Hello everyone, good afternoon to all of you. This is
Vineet Gautam, your trainer, your coach.
And today actually I am having a very unique topic for you.
Exactly we used to do a lot of work but along with that we
spend a lot of time on others.
Thinking about others, giving them advice, free way.
Because we consider ourselves to be knowledgeable.
You know the most easiest way is what? Advising anybody.
You know why?
Because the advice that you have given, whether he does it
or not, it depends on him.
If he does it, he gets paid. If he doesn't do it, he gets
paid.
If the advice is with responsibility, like the doctor gave
the advice, if it has a negative impact, then it becomes
his responsibility, then he doesn't give the advice just
like that.
The lawyer gave the advice and if the client is going to
have a good or bad experience, if it is bad, then it
becomes his responsibility.
So he doesn't give it for free.
Consultant, financial consultant, they don't give financial
advice for free because it becomes their responsibility.
Here also actually if I am talking about something, so it
is my responsibility and that's why I am saying with
responsibility.
But mostly what we do outside, we give advice to anybody.
I am telling you a very simple but very serious thing.
Once there were two candidates, there was a girl who was
having stomach pain for 18 years.
So they, simply as you have seen outside, if no one
sneezed, then take this, if you have fever, then take this
medicine.
Everybody keeps giving advice.
So the girl was having stomach pain and she had to go to a
party in the evening.
So in the name of advice, she asked, tell me a medicine so
that I get well soon that I have to go to a party in the
evening.
So exactly you must have heard MG in medicines, which
denotes its power.
She had to give a medicine of 50 mg.
So they were young candidates.
They said, let's give her a medicine of 500 mg.
What will happen with this?
She will get well soon.
But what was the result?
Instead of getting well, due to 10 times extra power, her
blood started vomiting.
And blood vomiting, you know, anything can happen.
They took her to the hospital quickly.
Doctor asked, which medicine did you take?
She took this one.
Who told her to take such a heavy medicine?
How did she take it?
Now the answer to this, the doctor said, I will not treat
you.
Tell me, who recommended this medicine?
That day,
that advice, which you are giving without thinking, but
what was the result?
That the girl was about to die.
Why did this happen?
When you are not a doctor, it is not your job to do it.
But you did it.
There are two ways in this.
One is social benefit point of view.
Let CA give financial advice.
The doctor's advice, let the doctor give it.
Law related advice, let the lawyer give it.
Education field, training field, motivation field, that is
our job.
Because we have gained that kind of knowledge in this.
We have studied in an authorised way.
There is certification.
So we are the authorised trainer.
What we are saying, there is a responsibility in it.
And you know, responsibility is more important part.
The most serious part is, you have a responsibility.
To do the work.
I am not saying that work is small or big.
Work is work.
But the hard work of a PN, his boss, police officer, at one
time feels that he does not do this hard work.
PN feels like this at least.
But PN feels that my salary is 15,000, his salary is 75,000.
Once this happened.
There was a PN in the police department.
He was there.
So what is PN?
Means, those who are of lower level,
I am saying 4th grade officers.
He was told that the inspector is half my age.
And he does less hard work.
I do a lot of hard work.
I am very experienced.
Still his salary is 4 times more than mine.
My salary is 4 times more than his.
I complained to the inspector.
The watchman.
Again, I am not laughing at him.
Work is work.
But look, value is not of work.
Value is of responsibility.
That how responsible your work is.
That is the value.
And in that, the quality of work also increases.
If you have ever heard this story,
SP sir said, okay, I will do this.
But before that, you both give a test.
And based on that,
I will decide, that who is really capable for what.
And what should I do.
He said, do one thing.
The watchman said, yes Ram Singh.
Go to that village.
And there is a goat there.
Go and see, whose goat it is.
Is it there or not?
He goes and says, yes sir, goat is there.
And this is the owner of the goat.
So, which color is the goat?
He said,
I have not seen the goat.
He said, okay, go and see the goat's color.
When he went, he also saw the goat's color.
He said, sir, goat is black and white.
Okay.
Okay, where are the goat's children?
He said,
I don't know about the children.
He said, okay, go and find out about the children.
He said, sir, goat has four children.
Okay.
So, Ram Singh, how big are the children?
He said,
I have not seen the children.
There are just four.
I have asked everything.
He said, okay, find out how big the children are.
He said, sir, three months ago, the goat gave birth to
children.
Okay.
So, so, tell me, out of the four, how many are male goats
and how many are female goats?
He said,
I don't know.
He said, go and find out.
So, there are two male goats and two female goats.
Go and find out about them next time.
Then, did you find out about the children's color?
