Ok friends, so in the last video actually I was talking
about a very important topic in the life, small is big,
whenever you are interested to take any step towards your
future, towards your career, whatever you want to achieve,
whatever you want to be in your life, very first you have
to take a single step and single step is a major problem.
Even if we talk about public communication, public
speaking, we do not take a single step, we start hesitating
there, that I do not know what will happen, people will
laugh, by doing this we stop there, we do not move forward,
we are afraid of coming on stage, our feet start shivering
from the beginning and we miss the words, we forget what we
have prepared and things do not move forward.
There was a candidate who was afraid of coming on stage and
he felt that he cannot speak, public speaking is a very
tense thing, I am not able to do it, when you start
believing that I am not able to do it, I can't do this
thing, then no one can make you do, but we do it there
also, he does not know that he is doing it and he does it.
I said, Mr. Sharma, you do one thing, you know about
yourself, your name, where do you live, he said, why don't
I know my name? I said, you come on stage and tell me your
name, where do you live, you know the introduction has
started, you have told 2-3 lines, do not say that you are
on stage, do not give introduction, you can tell me your
name, where do you work, I do not know the name of the
company.
He has told 3 things, who are you, where are you and what
are you, where do you stay, who are you and what do you do,
he has told those 3 things, he has done the first
introduction, he does not even know.
Second time he said, Mr. Sharma, you tell me a little about
your family, he said, yes, why don't I know, I have wife
and children, what do they do, tell me a little.
Third time he said, Mr. Sharma, I think you can do one more
thing, you have been working in the company for so many
years, what do you do in the company, what kind of work do
you do in the company, tell me a little about yourself,
where do you live, you have told 2-3 lines, do not say that
you are on stage, do not give introduction, you have told 3
things, he has done the first introduction, he said, why
don't I know, I have wife and children, what do they do,
tell me a little.
Third time he said, Mr. Sharma, I think you can do one more
thing, you have been working in the company for so many
years, what do you do in the company, what kind of work do
you do in the company, he said, why don't I know, I have
been working here for 20 years, I know everything about
this place.
He said, Mr. Sharma, tell me a little about this place, do
not say, tell them, understand their problem.
And in my family, my wife, my son, my daughter, my parents,
Mr. and Mrs. and whatever they are doing, he is talking
about, then he is talking about Maruti Suzuki is a car
manufacturing company or whatever, he said 5-7 lines about
his company.
Till now he is talking about 15-20 lines, but he thinks
that I can't speak, he thinks that I can't speak.
Now, because he started feeling that they call me to speak
on stage again and again, not to speak, but to say
something, the whole public is watching, so there should be
a little dress up.
You know, when you see the public, when you face the
public, whether you like it or not, you read it in their
eyes, appreciation, whether someone speaks or not, when you
go out of the way, they tell you with their eyes that they
are appreciating you.
And that thing we know how to appreciate and we know how to
read. We all understand this normal psychology. So, he also
started feeling that people are watching, so there should
be a little dress up.
So, it means that the outer personality has started
developing through effort, and the inner personality is
naturally developing, which they don't even know when.
See, I am talking about a small step. He started by telling
his name, then he told about his family, his working place,
where he works, then he gave a little detail about his
family, and then he told a little about his organization.
So, then we said, next time, Mr. Sharma, tell me, what do
you think about this company, why are you working here? He
said, I know very well why I am working here. It is a good
company, my family runs from here, my future is also safe
here, this facility, that facility.
Then we said, one day, Mr. Sharma, today's meeting, see it,
I will come a little late. He said, I don't know how to
speak. He said, no, you do what you do, don't speak.
You tell a little about yourself, a little about the
company, and tell a little about me, okay? And then tell
that he will come a little late, till I am telling you, I
am watching the stage. He said, yes, okay, I will do it.
Now, gradually, he is getting the confidence also, because
he is feeling, 5-7-10 minutes, people are also excited, Mr.
Sharma was not able to speak a single line, today he is
able to speak 20 lines, not 20 lines, they are seeing, Mr.
Sharma has been on the stage for 10 minutes, 15 minutes.
