Hello everybody. Good evening to all of you. This is Vineet
Gautam, your trainer, your coach.
And today, today actually I am going to talk something
which we used to do daily.
Something which we used to do daily.
Complaining and Praising.
Actually, we do these two things daily.
Criticizing, Condemning or Appreciating something.
Saying something positive about anything, any activity, any
person.
Now, what I want to talk about this topic.
One thing I would like to talk, how to attract anything,
that may be any person, that may be money, that may be any
project.
How to attract money, how to attract someone.
How to attract someone towards you.
And on the other hand, how to keep someone away from you.
How to keep someone away from you.
These are the two things.
You want to keep someone away from you.
You want him to stay away from you, not to meet you, not to
come close to you.
Be it any candidate.
See, I am on the topic and you are also coming on the topic.
You do this daily. I said in the beginning that you do
these two things daily.
Everyone does.
So, if you want to attract someone, what do you do?
If you want to keep someone away from you, what do you do?
See, in many situations we understand things, but in many
situations we get confused.
Practically, when we have to do things in a professional
way, we get confused many times and there the problem
starts.
If you keep criticizing someone, listen carefully.
If you keep criticizing someone, you will lose him.
You will lose him, even if he is a person.
If you keep criticizing him, he will get away from you.
So, when you do this to someone, he will get away from you.
Now, this is a human thing.
Now, if I say something about money.
You want to attract money, but you want to keep criticizing
it.
See, if you criticize something, I said it is clear.
So, that thing will get away from you.
That person, that candidate will get away from you.
That work will get away from you.
So, if you want to attract anyone, you don't have to
criticize.
You criticize money.
Often, the poor people who have less money, they keep
criticizing the rich people.
See, the rich people kick the stomach of people like us.
They suck and eat our share.
They keep talking like this.
Then, once again, they say that you are criticizing money.
If you talk about rich people, you are criticizing money.
Many times, you say to yourself that money is a useless
thing.
The one who has it, puts it in the wrong way.
We do a lot of bad things.
We say that money is very bad.
So, if you are criticizing money again and again,
So, what did I say?
Whatever you criticize again and again,
You will lose that thing, that person,
Now, this is a negative thing.
Because we do it.
I said that we do both these things.
Second is appreciation.
If you want to attract someone towards you,
So, what should you do?
You know this too.
If you want to make someone happy, you appreciate that
person.
If you want to attract someone towards you, you appreciate
that person.
So, you know about a case.
You also appreciate that person.
I want money. Money is a very good thing.
Yes, do it.
It is said that money is fickle.
Just like,
Just like this. This is also.
So, if you want to get anything,
Then you have to do this thing.
Appreciation.
Okay? Appreciation.
And if someone criticizes you, do you condemn or criticize?
Criticize.
Okay? So, if you are appreciating anybody,
Continuously, But, enough of anything is bad.
Don't appreciate so much.
It is said that if you increase someone's value for free,
He is going to increase his value for you.
You can understand these labels.
If you appreciate him for free,
And make him reach so high,
Then he will realize that he is better than you.
And he will neglect you.
This is useless.
This is not of my level.
It happens. Sometimes it becomes heavy.
Sometimes it becomes heavy.
While appreciating,
The latest news has come,
From here.
While appreciating,
He educated his wife and made a stream.
And then madam said,
I have grown up.
He is not of my level.
Leave him.
So, that much appreciation is not required.
No, no, no.
There should be a balance in every work.
It is important to maintain a balance.
Okay.
By maintaining a balance everywhere,
When you are criticizing or appreciating someone,
You should also note his expression.
But, one thing is very much clear.
Whatever you are criticizing or condemning continuously,
That thing will go away from you.
You will lose that thing.
You will lose it.
And whatever you want to attract towards you,
You want to keep it,
Appreciate it.
Praise it.
And that thing will remain with you.
And if it is not there, it will come to you.
Whatever you want to get,
Whatever achievement you want to get for yourself,
Achievement.
You will say, how will you appreciate achievement?
You said, I want to become CA.
So, you should appreciate CA.
You should appreciate CA's profile.
It has a very good profile.
It has a very good job.
It has a very good rank.
It is a designation.
It is a profession.
You keep criticizing CA.
You keep criticizing the accounts field.
You keep criticizing the working persons in the account
field.
Then how can you attract them?
now it will be understood from someone, not from anyone
else but from Nature see nature itself can tell if object
to come to you or not or if it is with you to stay away or
it is to stay continously that you should show it to some
body or not try to hide it from someone
Your sub-iconsiest mind the nature
Your subconscious mind is God who is sitting inside you, it
is sitting inside you, it is very powerful, it is super
power.
