I am telling you the basic mantra to gain success.
Till you don't get appreciation, till you don't have a
desire for celebration, till then a person is not able to
give 100% effort.
He can give effort but he is not able to give.
He thinks for whom?
If someone is getting ready to leave, if there is a friend,
then there is excitement in that, that when I will get
ready and leave, then he will appreciate, he will feel good.
That is why I say, for personality development, the
simplest way is, that a boy should make a girlfriend, and a
girl should make a boyfriend.
Or make a friend who appreciates you.
Definitely make one.
Even if you make your parents.
It can be any friend.
Because you get appreciation, you get inspiration, so you
put effort in your action, you change it into performance,
and then the ratio of success changes.
Now what happened?
Now the question is, he thought, if my parents are not
happy, then why should I put effort, why should I die?
And he stopped studying.
And gradually, in the next class, the topper of the
previous class, became a failure in the next class.
Became a failure.
When the psychologist, confirmed this with the parents,
that did you do this?
He said, yes, I did.
But his motive was not this.
He thought that, if we appreciate the child now, normally
we say, put it on the head.
So he should not stop studying.
So that he does not become arrogant.
He should not stop studying.
And in the next class there will be a problem.
11th and 12th are the most important classes for the career.
So we will not appreciate it now.
We will not let this success be put on the head.
He thought this.
But the thing turned upside down.
See, first you should appreciate.
The child did the homework, you dismissed him straight away.
I am saying this for the teachers, for the trainers, that
whoever you give to work, whoever is working, whatever he
did, you dismiss him straight away.
That no, nothing is good.
So don't expect better the next day.
Whatever it is, you cook food at home.
If there is a little problem, you get angry.
If there is more salt, less chili, this and that.
But the day everything is good, that day you should
appreciate.
Don't you remember?
That day you don't appreciate.
And even today, you could have said, the good things in it,
count them.
Later say, if there was less salt, it would have been
better.
It would have been better.
You checked the child's homework and dismissed him straight
away.
Wow.
You are a BPS teacher.
Very good.
But I did not say, say very good and put a full stop.
Very good.
But, I think, you can do better than this.
Teachers, please take care.
Scolding is not enough.
You did very well.
But, I think, you can do better than this.
You don't know how genius you are.
Next time, what you are expecting, the child will do it.
He will do it.
Gratitude.
Why do you forget?
You forget the importance of gratitude.
And, it applies everywhere.
Boss, in his office, to the employees, there was no
shortage, he started scolding.
And, you think, by your scolding, next time, the
performance will increase.
It will not increase.
Your image will definitely become negative in the eyes of
the employees.
That, boss always scolds.
Those people, will make you habit of listening and not
listening.
They will listen from one ear, and take it out from the
other.
Like, the parents did, with the child, their thinking was
good, but, the process, which they activated, that thing
went wrong.
The process went wrong.
When he came for the celebration, with the marks, he had to
celebrate a little, he had to enjoy a little, he would be
happy.
After that, lovingly, he would sit near him, give him a
little pat, give him healing, hug him, and then say,
Son, success, very good, you did very well.
But, you can do better than this.
This is just one step, this is not the final target.
The target is still ahead.
You have to go even further.
And, the real class is 11th and 12th.
And, do you know the biggest thing?
You can do it.
Sometimes, it is said, that you did not give one success,
talk about more burden, bring more burden.
First, appreciate it and say, that you have the power, you
have the stamina, you have the intelligence, you can do.
You can do it.
You can do better than this.
But, this appreciation will only work, when you celebrate
the first one.
Otherwise, things are not going to work.
Problem will happen, will happen and will definitely happen.
So, what is success?
I said, success is a self-satisfaction.
And, self-satisfaction does not happen by gaining success.
When we celebrate success, then we get peace.
The child is in the mother's womb.
The mother is in a lot of pain.
Various problems arise.
Carrying, sleeping, sitting, getting up, daily activities
also have problems.
On top of that, after 6 months, 7 months, 8 months, the
child keeps kicking from inside, keeps troubling.
But, the mother thinks, one, one moment of peace, that I
will become a mother.
This thought has made her appreciate all the pain.
It has boosted her, that I will become a mother.
The birth of a new child,
I will make her a mother.
The world will celebrate.
And, you think, when people have a daughter, instead of
celebrating, they start abusing her.