Mr. Sharma, and do you know, what is fear? When your focus
is there, that I will not be able to speak, I have to
speak, then you take a step back, you don't focus there.
Now see, the children's hands are cut, the hands are cut,
he is not crying, but as soon as the blood was seen, he
started screaming, the focus was there, the negative focus
was there.
He said, I have to speak on the stage, he said, no, no, I
am not able to speak, I said, there is nothing to speak on
the stage, tell a few things about yourself, you know your
name, you talk about ego, he said, I don't know my name,
what are you talking about? So, gradually, he told his
name, about his family, he said, yes, I know, why don't I
know, about the company, what does the company do, why are
you there, he told all that.
And now it happened that in this company, like there is a
networking company, let's say, that you are with Vestige, I
am talking about any company, you are working there and you
are satisfied there. Now, the public sitting there, we
said, Mr. Sharma, you feel that you have been working for
so many years and you are feeling good, you are feeling
good, you are safe, you are secure, so share your feelings
with them.
Then he told people that this place is very good, the
company is good, this is a plus for me, this is what I got,
this is security, this is the future. So, in a way, he also
motivated them.
And when, after 15-20 minutes, Mr.
Sharma said, the public is clapping, appreciating, saying,
oh, you can speak very nice, you speak very well, Mr.
Sharma said, I said, when, when?
Now, today, because his focus is only on speaking, keeping
his point, I have to do public speaking, this focus is not
there, which becomes negative, creates fear in us. Now, he
spoke so well, people are saying, you motivate very well.
See, he took a small step, by telling his name, we said,
Mr. Sharma, you know your name, tell your name. See, we had
to take many steps, but by taking small steps, today a big
band was with him, that you motivate very well, means you
can be a motivator.
The person who was afraid to speak on stage, step by step,
we made him a motivator.
See, in communication skill, it does not matter which
language it is, it matters that you are able to present
yourself comfortably, as per your need or not, that may be
English, Hindi, any regional language or any international
language, any country's language.
Communication skill has nothing to do with any language, it
is the art of speaking, everyone knows it, they are afraid,
when a tag is put, that I have to speak, because of this
speaking, people are afraid, what will the public think,
how will I speak, how do I look, how do I look while
speaking.
When all these things come to mind, the mind diverts and we
saw how step by step Sharma ji, without telling that we are
going to make you a motivator, a public speaker and he did
it gradually in 5-6 steps naturally.
Now because of people's appreciation, he didn't have to
worry about what people will say. Now people are
appreciating him so that fear is gone and now he is a
comfortable public speaker.
Now because of people's appreciation for the first step, he
started preparing himself for the topic. He went to beauty
parlour, hair salon and got himself ready.
Now people are appreciating him. Girls are performing very
well everywhere.
The reason is that we boys appreciate them for free,
whether it is about their clothes, body language,
expressions or communication.
They don't say anything in this matter and we are dull, but
we appreciate them a lot and that is why they are getting
dull.
Appreciation always boosts the confidence of the partner.
When Sharma ji is not able to say something in small step,
he feels that he doesn't know how to do public speaking, he
can't do.
We gave you a proper example of small is big by diverting
them in a different way and taking single step.
He was hesitating to say a line and now he is a confident
public speaker who is able to speak for 15-20 minutes.
He was hesitating to say a line and now he is a confident
public speaker who is able to speak for 15-20 minutes.
People appreciate you for your first step and you should
present it publicly.
Sometimes you don't even know how much talent is hidden
inside you and you are sitting quietly.
When I talk about personality, you talk about powerful
personality.
You only think about personality development.
You always talk about personality development.
Before you buy a mobile, before you download a new app, you
should first find out what are the inbuilt functions in it.
Before you buy a mobile, before you download a new app, you
should first find out what are the inbuilt functions in it.
Find them, execute them and then you will know.
How? You can ask your friends.
For example, you don't know about mobile functions.
You can ask your friends.
This mobile has this function.
Similarly, it is yours.
You have this quality.
Your parents and relatives will tell you.
You can consult your trainers, mind coach, as I am a
trainer, I am a mind coach, I am a life coach.