But whatever you do, I am spiritualist, I am telling you
one thing on a very serious note.
I am telling you one thing on a very serious note.
The powers that you worship as Goddess, Goddess Kali,
Goddess Lakshmi and Goddess Sati, if you are religious, if
you believe in religion, if you are spiritual, then I am
telling you clearly, I have been associated with this for
years.
I believe in this, I have seen the result of this.
Those powers say clearly that whatever you value, you will
get it.
It will not give you anything.
It is calculated according to your deeds and you are given
things.
You are thinking that in temple, mosque, gurudwara or
church you go and prove yourself to be a devotee and in the
outside world you are doing criticism, condemning.
You do bad things to others, you keep doing bad things to
others and if you go there, it will be good for you, but it
is not going to happen.
Because you can call it a subconscious mind.
That is the super power.
You say that every human being has a God.
That God is your subconscious mind which is very powerful.
And it is seeing everything.
If you are doing something bad or good again and again,
then that thing has to fit in it.
I told you that it does not listen to you in one go.
But when it listens, when it is convinced, then it takes
action.
If you are criticizing again and again, then it will accept
it.
If you are criticizing again and again, then it has nothing
to do with it, then remove it from it.
And that thing.
You keep doing bad things for money.
You must have heard my religious story.
I don't know which story it is. I don't remember the name.
But you must have heard that someone had a lot of money.
He was worried about money.
He was worried about giving money to poor people.
That lady said, O God, make me poor.
Because of saying it again and again, that money, wealth,
property got away from him.
He became poor. He became in a very bad condition.
Similarly, if you praise someone again and again, whether
it is money or a person. I am telling you as a life coach,
I am telling you about personal life.
You do the criticism action at home.
Criticizing or praising.
I am saying small things.
You go home.
You know how to criticize.
Hey, you are looking good today.
What are you wearing?
Hey, the vegetables are very good.
Is this a vegetable?
Look, I am saying small things.
Is this cleaning? Look, you are always looking good.
Look, the way you are behaving, I am saying, if you
criticize, that thing will go away from you.
Houses break because we criticize a lot.
We have become lazy.
In everything, we have the habit of taking out shortcomings.
And because of this, the society is breaking.
The family is breaking.
The society is breaking.
No one wants to appreciate anyone.
No one wants to praise anyone.
Whether it is in the name of casteism, in the name of
religion, or something.
You are busy proving yourself great.
You are not great by your own saying.
The world says.
Earlier I was saying, in the power of the subconscious
mind, that you assume yourself great.
Assume, do activities for that.
But who gives the certificate in reality? You cannot give
the certificate to yourself.
The world gives you the certificate.
I was telling you in the last video, that you climb the
ladder of success and go.
You don't know how great you have become.
The world tells you, that you have become a great man.
Because the level at which you have climbed the ladder of
success, according to the society there, you are a normal
candidate.
You are just one of them.
If you are the owner of 100 crores, then there are people
with 110, 150, 200 crores.
Then you feel that I am a very small man.
But the 50,000 crores society, from which you have reached
100 crores, you have become a great man for them.
So who gave you the certificate of greatness? You didn't
give it.
Those people gave it.
So let the world give you the certificate.
You don't give it to yourself.
You just do the work.
Keep working.
The world will give you the certificate.
But, it is said, when there is no fruit on the tree, it
stands like an owl.
It says, don't.
Stubborn. Arrogant.
But when there is a fruit, its branches bend. They start
touching the ground.
So we can learn this thing from the tree.
That when there is a fruit, you become soft. You become
humble.
Now look at the greatness of the tree.
People hit stones, hit sticks, and as a gift, it gives them
the fruit.
As a gift, it gives them the fruit.
And, when its tail is made, the branches that are standing,
which don't give fruit, they are cut off.
The branch of sesame will be cut off.
The mango tree lives for years.
Because it gives fruit.
So if you want to maintain your importance, then become
like that mango tree.
Gain success.
Let the appreciation come from the public.
And, first of all,
I said, how will that success come?
Appreciate it.
Whatever you want to become, appreciate that profile. You
want to be a trainer.
And you are badmouthing the trainers.
These trainers are stupid, greedy, this and that.
How will you become a trainer?
You want to become a doctor, and you are badmouthing the
doctors.
These are thieves.
They keep looting.
We trouble the public.
Look, there are good and bad people.