And, what is their health like?
He said,
I have not found that out.
He said, okay, go and find out.
Then, he found out about the children's color.
And, two of them are healthy.
One is not looking healthy.
And, one is sick.
Okay.
And, how old is this goat?
Who has it?
He said,
I don't know.
Then, he went again.
He found out that he had bought this goat from here so many
years ago.
Okay.
Where did he buy it from?
He was sent again to find out.
That means, he had to go to that village seven or eight
times.
And, in this, he was showing himself busy the whole day.
But, he took out the whole day from this goat.
So, he went to that village seven or eight times and in
this whole incident, in this report.
Then, the SP called the inspector and said, you go, there
is a goat in this village.
I want the whole report of it.
Okay.
The inspector went.
Yes, sir, the goat was bought from this village.
And, it has been with him for so many years.
He has given four children in which there are two males and
two females.
Their color is like this.
Their health is good.
Two kids are fine.
They are very strong.
One is average.
One is sick.
She has a disease.
But, they are getting treatment from this doctor.
And, they have assessed that she is very healthy.
And, the inspector submitted the whole report within an
hour.
Now, the SP asked the watchman that, the work that you have
done in the whole day, you have done it in an hour.
You tell me, your salary is four times more than the work
that you have done in an hour.
You should pay eight times more than the work that you have
done in an hour. You should pay eight If I increase their
salary, should I increase your salary or halve your salary?
The insurance company said, no sir, no sir. As much as you
have is fine.
The exactly work is okay.
Payment is of responsibility.
They say, focus on your work.
Our topic is Mind, Ear and Venous.
They say, the physical work, in which the mind is less, as
long as you are physically strong, if you go to find a
labourer, you will find a 18-20 year old man.
But if you go to find a doctor, an advisor, a lawyer, you
will find a 40-45 year old man.
Yes, he should have 15-20 years of experience.
There you will not find a 18-20 year old man.
You will find a labourer.
The physical work, when he is young, he has a lot of
experience.
But those who do mental work, those who are educated, as
their age increases, as their experience increases, their
importance increases.
And it is important for this, at the place of others,
responsibility is important.
I am talking about the importance of responsibility.
On here, the topic is,
Mind your own business.
Why am I saying this?
This is also your responsibility.
When you start advising others, like I started with advice,
that you went to advise.
It is not your job, you are not an authorised candidate.
But you went to advise, and you became someone else's life.
So at the place of that, it is better, in whichever field
you are specialised, so do that job only, and that is also
a paid job.
When you are paid, then it becomes your responsibility.
The doctor took the fees from you, so if something goes
wrong with you, then it becomes his responsibility.
The one who advised you on the way, that medicine, and it
was made on his life, it does not become his responsibility.
So, the one who is going to take the service, he should
also keep in mind, what is your real responsibility.
And the one who is going to give, at the place of
criticising others, criticising others freely, and talking
about others, gossiping, it is better to mind your own
business.
Pay attention to your own work.
If there is nothing to say, then keep quiet.
Learn something, get something, knowledge, improve
yourself, update yourself, upgrade yourself.
Meditate,
recite the name of God, chanting, do bhajan.
Whatever you can do for your betterment, you can do.
Your time is yours, your brain, your energy is yours, so
use it for yourself.
Use it for yourself, and then move ahead.
It is better to waste your time on others.
You will waste your time on others, when others will not
need you, they will not ask you.
You keep wasting your time on others, keep giving advice
freely, and you did not do anything for yourself, you did
not make yourself better, then tomorrow no one will ask you.
So at the place of this, it is better to do something
better for yourself.
Do it for yourself, move ahead, improve, mind your own
business.
It is said that it is better to do your own work, than to
interfere in others' business.
Yes.
Otherwise, when you go to give advice, people ask you to
mind your own business.
That is what we say in English, mind your own business.
Mind your own business is better for them, they feel bad
when you say it.
Why are you going to say it?
Do you have brain for no reason?
Why are you saying it?
Lawyer takes money to give advice, financial advisor takes
money to give advice, doctor does not give consultancy for
free.
So why are you going to give it for free?
You have to put your own price.
Yes, when you go to give advice with that price, then
responsibility is required for that, and for that proper
knowledge, specialization is necessary.
So do your own job, mind your own business means, focus on
your own work, in whichever field you are a specialist,
advice in that field only, that would be better for you,
and that is a secret of your success also, you will
gradually move in that field, and one day you will be very
very very much successful.
So, if you want to be successful, in whichever field you
are, it is better to mind your own business, focus on your
own work, and move ahead,
be a responsible person.
Thank you.