You can consult your trainers, mind coach, as I am a
trainer, I am a mind coach, I am a life coach.
Through an assessment process, they will also tell you the
inner part of your personality that you have this plus
thing.
For example, when I was in Mumbai National Level Summit, I
came to know that people are hesitating to come on the
stage.
But if I had a mic, I could easily speak for 5-7 minutes.
Whereas, time was given for each minute.
If I tell from my side, then 5 minutes was not a big issue
for me.
Because I am habitual of doing this thing.
But after going there, I came to know the value of your 5
minutes.
The good personalities who are sitting there, they are
clapping, appreciating.
And the main trainer, the international trainer, and he is
saying.
Those sayings still enter my mind.
That one day you will become a very big speaker.
The world will remember.
You will become a world-class motivator trainer.
Yes, I got that training session.
His comments, as a compliment, still boost me.
Let me tell you another thing.
As a jury member, I was in the Speak for India program in
Delhi, SRCC, Sir Ram College of Commerce.
So, as a trainer, because I am a communication instructor,
I am a communication coach.
So, when I assessed many students, I saw many pluses and
minuses.
About which I wanted to comment.
In the end, I got the mic.
When I said 5 minutes on the stage, the students were so
happy, so many clappings were coming.
They were getting a lot of clues.
For me, it is my daily work because it is my profile.
But for them, that thing was looking so good.
From that, I am getting to know how important this thing is
and how much important I am.
You yourself don't get to know.
People tell you how important you are.
Those kids were surrounded on the stage.
Sir, give us some personal tips.
They are taking selfies.
It is difficult to get out.
There you get to know your importance.
But even I remember that day when I was in 6th class and I
was asked to speak publicly.
My hands and feet were shaking.
The same thing as Sharmaji is doing here.
But gradually things started moving.
I took a small step because I like English.
Tauji used to teach me.
And gradually it started moving.
It becomes an attraction.
Then the communication field.
Today, English training, taking a motivation session, does
a lot for me.
I forget to eat, drink and sleep.
If I am asked to take a session.
Because the energy that I see in front of me, that is so
much for me.
And people understand something new.
They are happy.
Sir, it was a pleasure to meet you.
My problem is solved.
This problem was with me for years.
Do you know how much happiness I get?
I swear, I get a lot of happiness.
So this is a very good way of public serving.
And of course, you also get things required for your
livelihood.
So I am saying, you want to be a good communicator, public
speaker.
You want to be a successful business personality.
You want to be a successful employee.
Whatever the quality of success you want to get in your
life for you.
First you have to take a small step.
You gain ideas, you also gain knowledge.
There is a lot.
But you are not able to take a single step to implement.
So that knowledge, that idea is of no use.
You keep the seed, nothing happens.
Until you put it in the ground, it will not grow.
So your idea, the seed, the seed in your mind to do
something.
Until you put it in the ground, until you sow the seeds in
the ground.
The process of becoming a plant is not going to start.
So get the confidence for you.
leave rest of the things for future and take your first
step and be confident that this small seed will be a big
plant, a big tree one day one day it will become a big
plant, a big tree your small step you have opened a small
unit it will become a big unit different branches will be
formed there will be a franchise on national level from
international level, keep your thinking big keep your
thinking big but you will take the steps single only, not
all things happen at once but you have to take
if you have a bad habit you don't go for jogging, because
of which there is weight gain weight gain is a problem it
invites you
you take single step, even if you go for jogging one day,
be brave when you will get fresh air in the morning and
when you will get variety of persons you will have a friend
and you will enjoy you will reach on the second day, third
day, fourth day now your health will improve a healthy body
keeps a healthy mind if your health is good, if you can do
extra work if you have a healthy mind and healthy mind is
having creative ideas see how the chain is joining you go
for walking, you are doing a
body healthy body keeps a healthy mind and healthy mind is
having creative ideas and when creative ideas come you have
to take it forward as a small step you take action, become
an action taker become an action taker, start implementing
become an implementer and see how your small step gets
converted into a big step as I told you, Mr.
Sharma came on stage to tell his name and gradually he
became a public speaker you can call me Mr.