They are in every field.
But if you want to become, if you want to attract that
thing, if you criticize it, then that thing is not going to
come to you.
Your subconscious mind understands that the super power
that it is criticizing this thing, means it does not want
this thing.
It keeps that thing away from you.
It keeps it away.
And similarly, the thing you want to get, you praise it.
You appreciate it.
Whether it is a thing, a work, anything.
You praise a car again and again. You look at it with love.
When you pass by, you look at it.
You are praising it.
It is good.
This quality, that quality.
Look, that thing, slowly, somehow, the way will be made.
That thing, that car will come to you.
You praise anyone.
Without any...
Look, one is to butter.
One is to appreciate in real.
If you butter, people will know about it.
Not buttering, appreciate in real. Then that thing, as a
response, will come to you.
Be sure about that.
So, if you want to attract anything, any person, any
profile, any kind of success, then first, appreciate it.
Appreciate it with open heart.
You are an accountant.
And you want to become a CA.
You want to go to senior level.
And you keep criticizing your seniors.
You keep criticizing CA.
You can never become a Baba.
You can never become.
Why do you have to respect them?
You have to do what you want.
Because they will keep you away. Your power, your power,
The brain which is active, which is the technical part,
which takes action will feed itself that it is simple, you
will not do the bad things which you want to do. That thing
will come to you because you will appreciate it.
And the thing which you are criticizing again and again,
criticizing, condemning, naturally you don't like that
thing and that person, that work or that thing, whatever it
is, it has to go away from you, it has to go away.
So, these things, I have already said that these things are
mostly used to do in daily life.
We always do it.
So, whatever you want to get for yourself, start
appreciating, at least start thinking positive about, that
is also a part of appreciation.
Start thinking positive about that thing, that I am a very
big trainer, national, international trainer, I am doing
good for people,
I am able to help those who are in need, I am able to solve
the problems of those who are stuck in problems.
See, whatever you want to become, you want to get, it has
to have a positive motive.
Those things will come to you gradually, they will
definitely come to you.
Believe in this thing.
And it is a simple thing that the thing which you
continuously criticize, condemn, criticize, you will lose
that thing.
Whether it is a person, whether it is a work, whether it is
a job profile.
Mostly, what happens is, the job profile you work in, you
always criticize it.
It is useless, it is a job, it is a job.
It is a job, it is a job, it is a job.
It has entered your mind, that he does not like this job,
that is why he is criticizing it, remove this job from here.
You will know that your job is gone.
That job is gone.
Yes.
So, don't do that.
Don't do.
Sometimes, unknowingly, you don't want the job to go, but
it is your habit to do this.
You say, if I praise him, it is a problem.
Because, like I said to someone, if you increase the price
of someone without asking, then you will incur a loss.
See, you have to make a balance.
You have to make a balance.
He says, enough of anything is exactly bad, you must have
the idea, the technical idea, how to make balance between
the things.
How to make balance between things?
One is confidence, the other is overconfidence, which we
call ahem.
So, if you don't make a balance, then the problem is, you
are overconfident, then the problem will be there.
If you are not confident, if you are down, then your
confidence is low, that is also negative.
So, to make a balance between things and the one who is
able to make balance, who is able to manage it, that is
called efficient.
And you will have to gain that efficiency.
That's a regular process to update and upgrade yourself.
Develop your skill, so that this thing naturally fits in
you.
So that you know, which thing you have to take to what
extent.
And be alert. Keep your body language and eye contact.
Be alert while working. Keep your mind in action.
You will know the balance of things.
Sometimes things happen by mistake even unknowingly.
So, you rectify it immediately, accept your mistake, there
is nothing wrong in accepting.
Even if you don't want to, you condemn someone by mistake,
you criticize someone, you say something wrong, then there
is nothing wrong in feeling sorry.
There is nothing wrong in feeling sorry, it only increases.
And, second thing, when someone is saying sorry, learn to
forgive.
The one who forgives always increases.
So, these are the natures of human beings, the habits, you
adapt and execute good things in yourself, for being a
better person.
And they play a very important role in the road map of
success.
If I talk about the road map of success, then criticizing
or appreciating someone, and how to execute and use your
good small habits, these all things are going to play a big
role in your success. They say, to build big buildings, you
need small bricks.
So, you can consider them small bricks.
These things are very important.
So, you must take care about these all things, step by step.
Many times, in excitement, you do things that you don't
want to do.
You repeatedly say that I will not get angry over small
things, but you do it.