They kill the mother and the daughter.
What must that mother go through?
What must she go through?
This is not right.
That is why, that mother, along with her appreciation, also
thinks, yes, child, kill me, kill me.
After all, I will be your mother.
When you grow up, you get lost in your emotions, you get
lost in your dreams.
When you grow up,
I will play with you,
I will jump with you.
Today, you are hitting me.
Tomorrow, I will pull your ears.
Child, I am your mother.
And, all this good thinking, because of this, the pain of
the present, when you are making an effort to get
something, those painful moments are there.
Sweating in the heat, working continuously, enjoying
yourself, focusing on yourself, working.
Milkha Singh is running at 2 am, while the world is
sleeping.
Why? She has some targets.
She gets lost in her dreams.
I want a bandi from India.
I want milk.
There are small things as a target.
They inspire a person.
and it gets stuck in its own effort
that effort, that hope that hope that it has created if it
is removed then that effort will be finished success is
finished anyway
it will not be found when the process will not be there you
are not putting effort, then success should be there and
effort is put only till when there is a positive hope they
say hope is life
hope is life
if there is no hope
then life is finished let me give you an example
there was a gentleman he was a gentleman and he was having
a cat, he had kept a pet cat once he left for out of
station and by mistake he left his cat tied up and left by
mistake, he did not remember
a month has passed
it is an exceptional thing but you can understand what I am
saying
you think in a month how did the cat stay without eating or
drinking
in front of the cat there is a cotton there was a pile of
cotton in some place
and the way it was tied up it was at such a distance that
it could jump but it was not able to catch it
but it kept putting effort continuously and it had this hope
that the time I will get it
I will eat it all I will satisfy my hunger that cotton is
not cotton, it is ghee
you are understanding ghee
in that hope, it stayed alive for months
it is dying of hunger but there is a hope in front of it
we keep putting effort until we achieve success and
celebrate it we are lost in dreams when I will bring this
car
I will enjoy it like this, I will go for a long drive when
I will buy this bungalow we will enjoy it like this, we
will celebrate it for that I am putting effort for 12-18
hours
I am not worried about my clothes
I am not worried about food, I am not worried about sweat
why? the dreams I have those dreams have always inspired me
they have always energized me they are increasing and
increasing and we celebrate it by achieving it so that
satisfaction self-satisfaction, I said what is success? it
is a self-satisfaction if you don't get satisfaction then
success is incomplete and there is a full stop for the
future you will not put effort for the future when you
achieve a success you celebrate it
I will tell the office boss to keep small parties in the
office and definitely celebrate it with your staff first,
interpersonal skill develops bonding develops relationship
develops, team builds up and for a new target you get new
energy so don't be in a hurry to gain success celebrate it
because until you celebrate it you will not feel
self-satisfaction you are not able to digest it later
people discuss wow, it was fun they are not talking about
success they are discussing how much fun they
in the party and then the employee gets ready for a new
target with energy so be a little emotional emotional
quotient is a very important part get emotionally attached
with your employee with your students
I am talking about the teachers and trainers and the
bosses, the corporate world get emotionally attached with
your juniors don't forget to celebrate success whatever
small efforts
I am telling you if you are going to give a new big target
before disclosing it mostly give a party first to get the
mood find any excuse for celebration celebrate it and put a
big target in celebration all the employees happily to
achieve that target mentally, physically get ready they
will agree with you and not only agree, they will give
their full effort when you bring them in a relaxed mood a
little you make a marketing budget have you ever made a
celebration budget? make it make a
budget that is more important than your external marketing
you will do marketing of the product when it is ready make
a celebration budget make an appreciation budget
appreciation, celebration and then target to achieve and in
this way you are going to get a success and celebration and
then new success target for getting new success and
gradually move bonding will be formed you can make a
lifelong team bonding is not only done by work in this way
bonding will be formed you can move and in the
whatever I like to say always you all either you are a
student, teacher you are the head of the family you are the
teacher you are the admin head you are the head of your
office you are the school chairman, principal you are with
your staff you are with your juniors, colleagues, family
members you manage things like this you will feel that you
will be able to enjoy not only enjoy you will also gain
success and move forward and team will be with you and to
achieve big target it is very important
have a solid team so carry on to achieve the success in
this way satisfy yourself and move on on the long journey
of success success, success and success you can do it