Sharma because even I was scared to tell my name on stage
and today I am a trainer, public speaker, communication
coach
I am a mind coach, life coach it's my pleasure because as
you move forward there is a monetary benefit, appreciation,
interest interest keeps increasing and a career is settled
through public service it's really fun you take a single
step
I am not talking about any field in whichever field you are
interested to move ahead, you are in need to take a single
step at least you take a single step and the second step
you do it yourself when you take one step forward the
second step automatically gets ready for the next and when
you take the second step when you take one step forward and
when there is pressure on it, the second step automatically
moves forward when you enjoy the first step the second step
automatically moves forward
is how it works when you enjoy the first step then the
second step automatically moves forward without taking it,
you won't know you tell your name, where do you live then
you tell the second you tell the third, what do you do then
about the family, about the organization then why are you
there, what is your future and this is what they shared
with the public that in this company, in this organization,
your future is safe because I am safe, I have been safe
here for 15 years good life is going
future is better, present is better, past was better this
is motivation this is motivation and you don't even know
about it but you got the support of a motivator and when
you got the tag when you are appreciated you didn't do
better than you but still you got the appreciation so next
time you go better prepared you go to a party and you are
appreciated next time you go better prepared and you expect
to be appreciated you will get the appreciation you will
definitely get it you take the first
step because many things are pending for a long time
because you are not daring you are not daring to take the
single step not you, not him you want me to propose him he
is expecting or doing to propose me many things are pending
for a long time but you are not proposing
when you got the idea execute it or else someone else will
execute it and take the benefit idea will be live for a few
days execute it and one more thing if you have faith in god
some new idea is coming in your mind that idea is for your
good execute it he wants you to do this you are successful
we tell our child to do this why? because he will have a
better future he will become a better student and if he
doesn't do it we feel bad his future will be like this
similarly, when you have an idea
you don't execute it he will be upset that I am giving him
a good idea and he is not doing anything he doesn't want to
move ahead he will end his future
I am telling you
I have been focused on this field before that I started an
institute
I lost a lot because of this I got a soft skill trainer
profile because I said I will do this job from there I
started getting options when I take classes in college
I don't even know
I get so much appreciation my trained candidates gave 300
spot selections and my trained candidates
I can't believe it
HR of the company was saying these are kids they are
professionals who trained them? you can imagine our trained
final year students are getting selected on 5 profiles from
the next day the kids who didn't come to class their
management wing HOD computer wing HOD commerce wing HOD
they are getting selected
I am telling you
I am ready for the class
HOD is saying
HR pressure chairman pressure these kids are getting
selected on 5 profiles and those who are not coming to
class nothing will happen
HR of the company gave their feedback they are getting
selected on 5 profiles and those who don't know anything
why? no one can question me
I said from day 1 those who will come to class will study
and learn those who won't come won't learn
I can't run behind and I got appreciation they issued 4
certificates of top trainers that I have never done this in
college so I realized yes I am having something but I train
like this in a natural way
I like to learn it's not like I have been teaching for 20
years
I still learn
I get audio book visual good people international motivator
I always like to take something
day by day. And I like it.
I like it.
you should develop a learning attitude.
Always be in learning mode.
If you are in learning mode, you will learn new things.
And if you learn, then after that, you will execute, then
you will move ahead. You just learn, if you don't execute,
you won't move ahead.
You will be stuck in the same place.
There is no benefit of that knowledge until it is executed.
These days, we have social media.
You can make a video and upload it on YouTube.
You can make a channel and upload it.
If you have the guts, then you will start getting public
appreciation. Gradually, you start improving things.
So, if you want to move ahead, I am to say finally, take
the small step to move ahead and believe yourself that
small will be a bigger one.
Biggest one one day for you.
You will remember where did you start from?
And where have you reached today?
You can do.
This is the topic.
These are the headlines.
The name of the new book is You can do.
I am writing the book.
You can do the success blueprint.
For this, it is important to take small steps.
Convert your problems into your power.
You can do it with confidence and effort through learning
attitude.
Learning attitude.
A complete package for corporate training is my book
already.
So, you can do things.
Once you start, it will be fun.
And when you get the response, it will be fun.
This is the initial step.