So, you do something, introspect yourself, do deep
breathing, stop yourself before taking action, and if
something has happened, then condemn it.
Condemn means to criticize yourself.
It means to accept the mistake.
Acceptance is important.
See, if you criticize something repeatedly, then that thing
goes away.
So, if you condemn a wrong habit, then it will also go away
from you. And its distance is important for you.
Distance from wrong habits is important for you.
Then only you can be successful in your life.
So, if you want to get success in your life, then you must
keep distance from bad habits.
Or, criticizing, condemning again and again, it's a bad
habit.
So, keep distance from it, then only you can get success,
desired success, you can get your dream come true. So, keep
distance from the bad habits in your nature, in your life
you have.
And the way to get rid of them, is to criticize them.
When you make a mistake, say, oh, I shouldn't have said
that, I shouldn't have done that.
We do it to others, you shouldn't have done that, you
shouldn't have said that.
Do it to yourself.
If you don't like to find someone's shortcomings, then
start from yourself.
What will you get by doing it to others?
If you start from yourself, then you can improve yourself.
You can be a better personality.
A better person you can become.
Or better person, better success.
So, here's the topic.
But I said, if you want to be a better person, then keep
distance from your bad habits.
And to keep distance, accept them.
When you appreciate it, then it's a good thing.
When you criticize it, when you accept that it's wrong.
So, whatever you are, as you are, accept yourself.
If you accept, then from there, your success line starts.
Suppose, you go to a temple, there's a long line.
And seeing the long line, you don't even get in the line.
What should I do? It's very long.
For one hour, in thinking whether to get in or not, you get
out.
Because you are not able to accept that real situation. If,
you compare, one hour before, another person comes with you.
Without thinking, that real situation, which is like, yes,
there's a long line, but I also want to get in. If you get
in, then you see, in one hour, when you are wasting your
time, in one hour, because you accepted the real situation,
then on the track of success, it has gone ahead of you.
So, if you want to start your journey of success,
So, very first, you are to accept yourself as you are.
First, accept yourself as you are.
Until you accept yourself, your journey of success will not
start. You will say, if I am bad,
If you are bad, then improve it.
First, accept yourself.
Here, we don't accept ourselves.
We are here.
We assume ourselves in the air.
I am this, I am that, I am this, I am that.
You see, outside people keep lying,
I am this, I am that.
Till when are you lying?
At least, tell the truth to yourself.
If you are talking in real, your journey will start from
there.
If you are talking in air, your journey will be in air, not
in real.
I told you a very cute thing.
You are thinking in air, I am in BIPO, I can't get in line,
I am facing this problem.
You keep wasting your time.
Or accept that if there is a line, I also have to get in,
you get in.
In one hour, in your successful journey, you have gone very
far.
And if you waste one hour and get in, then the one hour
with you will look far ahead of you.
And you will go far behind.
You will waste your time.
This happens in life.
We are not able to accept ourselves.
We are not able to accept.
So accept yourself.
And utilize these two things that I have written.
If you want to criticize, do it for your shortcomings, your
shortcomings.
Because I said that the thing that is criticized, that
thing goes away from you.
So criticize your shortcomings, the shortcomings that you
have.
Accept that you are not a honest person.
You are not, you are not, you are not.
So your dishonest nature will go away from you.
I said that you have criticized again and again.
The thing that is criticized, it goes away from you.
So now you apply it on yourself.
And the thing that you appreciate, that thing comes to you,
it improves.
So do the good thing that you have.
That I am honest.
And be honest.
Be honest.
That thing will increase.
Its importance will increase.
You will get its appreciation.
And you will improve.
That thing will remain with you.
So instead of others, apply this funda on yourself.
This can be a road map for success.
For you especially.
I am talking about you.
One by one, everybody I am talking about.
You take it for yourself.
If you want to criticize, do it for yourself.
If you want to appreciate, do it for yourself.
Or if you want to appreciate, do it for others.
Criticize for yourself.
If you are looking for evil, if you are looking for evil,
then start with yourself.
Because it will be good for you.
Not for others.
Appreciate for others.
Criticize for others.
Leave the evil for others.
Learn something positive from it.
Do that.
So this is the way.
And if you want to be really successful in your life, then
use these things for you for a better way.
And it can be a real road map in the journey of your
success.
You can achieve your target.
The target, which you call success.
It can be anything.
It can be any work.
It can be anything.
You can achieve your target, which you call success,
by doing these things in a proper way.
And I used to say one thing always.
You can do.
Yes, you can do.
Yes.
Do it.