Hello everybody, good evening to all of you, this is Vineet
Gautam, your trainer, your coach and today I'm going to
give you something different for your personality, an asset
for your personality, something special for you, that's in
your hand.
Sometimes you want to get something, but things are not in
your hands, you can't do anything even if you want to, the
decision is still on the other person, but I'm going to
tell you something special, in which whatever you want to
get, its action, its decision, its procedure and its result
is in your hands.
Yes, what is that?
I have put a topic, you can see behind, respect yourself if
you want to get respect from others.
The way you behave, the way you behave with yourself, the
same way people behave with you.
The way you behave with yourself, the same way your family
members behave with you and the same way your neighbours,
your friends circle and then the general people.
The way you present yourself, if you present yourself as
neglected, then everyone will neglect you, if you present
yourself as sad, then other people will also make you sad
and
you present yourself as cheerful, then the sad people will
not come to you, cheerful people will come and the sad
people will also come to you being cheerful, that brother
he is a happy person, so don't go to him being sad.
Similarly, I said one thing that respect yourself, you
respect yourself.
Just now I said that whatever you want to get, whatever you
have, people give you.
Here I am saying respect yourself if you want to get
respect from others.
If you want to get respect from others, then you respect
yourself first.
Now I said that decision is in your hands, action is in
your hands and result is also in your hands.
You want to respect yourself, so action is in your hands,
process is in your hands.
And what result do you want? You want respect for yourself
from others, then you will get it.
How?
I said, do you like yourself?
You said, no.
See, whatever you don't like, you won't care about it.
And whatever you don't care about, what will happen to it?
I don't have to tell you.
There will be some things in your house that you don't care
about.
And in what condition is it?
You can check it right now.
And there will be some things that you care about, you have
kept them neat and clean in a good place.
So, what is the condition of a careful thing? You can check
that too.
In the same way, if you are caring yourself, then how much
serious you can be, careful you can be about yourself, you
know better.
You can be.
Second,
when you respect yourself,
whether you are physical, whether you are in clothes,
what does respect mean?
You will care about your words, you will understand your
words, that is your respect.
Whatever you said, you do it.
You said, don't lie.
And you yourself are lying, which means you are not
respecting your own words.
And when you are not doing it yourself, then how can you
expect from others that they will respect your words?
No, right?
If you will respect yourself and accept your words, then
you can expect from others also and they will do.
They will also do.
But when you will not do it yourself, then other people
will also not do it.
Believe this.
That's why I am saying,
whatever it is,
many times the decision you took,
whether by mistake or whatever decision you took,
you yourself are not standing with your decision
confidently, formally,
it means you are not respecting your decision.
You are not, right?
And when you yourself are not respecting your decision,
then how can you expect from others?
And if you are doing it, then you can expect from others.
And not just expecting, when you are doing it, and believe
one more thing,
that whatever you decide, if you are doing that thing, the
result will also be positive.
And then others will also believe you.
And they will respect you.
He is a good decision taker.
He is a nice guy.
He is a cooperative guy.
You say, help others, help the needy,
and when a needy person comes in front of you, you don't
help him.
Look,
you said, help the needy, whoever is in need, you help him.
So this is your statement, and you don't respect that
statement, it means,
you are not respecting yourself.
So why will others respect you?
The thing that you don't like, you are going to present it,
so you will not be able to present it, and others will not
be able to listen to you.
In your speech, in your presentation, the congruent
presentation,
overall performance, when you are speaking, your eyes, your
body language, your mind, everything is in your support.
This is only possible when
you really believe in that thing.
Always speak the truth.
I said this as a statement, but if you don't believe in
this thing, then your eyes will not support your statement.
They are not respecting it themselves.
And when they are not getting respect, because you are not
like that, you will not do like that.
So when you will not do it yourself, then why will others
do it?
So, meant to say, whatever you want to get in your life,
whatever the change you are expecting from the society,
first be that change.
Whatever the change you are expecting from the society,
first you be that change.
Don't expect from others
the action, the first step you are to take to move forward.
wait. You can't expect from others.
First step lena means lead karna, risk lena, aur agar aap
risk nahin lete hain then you
can't expect from others to take the risk.
Loh kehte hain khud to leta nahin hain hume chala shikhane,
khud to aisa karta nahin hain hume chala batane.
So aapko aisa karna padhe ga, jab tak aap self belief nahin
karte, self respect nahin karte, self you don't like
yourself to ye saari cheeje aap dusre se nahin apne liye
gain kar sakte hain.
First aapko
khud ko respect karne padegi, khud ko like karne padega,
khud ki baaton ko pasand karna
padega, khud ko pasand karna padega, khud ke dress sense ko
pasand karna padega, khud ki communication ko pasand karna
padega.
Aap ghar se jab ready hoke nikalte hain to aayine mein
chaar angle se aap apne aap ko dekhte hain aur kehte hain
ki main achha lag raha hu,
main achhi lag rahi hu aur first jo appreciation agar aap
khud ko de rahe hain to yakeen baaniye
ki wo appreciation revert hoke din bhar aapko milne wala
hain, wo appreciation public
bhi aapko dene wali hain.
Kyunki pehli baat bhi hain na ki jis tariki ka message ya
mindset
aap banate hain ussi tarika response aapko milta hain.
If you are negative, I am not looking good, I am not
looking good, then others will also say you, yes you are
not looking good.
But if you are saying ki I am good, I am looking good, I am
not looking
good, dikhiye har koi nahi but aapke favour wale bhi bahut
saare log mil jayenge kab jab
aap apne baare mein positive hain tab.
But if you are not positive about yourself, if you are self
saying that I can't do this work, then no one can make you
do.
Agar aap khud
karein ki main yeh kaam kari nahi sakta to aap se koi nahi
karwa sakta, but aapko agar self believe hai, to aap khud
bhi wo kar sakenge aur others will help you also.
aap khud karein ki main nahi kar sakta to dusre aapki help
kyun karenge.
So I mean to say if you want to get respect from others for
yourself, very first, the first step you have to take
towards yourself, you respect yourself.
Aap apne respect karna start karein
kare, and nothing to say in this, that you can do.
You can do this, start doing and get
the response. Best of luck.